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To go on holiday without kids?

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Toskiornottoskii · 11/10/2025 23:13

I want to go skiing. Really as a family. Problem is DP doesn’t ski yet. Kids would be just turned 1 and just turned 4 in spring. So they would just be in ski crèche.

My latest idea is to do a 4 day midweek break. Leave the kids with grandparents. DP can learn how to ski.

This is potentially not the best for 1 yo. But would be heaven for the 4 year old.

If we wait until next year then we have reception/ school to contest with and I feel like we should be at home then as I don’t want grandparents having to get eldest to school.

Is this a bonkers idea?

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Toskiornottoskii · 18/10/2025 00:28

We have booked!

https://www.heidi.com/hotel/hotel-neue-post-zell-am-see

🤪

Beyond excited!!!!!

Thank you so much everyone!

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FairlyFarleigh · 17/10/2025 12:41

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 06:32

You have told MN threads about your very remote, unemotional husband who has a temper and doesn’t do anything to protect you from his toxic family.

and yet on here you are harping on about how children are young for so long and so important to make it all count

I’d say that you should be focussing a lot closer to home than on other parents taking a holiday without their children @CrispsPlease

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Low blow, @Andprettygood . We should be capable of disagreeing without making it personal.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 11:57

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:02

Not at all.

autistic, unemotional, horrific family

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Mocking disability. New depths.

CrispsPlease · 17/10/2025 11:18

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:17

Would anyone be surprised to know that @IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland aka Greengully is an ardent Reform supporter? I think not.

Judgment, inexperience and illogical. Yep, to be expected

You are odd aren't you ? So you're posting another posters political views now ? So: it's a free country. If she supports reform it looks like she'll be in good company - do you get out much ? They've quite a high percentage of votes. Regardless, we live in a democracy. People are allowed to vote for whoever they like! So she's not allowed an opinion nle because of who she votes for.

You're starting to sound like you have deeper issues to be honest. A darkness, if you will.

CrispsPlease · 17/10/2025 11:06

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:03

Didn’t trawl.

you have posted multiple times about your awful in-laws, unemotional husband 🤷‍♀️

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Furthermore, sinister and downright strange attempts at humiliating me and picking apart my DHs autism (and my struggles at times with it and the fact I don't like my MIL ) has absolutely fuck all to do with me being allowed the opinion that I don't agree with parents holidaying without their children. Your attempts to make my opinions "wrong" are just.... Well, sinister. The only reason I haven't reported you is because I want other people to read your posts and feel as disturbed by your bully like behaviour as I do.

CrispsPlease · 17/10/2025 11:03

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:03

Didn’t trawl.

you have posted multiple times about your awful in-laws, unemotional husband 🤷‍♀️

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There's something sinister about you.

My DH has autism (I love him to bits. I find his autism challenging ) I don't like my MIL much.

None of that has fuck all to do with how I mother my children. My DH is an absolutely amazing father despite his emotional range for intimacy with a spouse being limited.

The fact you're trying to publicly humiliate me for these -entirely unrelated - personal posts of mine, says far more about you than it does about me.

CrispsPlease · 17/10/2025 11:03

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:03

Didn’t trawl.

you have posted multiple times about your awful in-laws, unemotional husband 🤷‍♀️

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There's something sinister about you.

My DH has autism (I love him to bits. I find his autism challenging ) I don't like my MIL much.

None of that has fuck all to do with how I mother my children. My DH is an absolutely amazing father despite his emotional range for intimacy with a spouse being limited.

The fact you're trying to publicly humiliate me for these -entirely unrelated - personal posts of mine, says far more about you than it does about me.

brunettemic · 17/10/2025 10:33

RoseAlone · 11/10/2025 23:39

It's not bonkers, it's selfish, unreasonable, neglectful and downright wrong. You even have the bare faced cheek to admit it wouldn't be good for your baby but in effect, that doesn't matter because you want to ski!! Jeesh!

😂😂😂

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:31

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:29

And so the unravelling of @IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland / Green Gully begins! 🤭

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Something is definitely unravelling.

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:29

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:29

Eh? Honestly are you ok?

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And so the unravelling of @IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland / Green Gully begins! 🤭

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:29

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:27

Yep, this is what happens.

You make it you’re finding it funny

and then you have a meltdown

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Eh? Honestly are you ok?

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:27

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:25

OMG this is hilarious.

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Yep, this is what happens.

You make it you’re finding it funny

and then you have a meltdown

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:25

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:23

The question is, are you.

You usually resort to accusing posters that disagree with you of being your husband’s ex, Laura. Which always raises a smile!

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OMG this is hilarious.

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:23

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:22

Are you ok?

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The question is, are you.

You usually resort to accusing posters that disagree with you of being your husband’s ex, Laura. Which always raises a smile!

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:22

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:21

Tell Laura I love her 😆

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Are you ok?

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:21

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:18

😂

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Tell Laura I love her 😆

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:18

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:17

Would anyone be surprised to know that @IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland aka Greengully is an ardent Reform supporter? I think not.

Judgment, inexperience and illogical. Yep, to be expected

😂

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:17

Would anyone be surprised to know that @IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland aka Greengully is an ardent Reform supporter? I think not.

Judgment, inexperience and illogical. Yep, to be expected

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:16

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:13

Coming from someone with a brand new username....
Here is your third😉

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Oh green gully 😆

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:13

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:03

Didn’t trawl.

you have posted multiple times about your awful in-laws, unemotional husband 🤷‍♀️

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Coming from someone with a brand new username....
Here is your third😉

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 17/10/2025 10:06

RubySquid · 16/10/2025 16:33

Extended? Thought was only a few days. Extended is a month or more

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Covered this upthread.

NJLX2021 · 17/10/2025 10:04

Delatron · 17/10/2025 09:56

OP has said the 1 year old is perfectly happy with the grandparents and used to spending time with them. So why is it too young?

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The OP also said: "This is potentially not the best for 1 yo. But would be heaven for the 4 year old."

That is why I said that she probably knows it isn't best for her child.

There is no objective age or length of time that children should be away from their parents. Personally for me, I built it up slowly, and now at nearly 5, my son spent 4-5 days with his grandparents this summer and had a great time. At 1? I'd have found that worrying, but that is just me personally. I'm sure some parents would find it ok, and I don't think they are wrong, because as long as the child has a good relationship with the grandparents I'm sure its fine.

But the OP clearly has worries about it, so isn't 100% on board with leaving her 1 year old.

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:03

CrispsPlease · 17/10/2025 08:45

As a side note: even if you had got the right person (you haven't ) what a sadistic thing to do : to attempt to trawl old posts and plaster that information on your post. Weirdo.

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Didn’t trawl.

you have posted multiple times about your awful in-laws, unemotional husband 🤷‍♀️

Andprettygood · 17/10/2025 10:02

CrispsPlease · 17/10/2025 08:43

Wrong person!

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Not at all.

autistic, unemotional, horrific family

Delatron · 17/10/2025 10:01

I think what a lot of people (martyrs) on here don’t realise is if the children form a close attachment with grandparents from a young age they are perfectly happy to spend time with them. They are close family they have a bond with - this is a good thing!

You don’t know this because sadly you either didn’t have the chance to do this or couldn’t bear to let your precious child out of your sight - thus creating a clingy child that only wants their parents. Not healthy or a great result.
I’ve seen it on school trips with 9/10 year olds that were upset at being away. That isn’t great parenting is it?

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