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AIBU: to not let DS16 to go out with friends overnight

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SassyBear2 · 10/10/2025 15:25

My DS16 wants to go with two of his friends and some girls to oxford for halloween. I asked him what hell be doing there and he said he has no plans yet but they'll try to get into some club or some house party. He said he doesn't know what time hell be back but be plans on returning by train and it will be quite late. AIBU to not let him do this? I'm not stupid and I know that a group of 16 year olds will be drinking given the chance but why is he trying to go oxford without any specific plans yet?

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SassyBear2 · 10/10/2025 15:29

TheBlueHotel · 10/10/2025 15:28

This is pretty normal for teenagers of that age. Is he year 11 or the one above? I wouldn't be delighted if my DS was doing this and would want to know actual plans and contingency plans but assuming it's the nearest town to me I'd let mine go with a bunch of friends.

He's in sixth form at the moment

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user927464 · 10/10/2025 15:29

Nope. At 16 its house parties of known people and collected by parents.

TheBlueHotel · 10/10/2025 15:28

This is pretty normal for teenagers of that age. Is he year 11 or the one above? I wouldn't be delighted if my DS was doing this and would want to know actual plans and contingency plans but assuming it's the nearest town to me I'd let mine go with a bunch of friends.

MissyB1 · 10/10/2025 15:28

Would be a big fat no from me.

soupyspoon · 10/10/2025 15:27

Erm no.

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 10/10/2025 15:27

How far is Oxford from you?

Is he generally quite well behaved / in with a good crowd?

My guess is he's got wind of a big house party.

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