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She’s as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside” is that ok?

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CandleMug · 12/10/2025 01:04

It’s my DD’s 18th Birthday tomorrow and we have parties planned etc but of course social media being so big I will acknowledge her bday on my SM platform.

I was planning on putting the title on my post tomorrow but wanted to get your opinions first. Is that ok? She is stunning and beautiful btw, though I’d put her main attributes first, funny, loveable, beautiful personality etc…

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BusWankers · 12/10/2025 21:38

CandleMug · 12/10/2025 21:33

I do say it to her directly. It’s not the whole world, it’s my FB. Most people on it acknowledge their children’s birthdays, it’s certainly not rare.

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Bit why bother in the first place?

Would you notice if Sandra didn't post one year?

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CandleMug · 12/10/2025 21:33

Holluschickie · 12/10/2025 21:24

Of course you can say this. To me, it seems odd not to say it to your daughter directly, instead of to the whole world.

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I do say it to her directly. It’s not the whole world, it’s my FB. Most people on it acknowledge their children’s birthdays, it’s certainly not rare.

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MNLurker1345 · 12/10/2025 21:30

And, I am will add, that when I see my daughter, which I do quite regularly, and I realise that I forgot to tell her how beautiful she looked, I say to myself “oh damn…” She is a confident and compassionate human being. Let’s celebrate our daughter’s.

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CandleMug · 12/10/2025 21:28

RedLettersWin · 12/10/2025 14:00

I'm not a pedant. But if you're going to quote Shakespeare, quote him properly.😉

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And that’s you told too! @honeylulu

😂😂

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CandleMug · 12/10/2025 21:26

RightOnTheEdge · 12/10/2025 10:48

Omg what a horrible thread full of nasty, miserable comments.
Is there really any need to be such a bunch of bullies to someone asking an innocent question?

Your daughter is only 18 once OP. Write whatever you feel like. Don't say nothing and then regret it because of what some anonymous keyboard warriors on MN said.
You know your daughter and only you know if she will be embarrassed or if she will love it.

Do you really want to take the advice of smug twats who think saying
"Why dont you try saying it in real life?"
makes them sound oh so original and clever? It really doesn't.

Don't let them win and make you feel bad.

Aww thank you - I love this! Made my night reading this through all the doom and gloom.

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Holluschickie · 12/10/2025 21:24

CandleMug · 12/10/2025 20:56

This is one of the most OTT reactions on here tbh. She is stunning and beautiful, both on the inside and the out, but that doesn’t matter on here because no one knows us in real life so it’s subjective on here I admit.

I completely understand why it’s bad to focus only on physical attributes solely and I also totally get the views of posters saying she’ll be cringing to death so don’t do it, however, if you think it’s ‘bad parenting’ to say, as a mother, that your child is beautiful, then I think that is far more detrimental to your child!

If your own mother can’t say ‘you’re beautiful’ or you look lovely to give them a bit of confidence, then that’s a poor doo. Regardless of whether they believe their child is truly beautiful or not according to wider society, it will give them a little confidence boost regardless. Everyone wants to feel attractive or pretty or the like at some time, regardless of what they say!!

It’s not the most important thing no, but we’re all human after all and it’s a sorry state of affairs if you’re own mother can’t say it (for whatever reason…!)

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Of course you can say this. To me, it seems odd not to say it to your daughter directly, instead of to the whole world.

MNLurker1345 · 12/10/2025 21:23

OMG! I am exasperated! Celebrate your daughter! Put anything you want to! You, as
her mother, you are her biggest cheerleader. You can’t celebrate her enough.

I have a daughter, my only child, I cannot ….OMG….express how wonderful she is. She is kind and is as beautiful inside as she is outside.

She knows how I feel about her. She is a mother of 2 now and a wife and has a successful business. She is 32.

Yes, life has its knocks, and when that happens,
she calls me, comes over has a cry and we turn it around, have a laugh!

Don’t hold back!

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CandleMug · 12/10/2025 20:56

RedLettersWin · 12/10/2025 07:58

Stop going on about how stunning she is. You've put 2 posts about her being stunning. Whoop de whoo.
It means nothing.
Why are you wanting to make a declaration on SM about her beauty?
You sound so boastful and like you're showing her off to everyone.
"LOOK EVERYONE ON SM! MY DD IS NOT ONLY VISIBLY BEAUTIFUL TO LOOK AT, SHE'S ALSO BEAUTIFUL AS A PERSON TOO! ISN'T SHE AMAAAAAAZING! AREN'T I AMAAAAZING TOO!!!"
Man alive.
So showy.
Just say it to her 1-1 in a private moment. Write it in a personal card for only her to read.
Don't teach your DD about living life through the lens of SM and don't teach her about celebrating girls for being beautiful on SM.
Teach her about privacy. Teach her about the joy of personal moments together. Teach her about real moments in real life having so much more meaning than SM.
Teach her about the fakeness of SM and the vanity of it all.
So many wrong messages you're sending her on so many levels here.
Bad parenting.

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This is one of the most OTT reactions on here tbh. She is stunning and beautiful, both on the inside and the out, but that doesn’t matter on here because no one knows us in real life so it’s subjective on here I admit.

I completely understand why it’s bad to focus only on physical attributes solely and I also totally get the views of posters saying she’ll be cringing to death so don’t do it, however, if you think it’s ‘bad parenting’ to say, as a mother, that your child is beautiful, then I think that is far more detrimental to your child!

If your own mother can’t say ‘you’re beautiful’ or you look lovely to give them a bit of confidence, then that’s a poor doo. Regardless of whether they believe their child is truly beautiful or not according to wider society, it will give them a little confidence boost regardless. Everyone wants to feel attractive or pretty or the like at some time, regardless of what they say!!

It’s not the most important thing no, but we’re all human after all and it’s a sorry state of affairs if you’re own mother can’t say it (for whatever reason…!)

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AmyDuPlantier · 12/10/2025 17:15

My teen would die if I did this. Just don’t 🤣

CharlieKirkRIP · 12/10/2025 17:03

CandleMug · 12/10/2025 01:13

When it’s your daughter’s 18th, putting “Happy Birthday” is a bit underwhelming IMO. Most mothers want to focus on the attributes of their kids.

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Why do you have to justify your feelings for your child to others?

Is it not enough that you think your daughter is wonderful?

’My lovely daughter is 18 today! Happy Birthday, Anna’ is simple enough if you feel the need to advertise on Facebook if you’re that thirsty for attention and likes.

DreamyTealGuide · 12/10/2025 17:01

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/10/2025 01:09

I think it’s sad for girls that we feel we have to. ‘Beautiful’ is the only descriptor that pops up for them.

Who is she uniquely? What does she love? What makes her special to herself?

I’m the wrong person to ask thought because we all hate the SM posts. Teenage DD included!

what's wrong with being beautiful?

You can be smart , AND talented, successful AND an athlete, AND beautiful.
There are some stunning young girls out there, they do have parents somewhere.

I find it 10 times worst to make it sound like a burden or pretending it's not true.

No one needs to be ashamed or hiding when they ARE beautiful, and if a mum writes "to my beautiful daughter..." that's her job anyway, of all the parents who need to find a person beautiful, the mum is that person 😂

JudgeJ · 12/10/2025 16:57

MzHz · 12/10/2025 09:58

It’s cringe, tell her you love her, no need to gush all over FB, nobody’s interested

post a pic if you want the memories, but over sentimental mush is too much

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I think that these kinds of posts are meant to highlight the poster rather than the person being referenced, 'Oh look what a loving mother I am' . Poor daughter.

RedLettersWin · 12/10/2025 14:00

honeylulu · 12/10/2025 10:55

Pedants' Corner is over there >>>
😂😂😂

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I'm not a pedant. But if you're going to quote Shakespeare, quote him properly.😉

embolass · 12/10/2025 13:35

Be honest OP. Would u post if she wasn’t stunning / beautiful and all these other attributes. You seem more taken with her looks. It’s a show off post.

WestwardHo1 · 12/10/2025 12:25

I find all happy birthdays on social media to people you will see on the day totally cringe tbh. Same as all the endless public declarations of love. Just tell them in person!

Itbeginswith · 12/10/2025 12:01

Why do you need to put anything on social media? Just wish her happy birthday!

Pricelessadvice · 12/10/2025 11:10

If my mum had put a gushing FB post (tho it wasn’t around in those days) for my 18th, I’d have died of embarrassment.
I find it so odd and cringeworthy when people do this.

Hankunamatata · 12/10/2025 10:57

Happy birthday to my amazing and wonderful DD

honeylulu · 12/10/2025 10:55

RedLettersWin · 12/10/2025 10:02

It is as thou art beautiful.
Not as thou are beautiful.
Bottom is not wise but he has been enchanted to appear beautiful in Titania's eyes.

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Pedants' Corner is over there >>>
😂😂😂

RightOnTheEdge · 12/10/2025 10:48

Omg what a horrible thread full of nasty, miserable comments.
Is there really any need to be such a bunch of bullies to someone asking an innocent question?

Your daughter is only 18 once OP. Write whatever you feel like. Don't say nothing and then regret it because of what some anonymous keyboard warriors on MN said.
You know your daughter and only you know if she will be embarrassed or if she will love it.

Do you really want to take the advice of smug twats who think saying
"Why dont you try saying it in real life?"
makes them sound oh so original and clever? It really doesn't.

Don't let them win and make you feel bad.

GucciBear · 12/10/2025 10:34

Hackneyed.

IAmKerplunk · 12/10/2025 10:16

What would you say on SM if she wasn’t physically beautiful? In which case - say that.
ETA my dc would be mortified if I mentioned them on sm - are you talking Facebook? I think my dc are gorgeous but they are very closed with their SM (rightly) and would laugh at me if I said anything ‘to them’ on there when I could and would just tell them in person. But then I don’t have dc who are obsessed with sm and online lives

ClaredeBear · 12/10/2025 10:13

I think “beautiful inside and out” is fine but alternatives are to post a few pics and say how proud you are of her. I think it’s very natural for parents to think their children are beautiful, so I see nothing wrong with your post tbh.

2bfather · 12/10/2025 10:06

Awful idea. It should be assumed you think she is anyway. And you’re leaving it wide open to smutty comments.
I don’t really see why you want to announce it at all. I do understand some people have that need though. It’s hardly a crime but the idea of proud self-posting is alien to me.

Sprigattito · 12/10/2025 10:05

Hmm I am not your target audience as I don't have any social media accounts (unless MN counts). It sounds fine to me.

Whether you should do a social media post full stop is another question though. I do find them cringey when they're about partners or family members tbh, but as I say, I'm not the target audience! I'm sure people who enjoy sharing on social media will like 👍 it