To think people should just pronounce her name the way she has asked them to?

Pronouncing someone's name the way they choose is basic respect. It's irrelevant that it's pronounced eeva not ehva in this country, if she wanted it pronounced bloody Margaret she gets to decide.

Your colleagues are either cunts, stupid, or both. And yes I think this warrants reporting to HR, especially given the additional information that this appears to be a group of men trying to keep the little women in their box

I agree with you , she shouldn't just get used to it. Her name is her identity and obviously matters to her so people should make an effort to pronounce it properly especially as it isnt difficult to pronounce.
It's just rude. I'm sure your husband wouldn't be happy if he moved to another country and people insisted on saying his name as it is said in that country and not as it is actually said.

I do know the difference between proper nouns and pronouns. We can agree to disagree on whether one is entitled to choose the pronouns they prefer or not!

Proper nouns (ie someone’s name) and pronouns aren’t the same thing so best not to conflate them.

Someone’s name belongs to them to spell and pronounce how they choose. Pronouns are part of language which belongs to everyone and isn’t for individuals to change the meaning of if they like

Agree with you on names.

Is there a Bob involved in the misrponunciation? Change it to Boob.

I have a colleague Tanya which before I was told by her that she is Tan-ya I would have pronounced Tarn-ya. I wouldn’t dream of using the pronunciation she doesn’t like.

Not bothering to pronounce someone's name the way they want it pronounced, not using the pronouns they prefer, or the title (I personally hate Mrs!) they choose for themselves is disrespectful and a way of diminishing people. Some names are hard though for English folks to pronounce - so I would cut people slack as long as they make the effort.

Exactly. Of course, names might be pronounced a bit differently in different accents. I have a surname that has an "r" in it. I speak in a rhotic accent so I pronounce that "r" (I'm American). When I lived in the UK, I, of course, often encountered people with non-rhotic accents who didn't pronounce the "r".

That's very different from what the OP's colleague is experiencing. I imagine that all of these men can manage some approximation of the "Eh" sound in whatever their accents are.

Dutch women I have known called Gerda have had their names pronounced by their nearest and dearest rather like 'Hedda'.

Irish Lough is very similar to Scottish Loch. And totally unlike N-E English Lough.

I'm sceptical about the mental block - I remember long ago, the English husband of one of my friends insisting he couldn't pronounce 'Niamh' because his English tongue could not make that sound, So I asked him the first name of the English Labour party leader and he managed Neil just fine.

But Eh-va isn't hard to pronounce. It's not unheard of here and it doesn't require familiarity with a language pronunciation or vocal sound very different from our own. I have a Slovenian friend who's name requires a rhotic and rolled 'r' in the middle. I really struggle with it and I'm pretty sure that I never get it completely right.

Eh-va isn't in that category though. It's not difficult. It's just in the same region as Sarah and Sara. They just can't be bothered, because it's 'foreign'.

Wow! You really think that someone should accept her colleagues routinely mispronouncing her name or go home? What a disgusting xenophobic attitude.

It isn't occasional, it is regular and repeated from people who know her and have been told her preference. OP was absolutely spot on calling them out.

I worked with someone once who called me the wrong name for the entire year we worked together. Say my name is Paula. They called me Paulette. It got so ridiculous as to be almost funny by the end of their time with the company. He just couldn’t get it right!

Her name is pronounced how she wishes it to be pronounced. In the same way that if someone was called Catherine and didn't want it shortened to Cathy then that should be respected.
Where she is from and where she lives now are irrelevant. She should be treated with the same consideration as anyone else. Her name should be pronounced how she asks.

That's very disrespectful of your colleagues. They should be pronouncing her name as SHE wants her OWN NAME pronounced.

It would probably make her feel more at home if her name was pronounced the way it should be. Imagine moving to a foreign country and even your name being different, as well as everything else.

Sorry that should say Yves

The only person I know called Eva pronounces it Eh - va as does everyone who knows her.

Of course it's fine your colleague wants her name pronounced correctly. But maybe calling others out in company comes across as rude?
Perhaps she should approach individual offenders discreetly. If she responds every time with the correct pronunciation, perhaps they see her as pedantic and are deliberately making fun of her. Not saying that's in any way OK but some groups can have bullying tendencies.

If she's French, then the Ee-va pronunciation would be very similar to the male equivalent, Yve. So it's like being called Paul if your name is Pauline. I'd understand if she found that offensive.

Her pronunciation isn’t even out of the norm. Why should she have to for the people choosing to act as if it is? Her colleagues are doing it on purpose when they know they could pronounce her name the way she has told them.

Nope, still don't know how it's pronounced correctly. You are assuming people know what an Irish lough sounds like or the Dutch gerdas sound.

I agree broadly that people should pronounce a name how the person wants it saying but some of us just can't. I seem to have a mental block with Mahree and Alina/Elina to the point I end up saying something completely drunk sounding. I have no idea why that happens on some names but I wish I didn't.

You went from Vincent Van Gogh to David Hasslehoff to I’m going to guess Beethoven?

I only asked because I have never heard it said that way.

David is pronounced Dar-veet in German

I have heard David pronounced that way.

I’ve heard names pronounced in so many different ways to the point unless I have no idea who they’re talking about, I don’t question the pronunciation especially when it’s people telling me their own name.

Your colleague might want to decide whether she wants to stay in the UK and have her name (Eva?) occasionally mispronounced or return to her country of origin and have it pronounced to her satisfaction (Eva?).

I have a surname that virtually no-one in the UK knows how to pronounce "correctly".

Does it bother me?

No.

Should busybodies be bothered about it?

No

There’s a difference between names sounding different in different accents and deliberate mispronunciation, though.

I’m sure I don’t pronounce the name Niamh (for instance) in exactly the same way someone with an Irish accent would pronounce it, but I know enough not to call her “Niam” or rename her to “Naomi”.

Let her fight her own battles if she has an issue with pronunciation.

How far removed from place before this kicks in? My name is pronounced differently in England than Scotland, but I’d be asking the English person to put on a fake Scottish accent to sound like I do when I say it and I’m not sure they’d be okay with it?

So annoying that just because we are in England that everyone has to conform to the English ways, pronunciations, spellings etc. People should pronounce her name the way it should be pronounced. My DIL has a name that is spelt like an English name but pronounced slightly differently as she is not English.

Why should she have to put up with her name becoming English when it is not?

People need to stop being twats and isn't this just another form of racism as well as bullying?

Report to HR OP it's not fair on her.