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Men violently preventing women from congregating, communicating and networking, is what the Taliban do. Why is it happening in the UK?

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 10/10/2025 12:27

The FiLiA Women's Liberation Conference was targeted overnight, the attackers even live tweeted the violence.

https://www.theargus.co.uk/news/25532194.live-brighton-centre-vandalised-feminist-conference-begins/

Local politicians are so far silent.

This is literally terrorism, using fear and violence to shut down legitimate peaceful discussions.

Video of the incident: https://x.com/TransBashBack/status/1976555969439223934

Live: Venue vandalised and protesters demonstrate at feminist conference

The Brighton Centre has been vandalised as a feminist conference begins there today.

https://www.theargus.co.uk/news/25532194.live-brighton-centre-vandalised-feminist-conference-begins/

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Shineonyoucrazy · 11/10/2025 10:54

The TransRights Movement has a proud history of violence, promoting violence and threats of violence including sexual violence towards anyone, particularly women, who oppose their views. TRAs have the absolute right to non violent protest but they don’t want this - the clue’s in the name “Bash Back” ffs.

lcakethereforeIam · 11/10/2025 10:49

As though if the conference had taken place at anywhere except Brighton it would have passed off completely peacefully 🙄 All the tras would have been washing their hair.

EasternStandard · 11/10/2025 10:48

Instructions · 11/10/2025 10:37

Are some people seriously making the argument that Brighton belongs to the TRAs and any women who dare to express reality in Brighton are fair game targets for window smashing bullies?

There's a phrase about leopards and faces that fits here.

Yes on here and the politician referenced.

ArabellaSaurus · 11/10/2025 10:47

Instructions · 11/10/2025 10:37

Are some people seriously making the argument that Brighton belongs to the TRAs and any women who dare to express reality in Brighton are fair game targets for window smashing bullies?

There's a phrase about leopards and faces that fits here.

Sian Berry appears to be making precisely this point.

miraxxx · 11/10/2025 10:45

Instructions · 11/10/2025 10:37

Are some people seriously making the argument that Brighton belongs to the TRAs and any women who dare to express reality in Brighton are fair game targets for window smashing bullies?

There's a phrase about leopards and faces that fits here.

Yes, they are really making this argument. Brighton belongs to the troons and their handmaidens. I wonder what other areas of the Uk belong to special interest groups? There are some interesting scenarios that come to mind where gays and trans folk are not going to be too welcome. Justified?

Petitchat · 11/10/2025 10:44

I can't believe we've gone back into ludicrous times again, such as how dare women speak in certain areas.

Disappointing, thought we'd moved past all that....

ArabellaSaurus · 11/10/2025 10:41

They smashed Wes Streetings' office windows. He has condemned the vandalism and intimidation at FILIA.

TheKeatingFive · 11/10/2025 10:39

eatfigs · 11/10/2025 10:36

I agree, and wonder if the EHRC guidance with the inevitable backlash from transactivists will change anything.

Like if this Bashback gang bricked Keir Starmer's windows, would he say anything about it.

I think, little by little, the TRAs are wrecking their position. Not sure how long that will take to trickle down to Labour leadership though.

KTheGrey · 11/10/2025 10:38

ArabellaSaurus · 11/10/2025 08:07

Exactly. Even the violent aggressive males attacking women is unfortunately not all that surprising - what's noteworthy and appalling is Sian Berry suggesting women are not free to meet and discuss women's rights in certain places in the UK. She seems to suggest she attempted to intervene with the booking - if true, this could lay her open to legal action.

I would be so pleased if she were to face a legal sanction for that. It certainly sounds like an anti democratic action that an elected representative should not be doing on the down low.

Instructions · 11/10/2025 10:37

Are some people seriously making the argument that Brighton belongs to the TRAs and any women who dare to express reality in Brighton are fair game targets for window smashing bullies?

There's a phrase about leopards and faces that fits here.

eatfigs · 11/10/2025 10:36

TheKeatingFive · 11/10/2025 10:30

Agreed, but they need to do better.

Much stronger leadership is required to make it 100% clear everybody needs to obey the law, no excuses.

I agree, and wonder if the EHRC guidance with the inevitable backlash from transactivists will change anything.

Like if this Bashback gang bricked Keir Starmer's windows, would he say anything about it.

TheKeatingFive · 11/10/2025 10:30

eatfigs · 11/10/2025 10:27

I think Labour leadership are hoping this issue will go away quietly through the actions of others, like the SC and the NHS, because if it came to a vote it would tear their party apart. Plus they're aware from polling that the electorate mostly doesn't believe in "her penis" ideology.

Agreed, but they need to do better.

Much stronger leadership is required to make it 100% clear everybody needs to obey the law, no excuses.

ThatBlackCat · 11/10/2025 10:28

Kimura · 10/10/2025 16:13

So we agree, I didn't say that you - or anyone for that matter - were supposed to be listening to anything.

To be clear - Angry people break stuff when they're not being listened to. The people this particular bunch are angry about popped up in their back yard, so they went and broke their stuff. It's not that deep.

Everything else - that you are supposed to be listening to them, that they're 'justified' in their criminal damage - these are things you appear to have up. Nobody in this thread has suggested them, except you.

Men are not 'being listened to'. So they smash up windows.

Men are not 'being listened to'. So he throws a glass against the wall.

Men are not 'being listened to'. So he punches a hole in the wall next to her face.

But, it's ok! It's OK! He didn't actually hit any woman! Why you bitches be whining? A punch on the wall near the side of her head isn't that 'deep'. It just that the man 'isn't being listened to'!

FFS, the misogyny and minimising of make violence in your post, in 2025, is pitiful!

Btw, it is not their backyard! It does not belong to them any more than it belongs to the local women who live there too, and turned up to the sessions.

eatfigs · 11/10/2025 10:27

TheKeatingFive · 11/10/2025 09:04

It is a left problem though, no point in denying that.

The communist party is extremely niche, though good for them for standing up for their principles.

Labour has been TWAW until very recently and are still dragging their heels. Only a handful of politicians are properly standing against it. They've had to respond to Cass/SC judgement, it hasn't been an organic change.

All the other left leaning parties are firmly on the side of gender woo and against women. As are the Dems in the US.

I think Labour leadership are hoping this issue will go away quietly through the actions of others, like the SC and the NHS, because if it came to a vote it would tear their party apart. Plus they're aware from polling that the electorate mostly doesn't believe in "her penis" ideology.

TheKeatingFive · 11/10/2025 10:26

childofthe607080s · 11/10/2025 10:24

There should be be no where off limits to women

that was kind of the starting point of feminism

men objected then too

I'm not sure what you mean by this

childofthe607080s · 11/10/2025 10:24

There should be be no where off limits to women

that was kind of the starting point of feminism

men objected then too

TheKeatingFive · 11/10/2025 10:21

EasternStandard · 11/10/2025 10:18

The Sian Berry tweet and these posts are very much ‘look what you made me do’ on behalf of violent men.

A classic marker of an abuser

EasternStandard · 11/10/2025 10:18

Petitchat · 11/10/2025 10:02

Any idea what the reasons are then?

To be angry about a group of women talking to each other?

The Sian Berry tweet and these posts are very much ‘look what you made me do’ on behalf of violent men.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 11/10/2025 10:06

miraxxx · 11/10/2025 10:02

The incel to trans pipeline is obvious to me. Nerds, neuro-divergent types with poor social skills and deep into their internet wormholes with porn addiction bringing up the rear. Many are gamer types. The internet also allows them to find their kind and affirm one another in their lunacy.

It should be noted the Bash Back manifesto about FILLIA had a section about how annoyed they were to be told their violent misogynistic games sold on Steam were being examined...

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TheKeatingFive · 11/10/2025 10:04

flopsyuk · 11/10/2025 09:44

I can't get me head around what looks like this newish (to me) trans (incel ?) movement.

Looking at the men in a series of different demonstrations worldwide they are not 'even' really trying to look like modern girls or women. I'm not sure how this really fits in.

Finding it hard to explain. Especially when it touches on matters of stereotypical dress. It's very true that real women adopt a wide variety of dress.

The boys and men at these protests in different locations look like youths dressed in plain black or in grunge (but nothing like the girls i know who dress like thar look like).

It's like a weird parody of 'i want to be a woman but an incredibly 'ugly' or not feminine woman' and i don't care'.

The opposite to the earlier stereotypical ultra feminine drag type of trans identifying man.

It's a 'i want to be a woman but not look in the mirror' or care what i wear or look like.

They seem to say 'I don't even want to try and look beautiful'. I want to be a woman and reject being 'feminine' as that revolts me'. It's a type of feminine hatred.

There is something more misogynist going on with these particular trans identifying men. That is why I am thinking that if is a type of trans incel movement.

I probably didn't explain this very well.

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I don't think the men demonstrating want to 'be' women.

They've just spotted an outlet to unleash their aggression towards women that society is legitimising right now. It needs to stop.

Petitchat · 11/10/2025 10:02

Kimura · 10/10/2025 21:58

A feminist conference is not trans women’s backyard.

Brighton, basically the UK's capital of inclusivity, is their 'backyard'. It's the equivalent of holding a Ranger's fan club meeting in the carpark of Celtic's ground.

It is about women and for women. Nothing to do with men identifying as women. If they want to be represented and to be heard, they have to organise their own conference.

I agree. But the way protesting works is that those who don't agree try to disrupt the thing they don't agree with.

So no, they have no reason to be angry.

Who are you (or any of us) to decide what people should or shouldn't get angry about? They quite obviously do have their reasons, you just don't agree with them.

Any idea what the reasons are then?

To be angry about a group of women talking to each other?

miraxxx · 11/10/2025 10:02

flopsyuk · 11/10/2025 09:44

I can't get me head around what looks like this newish (to me) trans (incel ?) movement.

Looking at the men in a series of different demonstrations worldwide they are not 'even' really trying to look like modern girls or women. I'm not sure how this really fits in.

Finding it hard to explain. Especially when it touches on matters of stereotypical dress. It's very true that real women adopt a wide variety of dress.

The boys and men at these protests in different locations look like youths dressed in plain black or in grunge (but nothing like the girls i know who dress like thar look like).

It's like a weird parody of 'i want to be a woman but an incredibly 'ugly' or not feminine woman' and i don't care'.

The opposite to the earlier stereotypical ultra feminine drag type of trans identifying man.

It's a 'i want to be a woman but not look in the mirror' or care what i wear or look like.

They seem to say 'I don't even want to try and look beautiful'. I want to be a woman and reject being 'feminine' as that revolts me'. It's a type of feminine hatred.

There is something more misogynist going on with these particular trans identifying men. That is why I am thinking that if is a type of trans incel movement.

I probably didn't explain this very well.

Edited

The incel to trans pipeline is obvious to me. Nerds, neuro-divergent types with poor social skills and deep into their internet wormholes with porn addiction bringing up the rear. Many are gamer types. The internet also allows them to find their kind and affirm one another in their lunacy.

flopsyuk · 11/10/2025 09:44

I can't get me head around what looks like this newish (to me) trans (incel ?) movement.

Looking at the men in a series of different demonstrations worldwide they are not 'even' really trying to look like modern girls or women. I'm not sure how this really fits in.

Finding it hard to explain. Especially when it touches on matters of stereotypical dress. It's very true that real women adopt a wide variety of dress.

The boys and men at these protests in different locations look like youths dressed in plain black or in grunge (but nothing like the girls i know who dress like thar look like).

It's like a weird parody of 'i want to be a woman but an incredibly 'ugly' or not feminine woman' and i don't care'.

The opposite to the earlier stereotypical ultra feminine drag type of trans identifying man.

It's a 'i want to be a woman but not look in the mirror' or care what i wear or look like.

They seem to say 'I don't even want to try and look beautiful'. I want to be a woman and reject being 'feminine' as that revolts me'. It's a type of feminine hatred.

There is something more misogynist going on with these particular trans identifying men. That is why I am thinking that if is a type of trans incel movement.

I probably didn't explain this very well.

TheKeatingFive · 11/10/2025 09:04

FirstCuppa · 11/10/2025 08:51

Nothing silly about wanting to vote for a party that represents 51% of the population properly.
I don't want to be forced to vote Right just because they know basic biology and don't pander to violence.

It is a left problem though, no point in denying that.

The communist party is extremely niche, though good for them for standing up for their principles.

Labour has been TWAW until very recently and are still dragging their heels. Only a handful of politicians are properly standing against it. They've had to respond to Cass/SC judgement, it hasn't been an organic change.

All the other left leaning parties are firmly on the side of gender woo and against women. As are the Dems in the US.

Abhannmor · 11/10/2025 09:00

ArabellaSaurus · 11/10/2025 06:55

Property is respected more than women, is how that looks.

Property is respected more than men even. Touch property at your peril.
Btw, I've never bought the old ' Greens are socialists ' line. They've been in power twice here in Ireland and were pretty good at enforcing austerity with the odd cycle lane.
Certainly Sian Berry seems little different to any other right wing authoritarian. Green feminism includes men. Adopt the new line , or else. They could lose in Brighton next time I reckon.