My boyfriend broke up with me is it normal to still feel happy and positive about life ?

Sounds like you dodged a bullet. And well done on your response to the situation!

I was going to say, be ready for the 180 turn to try to trigger you to "need" him. Your lack of breakdown has likely severely impacted his anticipated reaction!

Move on, carry on!

Good for you OP! He clearly wants and expected you to be devastated without his presence.

As OPs have said, time to cut the cords on this one.

It sounds like he wants you to be devastated and beg him to come back. Does he even want to end the relationship or is this some weird power play for him to feel needed? Either way, I wouldn't want his "support" at this point and I'd tell him you need some space from him. You don't need to be worrying about his motivation and feelings anymore. Tbh, he doesn't sound a great loss.

I don’t know you but I’m really pleased to you. You’ve realised that you don’t need him for your happiness. Cut him out.
Good for you!

Yes, this 👆

So he wanted you to dump all your friends and family for him, which you sensibly refused.
Now he wants to 'support you through the breakup' 😂

You don't need him, and he doesn't like it. Boo hoo hoo. Good on you 👸

Ahh you’ve hurt his fragile ego by responding as an adult. Don’t fall for his manipulation. Looks like he wants someone easier to control but is trying to keep you on the back burner in case he can’t find someone quickly.
Wish him well and cut all contact.
A lot of men can’t deal with an emotionally healthy independent woman. Find someone better. Or stay single.
Do whatever makes you happy, well away from him.

He wanted the excitement of a break up and the thrill of you begging him to stay. He’s still contacting because you’re not giving him the entertainment he’s due.

Now, time to stop replying to him.

Well done! He wanted to make you totally dependent on and controlled by him, and failed. He is annoyed that you are not devastated about being dumped. Have fun without him and resist any attempts for him to 'support' you.

It's an ego thing. He is surprised not to have dented your self-worth when he ended things, and he's very surprised to find his own ego dented because you are still happy, which has maybe made him wonder how important he was to you.

It's quite an amusing and unusual situation. You have risen above him and moved on immediately.

He sounds like a weirdo playing head games with you. How big is his ego if he thinks you need 'support' from him ending the relationship, does he think he's some sort of prize? Tell him the best 'support' he could give you would be to leave you to get on with your happy life, thank you very much.

It's time to finish it and stop talking to him. Block his number and socials. Be civil if you run into him and that's it. He's not a friend, he's not a support, that's ridiculous. He's jerking you around and playing head games with you.

This nails it.

Cut him off, he doesn't want to be with you but wants to keep you as a back up.
I had a boyfriend back in the day do this at around the year mark, I loved him and didn't want to split up but declined to be his friend and stay in touch as I knew that wouldn't work.

I remember breaking up with a boyfriend years ago and singing ‘I’m FREEEE to do whatever I want…’ by Oasis at the top of my voice on the walk home.

I was so happy. He was a nice guy but sometimes the song that comes out of your mouth is the truth.

We should be able to bottle you and give a bit to any woman who needs to be a bit more @Pinkflowers2 !

Your response to the end of a <1yr relationship is super, super healthy. You find it a shame, but not devastating. You are happy and secure enough in yourself that you are able to let this man go if being with you turns out not to be what he wants for himself.

His response to your response, coupled with his expectations about where he should sit within the hierarchy of your other relationships, on the other hand, reveals an at-least-mildly fucked up individual you're better off without.

Your reaction sounds really healthy to me. I think given that he chose to break up with you you owe him precisely zero, whatever it is that he wants now. However I’m going to diverge a little bit from the posters above, I don’t think it’s terribly inhuman or unnatural that he’s a little bit upset to find you don’t seem unhappy about the break-up, especially if you’ve actively been telling him he’s made you feel grateful for the rest of your life. I think most of us would like to feel we’d be missed if we left a relationship! However, his feelings about it aren’t your problem. I’d be inclined to disengage from telling him you feel grateful for your life without him, and just politely disengage from him in general.

😭 he wants you to suffer at losing him

Keep on being happy, it will tear him apart

I would stop further contact with him. Remove him from any SM.

Just get on with your life without him whinging in the background

Why does it matter now what he wants you to do?

You sound fine, he sounds either confused or as someone whose manipulation attempt backfired. In both cases, you can't do much, just keep your boundaries and let him resolve himself.

I wish I was more like you.

He does not want to be with you but he wants you to be UPSET, wailing into a pillow, living in pyjamas, stalking him online, following him and begging him to come back and complete you.

He doesn’t sound like the man for you at all!

I would also be glad if I were you. If you loved him, you would probably be more upset. You have a great outlook and a good balance. Good luck x

He's playing you.

His ego couldn't handle an independent and happy woman, so he created a situation to destabilise you. That didn't work out gow he wanted either, so now he's trying to convince you that you need him around.

He's an utter knobhead and quite frankly, you've dodged a bullet here. This man would happily destroy you to make himself feel needed and bolster his catastrophic ego.

Oh ffs just block him and don't waste anymore headspace on him. The fact that you're so ok with it ending tells me that he probably wasn't a keeper anyway, and his behaviour confirms it.

Massive red flags, here. Consider that you've had a lucky escape, OP, and don't agree to get back with him under any circumstances.