Hi all,
I’d really like to hear what others would do in this situation.
My EXHB and I do not have a co parenting relationship. It’s still very strained after 4 years apart (mostly because of this continuous abuse and also, him making extremely poor and bad choices regarding our child).
Anyway. My ex had asked for a one off longer visitation in November. I agreed. It was only a day and half more and I had no issue.
However, our child has now been scheduled to have their tonsils and adenoids removed about 5 days before the elongated visitation.
My ex is a pretty rubbish dad, I’ll be honest. He uses our child as a pawn and usually ends up fobbing them off on his mother or new girlfriend. I do not trust him at all (due to many, many previous times where he’s made bad mistakes).
I have spoken to friends and family who have all said to postpone the elongated visitation as our child will still be recovering from the operation.
Yes, I am a worry wart and I obviously don’t want my child away from me after having surgery.
Would you cancel visitation? Or let it go ahead.
I’ve many years of sustained physical and mental abuse from this man (currently in therapy) but I still worry about his reactions to me (he tends to ‘punish’ me in other ways now if he doesn’t get want he wants) .
Any advice.