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'Hello' Man on route to the Co-op continuation thread

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RogueFemale · 10/10/2025 20:55

Because it maxed out at 1,000 comments.
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5411895-old-ish-man-on-the-route-to-the-co-op-who-keeps-saying-hello

There were developments after I finally said hello back, yesterday (see p20 of first thread). Turns out my instincts were correct.

I just want to clarify a few things.

I do walk on the other side of the street to his door, where he stands. He shouts across the street at me.

There isn't a convenient alternative route to the Co-op (where I go not just for milk or whatever, but because it's a post office). It's do-able, but it would be a 20m walk instead of 7m.

Although many of you think I'm mean, nasty and unfriendly, despite this I have easily established friendly contact with other neighbours since moving here, and have said hello etc as normal.

I have past experience of family members with mental health conditions (e.g. dementia, learning disabilities). I don't judge on that basis, but I do judge on the basis of whether a person might represent a threat to me, and my perception, right or wrong, of their mental health may form a part of that assessment.

This man's behaviour makes me feel uncomfortable and despite the fact that I've repeatedly ignored him, he has continued to shout at me when I go past. A normal person would get the message, so it's worrying that he doesn't.

It's also weird that so many of you think women and girls should 'be nice' to potentially creepy men.

OP posts:
ibecruising · 10/10/2025 21:02

Ok so he’s not a nice man. What’s the point of starting this second thread?

RogueFemale · 10/10/2025 21:01

CalzoneOnLegs · 10/10/2025 21:00

Not this nonsense again please

It's fine to ignore me, you don't have to comment.

OP posts:
RogueFemale · 10/10/2025 21:00

BreakfastOfChampignons · 10/10/2025 20:58

So what were the "developments"?

As I said, see p20 of previous thread.

OP posts:
CalzoneOnLegs · 10/10/2025 21:00

Not this nonsense again please

BreakfastOfChampignons · 10/10/2025 20:58

So what were the "developments"?