She’s as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside” is that ok?

Depends on you, depends on her, depends on your general circle. Not to my taste at all. But some people would find that lovely. Will it make her happy?

I was trying to be nice but let me just be blunt. I am disagreeing with you and I don’t really care what you think.

Something like this sounds good.

The beautiful inside and out phrase is a bit overused, plus I always seem to see it being used in the past tense for someone who’s died 🙈

Does it also imply if your daughter was plain and a bit grumpy she wouldn’t be deserving of any birthday wishes? 🤣

Ah come on now..every single question on here is to complete strangers.

Each to their own but I’m more of your persuasion. I think I’d find it a bit disconcerting and possibly upsetting if FB ‘memories’ threw up posts from my late mum when I wasn’t necessarily expecting them.

Well, saying happy birthday on SM and in person aren't mutually exclusive. It's not one or the other.

I agree the OPs message would have been far too cheesy though.

and I’m disagreeing with you.
Why is social media the be all and end all? Why does every memory have to be “out there” for all and sundry to see.
Some memories are better off private.

But that’s you isn’t it and not everyone is you and the same as you are they. I have just shared my perspective which is different to yours. Life
would be boring if we were all the same. I am just saying that there are other views out there and they are all valid.

My Mum is dead too, but you know what, I look through old physical photographs of her that I have or photos that are on my computer. I don’t need to see them on social media.
She’s in my heart and memory always. I don’t need to tell the world about her.

Me too

Blimey some jealous mums on here! To the poster saying everyone thinks their daughter is beautiful etc etc you do know that’s not true don’t you?

Maybe because they are proud of their child and want to express it. My mum is dead and I would have loved to see posts like that pop up in my memories on Facebook. But wrong generation and social media wasn’t a thing back then. Each to their own.

Love this

Lots of parents in my circle don't put anything private up on SM.
I don't have a single picture up of my children and don't use SM.
I would be too protective of them and all of our privacy.

Yes most don't. In fact the ones that do are the ones who post about everything. They can't take a flight without telling everyone etc. In my circle there are a couple like this and it's continued well into their children reaching adulthood. I get it when the kids are small, your life is quite enmeshed, but I just cringe inside when I see people post constant updates about grown up kids like anyone's interested in a weekly update.

To attention seek via the child. To look good to others. To remind their aquointances they exist.

Mother wishes her daughter a happy birthday, expresses her love for her. Friends & family express birthday wishes. People who are not interested glance at it and move on.

YABU to call it a ‘platform’ unless you’re a celebrity.

But that’s simply not true. I would probably say that most don’t.
The only people I know who post about their kids birthdays are the ones that fawn and are over the top in general life. It’s all “look at me, look at me”.
I don’t give a flying fuck if it’s someone’s kids birthdays. We all have one
Juat a happy birthday privately is all that’s needed.

Gawd...this is why I can't stand social media sometimes... I just don't get why people need to state on a birthday post how clever, funny, talented etc. their child is and how proud they are of them blah blah... Who is the post actually for?

There is more to beauty than something for men to ogle. There are beautiful women and men, their beauty can be appreciated without it being sexual. Beautiful people are used in advertisements towards people of the same sex. Is a good artist not respectful? They are just creating beautiful art for us to appreciate, the same way people can appreciate a beautiful person. Is a painter more important than a make up artist or hair stylist?

Personality traits and intelligence are respectable though. Being pretty just means you're fulfilling your role as an object for the men who wish to ogle you.

I think you should put what comes into your heart as her mum. You have picked something that represents you and how you feel about her so go for it. My mum is no longer with me but I would have loved something like that from my mum coming up on social media memories in years to come.

I don't think it matters. Post what you want. Most people will only see the Happy Birthday and then add their own wishes to it (which your daughter wouldn't give a shit about) I've had two daughters turn 18 in the last couple of years and I just wished them in person without a PSA to my friends.

Start with Happy Birthday to my wonderful, brilliant, amazing daughter X. And then if you want to write a paragraph about the things you have loved about her over the last 18 years, okay. But don’t lead off with the beauty.