To ask to share any stories of good DH out there

Me
He makes tea every morning and brings it up to me in bed
He does the big supermarket shops (heavy stuff, I just buy meat and veg, milk as needed)
He organises all our holidays and timings
I've been viral for a week and he has cooked every meal and brings me lemsip when needed
He sorts all the money stuff and does my tax returns (I am not being financially abused and have accounts/property in my name only)
He's a dishwasher jenga sort of chap so I leave him to it while I sort the other stuff
He has always cooked roast dinners since I have been with him
He's happy to go clothes/make up shopping with me (although little help as he says I look lovely in whatever I try on!)

This is against a background of being an only child waited on hand foot and finger and having a father who had to get the cleaner in to cook for him when his wife was ill!

My DP isn’t perfect, but neither am I so that’s fine. He works hard, he’s nice & kind & considerate & loving. He does almost all the cooking and probably more than his share of domestic stuff. He encourages me to have my own friends, hobbies & interests and would never try to control me in any way. In many ways, he is more of a feminist than I am and it was wonderful to see his genuine pride & delight when the Lionesses won the Euros. Am I lucky? No, I don’t think so because I made a conscious design not to ‘marry’ a dickhead….

Downsides? Well, he isn’t the most sociable person, he is quite opinionated, he has zero tolerance for fools and he can be breathtakingly cynical. But his faults are pretty minor compared to mine.

Me! Does an equal share of everything including life admin. Little things like will notice one of the kids uniforms is too small so will pick up the next size next time he is passing. Picks up the slack when I'm too ill / busy without needing to be asked. Does what needs doing without it being pointed out (often I'll put a wash on then get stuck in a meeting or forget about it etc and I'll go to sort it and it's already hung out). Encourages me in my career, even when I earned significantly less than him he would equally prioritise both of our jobs. Last week I mentioned I was cold working from home but didn't want to put the heating on and he researched and bought me a heater and set up all the timings for me based on when I'm working.

His parents are the same so I credit them with how he is, they always seemed to take an equal approach, and will help out without being asked when they visit.

I always think it must be miserable if you're in a marriage where its easier when the other person is away - what's the point?

It makes me mad as well when people still claim men 'don't see mess' or whatever, it's how they're brought uo in my opinion.

Mine is excellent. He's caring, thoughtful, generous, and does easily more than 50% of all tasks, and up to 100% of some. He's kind to children and volunteers at scouts, has a very responsible job at which he works hard, and does all our financial planning to make sure we have a good future. He does ALL the planning and packing of the children's stuff and food for holidays (I literally just pack my stuff really), and he does his share of the housework (like an actual adult) without being asked. He is a top tier husband.

Mine is excellent. He's caring, thoughtful, generous, and does easily more than 50% of all tasks, and up to 100% of some. He's kind to children and volunteers at scouts, has a very responsible job at which he works hard, and does all our financial planning to make sure we have a good future. He does ALL the planning and packing of the children's stuff and food for holidays (I literally just pack my stuff really), and he does his share of the housework (like an actual adult) without being asked. He is a top tier husband.

But they’re not ‘blessed’, they’re just not married to awful men.