To wish this mum would give it a rest?

You sound really unpleasant

that's not true.

They're little kids, none of them are "perfect" (and if they were little robots, it would mean something is very wrong)

It's VERY obvious when a child is being parented and when the parents don't accept bad behaviour, or when they use ADHD as an excuse, or no excuse at all. It's always the same parents with "kids that will be kids", kids are allowed to run riots, and are too special to be treated the same way as the 30 other.

Parents who also believe the entire class should revolve around their one child, and rules should apply to anyone but theirs.

Is she a single mum and lonely, and has no one else to chew over his behaviour with?

That was not the post i was talking about.

Have a heart, OP. She’s worried.

Why is it wrong to complain about someone relentlessly talking at a group of people on one subject? The actual subject is almost immaterial

That's amazing, you'll be putting thousands of specialists out of a job with your judgemental psychic powers.

Thanks, that's nice of you.

You sound nice. Bet your kids are a delight.

it's that attitude to will alienate you, and push other parents well away, a lot more than a child misbehaving a little bit in reception.

That's what so many posters are spectacularly missing, or refusing to admit.

This is where parents simply can't win.

When I explained my DDs issues to people I was boring them, making excuses and alienating them...

When I said nothing I was lazy, ignoring the impact on the other children in the class and doing nothing to help.

it's that attitude to will alienate you, and push other parents well away, a lot more than a child misbehaving a little bit in reception.

That's what so many posters are spectacularly missing, or refusing to admit.

i know that post will be reported by someone but I think it ought to stand as an example of someone knowing not anything at all about which they speak- and as an example of the hate many families face.

When my DD was undiagnosed with autism but had spectacular meltdowns I used to bang on about her about having SEN. Because I knew both she and I were being judged by the mums of the perfectly behaved little boys and girls. 🤷‍♂️

I don’t have to because I'm fairly certain I know the difference between children with genuine neurological conditions and that of badly behaved, disruptive brats that have been dragged up.

At least she doesn’t sound mean and superior.

She's a mutual school mum and you are complaining about her focus of conversation being her child in your child's class? Have you not met many school mum's before? Also it is obviously a problem for her and so she is speaking about it with a group she feels connected to. Your reaction is off.

PIP health condition guides
Claim PIP for ADHD
In 2023, there were 52,989 PIP claimants with ADHD listed as their main disabling condition. This makes it the fourteenth most common condition to get an award of PIP for out of over 500 conditions listed by the DWP.

The success rate for PIP claims for ADHD is 43%, compared to an overall average of 53%. So you have a less than average chance of getting an award for ADHD.

Interestingly...
*The ages of those currently in receipt of PIP for ADHD are:

• 16-29 years 79%
• 30-49 years 19%
• 50-64 years 2%
• 65 and over 0%

You can push for a diagnosis all you like, if you don't meet the criteria then you won't get one.

Even if you do get one benefits aren't based on diagnosis.

Funny that you're calling me naive when you obviously have no idea what you're talking about.

Tell you what. How about you try and get DLA 'extra money' for your kid if it's so easy. Go through the process and let us know how it goes.

Because ADHD is often hereditary and a lot of people with ADHD are 'external processors' and also over-sharers? There's normal conversation and then there's going on and onnn about something to the point where it makes listeners uncomfortable

Of course I didnt say that, but a lot of mothers think that it's easy to get the benefits that come with their kid's conditions. Don't be naive, you know that a lot of unscrupulous mothers push for these diagnosis in order to get extra money.

I hope she doesn't live in my area.

Friend's son waited 6 years after referral before he got assessed for autism.

Funny that you can never parent and have some expectations about your child behaviour without the passive-agressive etiquette "perfect parent". Bar is very low for some people, and you can see why people judge, and why they stay well away from the drama.

Shame it puts all the parents who manage and parent their own child with ADHD in the same basket, they are unfairly labelled and penalised.

I imagine if her son is getting into trouble frequently, for whatever reason, she will be feeling quite isolated and probably vulnerable. He might be exhibiting poor behaviour, he may be ND, she may have started the diagnostic process, she may be battling her own feelings.

Imagine how it would feel to be the parent of the child who is talked about, maybe not invited to parties, hasn’t made friends. Of course, the opposite argument is that other children’s learning should not be compromised by a child behaving differently and the school needs to ensure that its processes and procedures are robust, but it can’t be easy being the parent of a child who is viewed so negatively.