MIL comments..AIBU?

I wouldn't bother to bite back or argue my point. She's spoiling for a fight and wants you to engage. She won't suddenly think 'oh yes, I'm wrong' and cheer up if you answer her. I'd walk off with no comment and leave her to her bad mood. If she wants to be an arsehole, she can do it on her own time, she doesn't get to have your company. Go and do something on your own and let her sulk.
Never go on holiday with them again.

Agree with this. I'd have called her out on it at the time - I don't think you really want to bring it up now, then it just comes across as equally catty - but if she says anything similar I definitely would!

And there is absolutely nothing wrong with a C section for any reason, I had one electively (though as it turns out I probably would have ended up having to have one anyway) and not one bit of me feels any kind of shame about that, it was absolutely the right choice and anyone who thinks otherwise is irrelevant.

I suspect she thinks you should be running around the play park with your toddler, with the baby strapped to your front, whilst your husband lays on the sun lounger, giving his Mum his full attention!! Perhaps your FIL let your MIL do all the chores and parenting, whilst he did the 'manly' jobs like cut the lawn, wash the car and put the bins out??!! Your husband should be helping you and want to help you, because that's what a good husband and Dad does!! She probably thinks your husband does 'too much' 'he's at work all day', and you're lazy. She deliberately used the C-section to basically say, you took the 'lazy way out' at birth and are still lazy now. I hope you've told your husband? I also hope he is backing you 100%? I definitely wouldn't be booking things etc and going forward I'd be taking a very large step back from her.

“laid on my back and let everyone else do all the hard work”
How did you not respond with “a bit like you on this fucking holiday”!!
Shitty comments like that would be the end for me unless she apologised!

I wouldn't be going on holiday with them again!

Does your husband understand how you feel?

The CS comment was beyond offensive - depending on your willingness to put her in her place (and how your husband would take it 😜), here’s a script for future:

MIL: you’re lazy, you just laid there and everyone else did the work

OP: you’re so right MIL, you know, the delivery really reflected the conception. I just laid there that night too.

I would be petty and use the 'I'm being lazy' line..

Can you book me a spa daughter in law?
nah, I’m too lazy

Pass the salt DIL
Cant, I’m too lazy

Aren’t you going to play with your DC?
nope, terribly lazy

Talk to your DH, he needs to pull her up on that and tell her that kind of shit stops right now. Otherwise, just enjoy your holiday and don’t let it become a ‘thing’

She’s reflecting her unhappiness onto you. Going on this holiday perhaps reminded her of her previous holidays when she was a young mum and it’s unexpectedly brought out her deep-buried resentment about at how tough it was. Her husband probably wasn’t as supportive/ hands on as your DH is with you and the kids - as was normal then.
I wouldn’t mention it to your DH to avoid any unnecessary conflict. She has showed you her character. I would keep a low profile for the rest of the holiday and just continue to be kind in your interactions.
I would also think carefully about having any future family holidays together/ letting her stay over for a few nights in your home so she doesn’t have a full view of what happens in your marriage as she has a tendency to be jealous.
Your marriage is special so don’t let her blow out your candle ! 🩷

I chose my c sections for non medical reasons and even then I wouldn’t tolerate those comments.

Why on earth are you booking stuff for her? She can do her own bookings. Focus on your dc, let your Dh know that she’s made these shitty comments and tell him you’re no longer interested in spending time looking after her needs or in her company. How much longer do you have to go?

Even though your DH didn't hear it, I hope you talked it over with him.

He is being hands on with your toddler because:-

You are nursing the other child
He is their dad so shares the parenting responsibilities.
He wants to spend time with his child.

DH needs to show his own mum that he is totally on the same page as you and this has nothing to do with her and even if you hadn't had a difficult recovery he would have still wanted to play with his own child.

This comes across as a bit of jealousy that perhaps she got left to do all the work while her DH sat behind a newspaper.

You have to put bitches like this back in their place. I would make reference to it again so she knows she’s pissed you off and I would never go on holiday with them again.

Maybe say in the morning ‘Better night’s sleep Sandra? Or am I likely to get it both barrels again today about c sections being a walk in the park?’

CS are not an easy option! They save lives, mumsc & babies. Would she rather go back to when women commonly died in child birth? I developed HELLP syndrome which is potentially fatal, without a CS myself & my child may have died. What an ignorant woman!

That is one cold hateful comment op. Keep an eye on her and keep her at arms length. She's seething about something underneath her outward appearance.

I would be so mad!! How about saying I see, you’ve mentioned that a bit- would you really prefer I had died I childbirth trying to have a natural birth? Does dh know you feel that way? And stare at her.

I’m offended for you. As someone who had an emergency C and is choosing to have one for my second due to birth trauma, I actually could not forgive someone if they said that to me.

I would be telling DH if I were you, so he understands why you are removing yourself from her for awhile

I also agree with other posters this has absolutely nothing to do with tiredness. She is just being vicious and it’s absolutely uncalled for.

I agree with @ThickGrass and @JLou08 It wasn’t an accidental comment due to tiredness, it was brewing for sometime, and it’s particularly nasty as she knew all details and that it was for medical reasons.
I wouldn’t accept an apology for this, and I would keep my distance from her as much as possible and I wouldn’t make any effort any more.

They aren't the kind of comments that could be put down to tiredness. Snapping at someone being noisy or disagreement on what to do maybe but not comments about you doing nothing when you had a C-Section. That's a really weird comment to make. I'd ve keeping my distance from her as much as possible.

Just another miserable MIL! I think some
women can’t get over their little boy loving another woman.
i might end up like that too but I’ll try not to! Just ignore her

I'd have bitten back immediately when she made those comments! Whatever her mood or motivation, YANBU to have some time to yourself tomorrow and let DH babysit his rude mother!

They’re hurtful comments and I’d struggle to forgive that. I’d certainly let DH feed that back somehow.

Fuck her and her 1950s misogyny. I’d smile and look like you’ve risen above it but secretly I’d cut her off. She’d get minimal goodwill from me from now on unless she seriously seriously redeemed herself in some way. YANBU.

‘MIL i’ve had multiple layers of skin cut open twice now and 2 very difficult recoveries, i’m now left with a huge red angry scar (and if like me) a massive over hang on my belly. It definitely was not an easy option.’ And avoid for the rest of the holiday.