To leave DH and kids to do this

Exactly - armed forces, off shore workers - it’s not unique or uncommon, but it’s usually men so that’s fine for them of course!

That’s so silly, they’ll get a lot out of it. She wont be there monday to thursday for 28 weeks a year - separated by Easter, a long summer and Christmas. Every weekend will be exciting because mum’s home. They’ll see a fulfilled mum taking opportunities that lead to a better life and career. They see their mum graduate. Then they get to go through the process themselves, inspired and guided by her.

Oh, give over 🤣.

Are you are prepared to completely lose any type of lasting relationship with your children and DH? don’t do it!

This.

As others have said, you’ll just be away in the week during term times. If DP is all for it, absolutely go for it. And you’ll be done in time for when your children are nearing the stages of needing help with their education and career choices.

It'll be fine! Other way round, but I'm at home with ds (10yo) by myself for 10 MONTHS of the year because of Dh's job. There are plenty of families in the armed forces that are apart for extended periods over the years, no one bats an eyelid - usually because it's the man thats absent though.... Good old misogyny is still alive and well unfortunately when it comes to the mother having the temerity to advance herself. Good luck!

I totally agree with this! ⬆️👍
edited to add: you only get 1 chance @ life. Wishing you every success.🙂

Dont do it, your children should come first, but perhaps since your posting on here you have already made your decision and want justification, your relationship with them will never recover

I did a course like this I suspect the same profession if not a very similar one. If it is what I think it is not exactly a typical degree in arrangement and intensity.
I would say talk to current students if you can because although the expectation may be 4-5 full days a week it may not be the case all the time and likely to be blocks of full weeks but also study and placement.

I would say doable and worth it in the short term. There were lots of people with kids, partners at home, juggling jobs etc. Although I would worry about your team definitely having the budget/vacancy offer a job once qualified.

Do it.
I won’t lie, it won’t be easy for you or the kids but it’s better than staying at home and being very unhappy (you sound it anyway).
my mum went to uni as a single mum in her late 30s and left me with grandparents for the first year. I missed her badly (I was 9) but I never resented her and I was proud. She took me with her for the remainder of the time because she was able to get a flat rather than staying in halls.
I know what she sacrificed and what guilt she felt and in those days women weren’t really doing what she did so she faced stigma, too.
Since then I know plenty of women who have done the same and I’m sure the mum guilt is probably still there but the social stigma isn’t quite as strong. However It’s such a bloody double standard when we don’t bat an eyelid at men working away yet women doing to same still elicits surprise.
I didn’t go to uni after school but when I was 39 I embarked on an OU honours degree. Mum was my biggest supporter along with my DS. my marriage had ended and husband had said previously that me studying alongside being a mother and working was not going to happen.
anyway now I have my honours degree, my DS and mum are very proud and my DS talks and thinks about his future academic career and he knows that anything is possible with hard work and support from your loved ones. I hope that your husband will support you on this. Good luck x

As pp have already pointed out, it’s not 7 days a week for 2 whole years.
It would be a great demonstration to your children that parents can work together to ensure that they can achieve a good life at home and fulfill their potential.
I would suggest a family meeting so that the children can raise any worries they have about the arrangement and strategies put in place to ensure their fears are put at ease.
You will be back before GCSE time and if your employer, DC and DH are on board then I wish you every success.

It sounds like it could be possible given the ages of the children but I don’t think I’d want to do it at the same time the youngest transitions to secondary as that feels like it could be quite a challenging time Emotionally for them. I think you’d have a toss up between doing it when youngest is in year 8 but not being as present during GCSE’s for oldest or doing it now when the youngest might still want you re pre teen emotions etc. It will cost a lot and potentially be detrimental to your family so you have to weigh up the costs versus benefits. The benefits may be worth it if you know it will lead to higher paid employment you love and it isn’t just a pipe dream. Be very critical and objective over this.

if you do it, I’d try to make sure you were coming home for weekends as a minimum and possibly even throw in a midweek commute depending on what the timetable actually looks like. If you are 9-5 5 days a week there is going to be no point coming home for an hour or two mid week but if you have any shorter days, it would be feasible to commute back. Likewise if you nominally have a 9-5 but a lot of it is course work.

I hope you go for it OP. It sounds like a wonderful opportunity. You have support from your employer, you mention bursaries and other financial support, plus an offer of promoted/expanded job with same employer at the end.
As many other PPs have pointed out: it's only 3-days p/wk contact-time & away from home; it's only 2-yrs; it's term-time only (University term dates, at that); you can always get home for special school events / emergencies.

Your children are old enough to be able to deal positively with this and benefit from the achieving, "can do", role-model you demonstrate to them.
To make this adventure a resounding success, a celebration both of your own personal development and the mutually supportive strength of your marriage, much will rest on a willing, supportive attitude from your DH.

He's had your support throughout your 15yrs together, including having & rearing your DSs. DH now works from home. He's there. He can do it.
This is a growth opportunity for you, for your relationship with DH, and for the family as a whole.

I hope DH will support you.

Even if you have to spend one weekend-day every week batch-cooking (🙄),
it is more than worth it. You know this.

Oh, btw, I retrained (p/time evenings & w/ends for 4yrs) whilst in full-time/very full-on employment & prior to retirement. I'm still active in my new(er) self-employed role. I'm still not ready to retire. 79.
GO FOR IT!

Just want to point out that some careers are incompatible with childcare. Mine is on hiatus for now because I would be unable to plan childcare around it. Not everyone gets to work 9-5 Monday-Friday. No coercion, my DH always had a higher salary anyway.

Your kids are quite young to leave them. If you go, you risk them feeling you abandoned them, but I understand your wanting to do this. Is there no way you could study from home? Maybe through Open University or zoom lectures? Have you discussed with the uni you're looking at and explained your situation? I'd consider all options before making a decision as the implications will affect your kids and your husband. Is he supportive of you moving away alone?

Often universities have an afternoon "off" per week. Could you see if that is the case. You could then come home, say after lunch Weds, pick up from school and do something with them, then go back very early the next day. My commute to work weekly is 3 hours plus each way so do-able.

I personally could never leave my kids and they are a lot older than yours. Its a shame you can't persuade your husband to move near the university.

Exactly. OPs husband worked away for weeks. I assume Op coped alone with much younger children.

This is an investment for OP AND her family. Two years will fly by, they have a job opportunity lined up.

Really?
I know so many men who have worked Mon-Fri away from home.

Yes your relationship will change - Your children would realise that you are a whole person with desires and ambitions. Not just a Mum who exists to fulfil their every need (big or small.)
Go for it!

You have more then 15 years after this course ends - time to enjoy your work. Let your children see mothers have a right to their life too. You'll be paid better, I imagine and more able to fund their futures. Teenagers are expensive and you'll want to save for the uni years.

How sad.

Plenty of dad's so it, so why not you? It's not like you'll be away for months on end, you'll be back weekends and out if term-time.

When you are not there, there is no mum in the home.

A mum can be a dad; millions of single UK woman play both roles and make a fine job of it. And if they're not lone parents, they're often making up for the useless/uncaring/irritable parenting of the household male.

Unless you're married to an exceptional male, a dad can not be a mum, not even close.

Kids need their mum.