To leave DH and kids to do this

If the roles here were reversed and it was a man posting that he wanted to work/study away mid week for 2 years, he'd be praised for trying to better himself and improving the family finances with a better career.
Why is this any different? Because she's a mother? Fuck off with that shite, she's just as much right to do this for her own happiness than a man does. If you couldn't be away from your kids then thats on you, she's doing this for them and shouldn't be put down for it.
Go for it OP, they'll survive and you'll all be better off for it.

I agree

Go for it.

Just as another perspective, my dad worked away for 2 weeks out of every month for my entire childhood and I don’t think any of us children felt hard done by. When he was home he was a very involved parent and we did lots of things together as a family. It was just how life was. It did help that my mum was (at least for my early childhood) a stay at home mum so we always had a parent at home.

Source where you could live and the cost. Explain to the children what could happen and how long it would mean you'll be away. The children can speak to you on WhatsApp . Work out for yourself how many days in a week/month you'll be away so they can comprehend. Remind your husband what this course will mean to your future. Then gently remind him you covered him when he worked away and that the cost to you is negligible . Do it you! will always regret not doing it.

If your career is psychology late 40s is absolutely fine. Hope that helps

Go for it 2 years isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things. If you don't you will always be thinking what if ? The children are coming to an age when they've got their own interests and university terms aren't that long anyway and you'll be home weekends. Good luck.

Oh just don’t bother having children. Seriously. Me, me and me again.

If you're so unhappy and you don't do it you'll regret it and start to feel even more resentful. So in the long run you won't be doing anyone any favours by giving up this opportunity. A happy Mum and wife is a better Mum and wife.
I have no idea how old your kids are or what your financial situation is, but maybe you could employ someone to help with the kids and the household when you're gone. A full time course and full-on family (and household) on the weekend is going to be tough going.
Good luck with it all!

Because children want their mothers. It’s how nature intended it.

Go for it.

they will adapt.

I did a masters when my son was 2. It’s was hard work, but I’m glad I did it. I was fortunate that I could commute by train and do it part time. I don’t regret putting myself first.

you may find you could do an early start on a Monday and be home by Friday tea time, but please don’t under estimate how much time coursework will take you for this course, plus the dissertation at the end. I think your husband is being selfish to not consider a move closer to the university, even if ultimately it wasn’t something he could do, so he should at least ask the kids what they would prefer to do. In the scheme of things, now would be the ideal time before your eldest takes their options. Would be awful to find thru want to move with you once they start their gcse years.

If OP decides to go ahead with this, I am sure she will also have the discipline to do the studying and work in the weekday evenings while she is away from home.

It is objectively not true that it won't be long until their kids are grown up. It will be nearly a decade before the youngest is 18, OP will be mid-50s. And the odds of her getting another offer at that point are substantially lower.
As for it being 'double shift', by 10 and 12, they should be starting to develop more independence, look after themselves.

i’m just going by the OP, which is uni 4/5 days a week.
Perhaps it’s remote and she doesn’t keep office hours, but if it’s not - I don’t see how she could keep up her current role and attend uni.

People do full time masters and doctorates while holding down their other jobs and caring responsibilities. Full time doesn't mean 5 full days at the uni, it means 30 hours a week. There may only be one day a week at uni, 15 hours private study and one or two placements that could be done locally. Without getting the actual day to day requirements of the course we can't know what is and isn't possible. I thiink you should contact the provider and ask for further detail op. I bet it's very do-able. I am a bit surprised by the responses on this thread tbh but maybe people are imagining op living away from home 5 days a week, which i very much doubt would be the case.

OP hasn’t said what her current role is. She may be able to do it remotely. We don’t know, but where there’s a will there’s a way!

I’m late 50s and see women being promoted and supported to move into roles they deserve. I appreciate what you’re saying but I’d never dissuade a woman from following her chosen career path based on her age or sex. Would you say the same to a man?

Can you afford it? For you to not work, and to cover your accommodation and travel costs, and paid childcare if needed, for 2 years?
If you really want to do it, your H should facilitate it, like you have facilitated his career all this time. And encourage the kids to be proud of you too.
But be prepared for a lot of judgment, maybe even helpful local ladies muscling in on him while you're away.
If he's not supportive, it's not going to work. Then you'll have some decisions to make about whether your marriage is what you want long term.

I'm assuming nothing, I'm asking, this the question marks.

Agest, for pointing out the risks, hilarious 😂

Well I am mid forties myself and am watching the struggles women in particular have in their 50s changing roles in industries they have years of experience in, let alone someone with a new qualification and less experience but hey pretend it doesn't exist and run with that. Very helpful for the OP.

There’s been countless posts on here over the years from women saying their husband had been offered a job where he’d have to relocate during the week and that they didn’t want to uproot their families to facilitate the move. They’d point out that they’d be left to run the household by themselves while their partners were gone, and the comments were overwhelmingly in agreement that it was unfair/selfish/self-centered that he was even considering it.

OP is free to do whatever she wants, but she needs to factor in her husband and children’s opinions and feelings about her being gone 5 days out of 7. It’s a significant change, and unless everyone is onboard, it will cause resentment and emotional distance.

In theory yes. What happens when OP needs that time for deadlines for her Masters? DH be needing a break copping double shift on home front yet OP be tired after studying all week too. Not that long until kids grown up and unfair to do this to them when they are entering their crucial and difficult years imho.

Except a man wouldn’t even post. It’s completely normal and accepted that some men work away during the week.

What will your job title be once you have completed the course, OP? Is the completion of an MA all that is required for that role or will there be other things to do?

Maybe for you …

I agree, you can get safe sims for kids (I’m with ee and saw them advertised)

do it. It’s an important thing for you and your career and it’s incredibly important to show your kids how a modern family set up works, with BOTH partners able to fulfil their responsibilities and potential