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National Trust & tampons

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oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 10/10/2025 17:37

NT have made free tampons available in the gents' toilets in a castle in the Lake District. Not unisex toilets, but actual gents.

Not just any tampons, but vegan tampons (WTF are they?).
And they're also available in the ladies.

YABU They are demonstrating what a kind, caring organisation they are, & covering their arses.

YANBU They are bonkers, tossers... add your own words.

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BundleBoogie · 11/10/2025 07:57

Freysimo · 11/10/2025 07:02

I guess that less than 10% of women are trans men. Does the NT bend over backwards for other minority groups?

Good point. I think it is < 0.5% of women though.

And obviously far fewer then that would visit a National Trust venue.

BundleBoogie · 11/10/2025 07:42

Hacklicker · 10/10/2025 23:16

I have seen this attitude on mumsnet, where women and men both act like men will dissolve on contact with a tampon wrapper. I have a nice, normal husband however, and despite him having passed me sanitary products on more than one occasion he remains stubbornly undissolved, and his penis hasn't fallen off or anything.

That odd that you thought your husbands penis might fall off - that must have been a worry for you.

We still haven’t had the question answered as to what on earth the woman is going to do with these tampons procured by her husband if she can’t access a toilet as in the above example. They are not a discreet thing to use in a public place. Especially if she is bleeding through her clothes.

BundleBoogie · 11/10/2025 07:38

SorcererGaheris · 10/10/2025 23:37

@BundleBoogie

Regardless of what people personally think on the transgender subject, the fact is that transgender men do use the men's toilets Since transgender men can and do get period, the tampons have been placed there so that transmen can use them if need be.

The point is that they shouldn’t be using the mens toilets. Men deserve as much privacy as women.

My FiL would literally have another heart attack if he walked into the mens and a girl was in there. Remember, despite the regular wheeling out of carefully posed photos, very few of these girls ‘pass’ irl.

Underthinker · 11/10/2025 07:04

TesChique · 11/10/2025 06:52

Yes grrrr world getting better for people grrrr don't like it grrrrr everyone shoukd suffer like me grunble grumble

No, the longer gender ideology survives, propped up by silly people likes those at the NT, the worse the world is for young gender non conforming people. The more people battle the SC ruling and the findings of the Cass report the longer this confusion drags out. The more they are lied to, told they can swap sex with drugs and surgery, told that anyone who doesn't see them as their new identity and doesn't use their new pronouns hates them and wants them dead, the worse their mental health will be. So this isn't a massive thing, but its just another stupid move by people who should know better.

Freysimo · 11/10/2025 07:02

WTDress · 11/10/2025 06:44

God, I’m about as Terfy as they come, but even I recognise that there may be trans men who chose to use the men’s toilet and may have use for sanitary products.

I guess that less than 10% of women are trans men. Does the NT bend over backwards for other minority groups?

TesChique · 11/10/2025 06:52

Fukcedoff · 11/10/2025 04:48

So men get free tampons ,but the girls toilets in my schools did not have free tampons .the amount of times I had nothing to use because my parents didn't buy me any or give me money.and now men get them ..what a turn around in this mad world

Yes grrrr world getting better for people grrrr don't like it grrrrr everyone shoukd suffer like me grunble grumble

WTDress · 11/10/2025 06:49

Fukcedoff · 11/10/2025 04:48

So men get free tampons ,but the girls toilets in my schools did not have free tampons .the amount of times I had nothing to use because my parents didn't buy me any or give me money.and now men get them ..what a turn around in this mad world

Yes isn’t it brilliant that women (even ones that identify as men) can now access free sanitary products?

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Underthinker · 11/10/2025 06:47

Hacklicker · 10/10/2025 23:12

Why are you calling women 'females'? That's an absolute misogyny dog whistle, I only ever see incels and their ilk doing that usually.

Female is an adjective and can apply to dogs, monkeys, cats, bats and alligators. The word you're looking for when discussing humans is 'women'.

That might have been a good argument ten years ago, but thanks to gender ideology, an alarming number of people think that women and girls are mixed sex categories, so sometimes the word female has to be used for clarity.

WTDress · 11/10/2025 06:44

God, I’m about as Terfy as they come, but even I recognise that there may be trans men who chose to use the men’s toilet and may have use for sanitary products.

Fukcedoff · 11/10/2025 04:48

So men get free tampons ,but the girls toilets in my schools did not have free tampons .the amount of times I had nothing to use because my parents didn't buy me any or give me money.and now men get them ..what a turn around in this mad world

CatchingtheCat · 11/10/2025 01:01

Happyjoe · 10/10/2025 23:45

Well, if they 'pass' then how would you be aware that they are transwomen anyway?

And if they hid a camera in the ladies to watch them use the toilet, would it be ok as long as women didn’t know they were being filmed?

CatchingtheCat · 11/10/2025 00:58

Happyjoe · 10/10/2025 23:46

Some can still have irregular bleeds imo.

And still women, so must stay out of the men’s

Guytheskiinstructor · 11/10/2025 00:49

mrlistersgelfbride · 11/10/2025 00:27

This thread is batshit.
What will people get pissed off about next?
It’s a few tampons in some public toilets, Jesus Christ.
There are trans men, men who might take one for their wives and daughters or women who walk into men’s loos by mistake (the latter is common for me 🤣) . They might be making two stashes in case the tampon supply in the ladies runs out?!
Who is it hurting? Why do you really care?
I must be a really woke leftie loon because it think it’s absolutely fine.

The only reason you have been able to post this is that you are clearly deeply ignorant of the debate around gender ideology and women’s rights that has been going on for years.

Please go away and inform yourself and, while you do, spare us these idiotic takes that have no substance and no relevance to them whatsoever.

Just to recap: what IS batshit is the idea that “special feels” magically and invisibly turn a man into a woman and vice versa and that these undefinable, untestable and unverifiable feels (ie. gender ideology) should be used to dismantle hard-won rights and protections for women and girls.

LarryIsMyRomanEmpire · 11/10/2025 00:30

Moonlightfrog · 10/10/2025 20:53

How did you come to that conclusion? Men don’t use tampons. Trans men do.

Because they get women into men's toilets by putting san pro in there, most men won't actually care and then oh that's totally accepted so transwomen, men, can use the women's.
Tim Waltz was going for the same thing.

mrlistersgelfbride · 11/10/2025 00:27

This thread is batshit.
What will people get pissed off about next?
It’s a few tampons in some public toilets, Jesus Christ.
There are trans men, men who might take one for their wives and daughters or women who walk into men’s loos by mistake (the latter is common for me 🤣) . They might be making two stashes in case the tampon supply in the ladies runs out?!
Who is it hurting? Why do you really care?
I must be a really woke leftie loon because it think it’s absolutely fine.

Maray1967 · 11/10/2025 00:17

Hacklicker · 10/10/2025 23:12

Why are you calling women 'females'? That's an absolute misogyny dog whistle, I only ever see incels and their ilk doing that usually.

Female is an adjective and can apply to dogs, monkeys, cats, bats and alligators. The word you're looking for when discussing humans is 'women'.

The victims of the person I named were girls. Surely it is entirely reasonable to use the word ‘females’ when referring to women and girls.

We would not be referring to female animals when discussing the use of toilets.

Guytheskiinstructor · 11/10/2025 00:09

towhoknowswhere · 11/10/2025 00:03

Here here!

Except the law says different.

Enough with this nonsense already. Get a grip.

The world is round, climate change is real
and “gender identity” is made up crap.

CrispsPlease · 11/10/2025 00:06

Happyjoe · 10/10/2025 23:58

Yes, I think you're right for the main. I think too a lot of it is down to access to hormones at an early age, to allow for the more delicate features. Which I believe has been stopped for now?

Tbh, I do prefer single sex spaces, all my life it has been like that and was always taught by my mum to watch out for blokes as the loos can be a lonely place, not sure if something happened to her in her youth but it was something she mentioned a bit growing up, and to try and go into them with a friend.

In reality though, well, never seen a transwomen in the loos, at least not someone I noticed!

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I'll be honest: neither have I. I have met trans women at work etc (large inclusive employer) but never ever come face to face with one in the toilets. We do have gender neutral toilets though and I wonder if they use them. All in all, I'm sure many trans people aren't secretly plotting to molest females in toilets. But sadly the risk (as they're male) Is there, and it's a risk we can't afford. There does seem to be a growing movement of trans women advertising that they understand native females fears and reservations regarding this. I think the gender neutral provisions are ideal. That way the transperson doesn't have to declare their sex (which goes against their perceived gender ) when entering a toilet. But at the same time women are protected.

towhoknowswhere · 11/10/2025 00:03

Bloozie · 10/10/2025 19:08

One tampon box.

One male loo.

Do you people never sleep...?

I think it's ace. I wouldn't give a flying fuck if there were tampon boxes in every single male loo in the country.

Because I'm a feminist. And if someone who was born a woman wishes for whatever reason - because they're trans, whatever - to use men's loos and it is safe for them to do so, I'm happy that they can access sanpro.

And it normalises periods.

And it's just a basic bit of human kindness that doesn't hurt me, or you, or any man using that loo.

Give it a fucking rest. There are real issues to get angry about - within the gender debate, and in the wider world. Stop rising to every single bit of fucking Daily Telegraph and Daily Mail fucking red meat click bait. It's absolutely fucking pathetic. You wouldn't even know, if someone hadn't decided they wanted to manufacture your outrage.

Take a day off.

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Here here!

Happyjoe · 10/10/2025 23:58

CrispsPlease · 10/10/2025 23:52

I see what you're saying, but it is extremely difficult for a male to reduce male features. Most native males will not be able to pass as females. I do think transwomen will be spotted instantly in a toilet. A select lucky few (that are born very short/petite, without wide shoulders and broad jaw lines ) will pass and we'll be none the wiser and so be it. But most really won't pass.

Yes, I think you're right for the main. I think too a lot of it is down to access to hormones at an early age, to allow for the more delicate features. Which I believe has been stopped for now?

Tbh, I do prefer single sex spaces, all my life it has been like that and was always taught by my mum to watch out for blokes as the loos can be a lonely place, not sure if something happened to her in her youth but it was something she mentioned a bit growing up, and to try and go into them with a friend.

In reality though, well, never seen a transwomen in the loos, at least not someone I noticed!

OakleyAnnie · 10/10/2025 23:56

Sixseveneight · 10/10/2025 18:17

It seems an odd thing to be so worked up about.

No it’s not. It means that they think women who pretend to be men can use the gents (illegal) and therefore men who pretend to be women can use the ladies ( illegal and dangerous)
HTH

CrispsPlease · 10/10/2025 23:55

Happyjoe · 10/10/2025 23:46

Some can still have irregular bleeds imo.

I didn't know that. But I guess they'll probably be conscious of the occurrence and will likely carry protection. I can't be sure as I'm not trans, but I'd imagine their choice of sanitary protection would be pads or something non internal. I should imagine a tampon and the invasive nature of it going internally may cause dysmorphia.

IndoorVoice · 10/10/2025 23:55

Guytheskiinstructor · 10/10/2025 23:52

God, I’m so sick of this made up crap.

Post-SC ruling, it should be abundantly clear to all service providers (and anyone commenting on this issue on MN!) that SINGLE SEX toilets are just that SINGLE SEX. “Transwomen” belong in the gents and “transmen” in the ladies.

Please stop peddling this nonsense and just shut up.

Edited

Also, if the NT wants to actually help, they could donate the money instead to a period poverty charity, and help women and girls in actual need.

Guytheskiinstructor · 10/10/2025 23:55

Happyjoe · 10/10/2025 23:46

Some can still have irregular bleeds imo.

“Transmen” are female, ie. women and need to stay out of gents’ toilets.

It’s the law.

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