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Neighbour fall out

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beachcitygirl · 10/10/2025 04:57

we Live in a private road in a small and well to do area where everyone has dogs. I’m terrified of dogs. Yesterday my neighbour laughed when her large dog (off the leash ) jumped on my disabled child (whilst in wheelchair) I absolutely lost my shit and sufficient to say all is not well. Willing to admit I reacted vehemently and shouted at her and dog but am I in the wrong ?

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thegifttaegieus · 10/10/2025 06:16

Well done, venomous cunts like that need to be stood up to.

Eenameenadeeka · 10/10/2025 05:51

You are definitely not unreasonable. I love dogs but they absolutely should not be allowed to jump on anyone, especially not a child in a wheelchair. It's probably not helpful for your child if you react by yelling, more likely to upset your child, but the neighbors need to control their dog.

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beachcitygirl · 10/10/2025 05:47

@Figcherry I completely agree & understand that I’m passing on my fear (working on it and also working on my over protective behaviour)

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Pipsquiggle · 10/10/2025 05:38

I have a dog who is very lively / bouncy, around prams and wheelchairs, I always make sure she's on a lead.
YANBU

Figcherry · 10/10/2025 05:32

I’m a massive dog lover but your ndn was in the wrong here.
She should have apologised and put her dog back on the leash.

However for your child’s sake you need to do something about your fear of dogs.
I was walking my ddog on a leash, she was sniffing the ground and totally minding her own business when a girl about 6 was coming towards us with , I presume, her dgf. The child saw ddog and was hysterical to the point she almost ran into the road.
Obviously this reaction alerted ddog who then took an interest in the child and wanted to see what the fuss was about.

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beachcitygirl · 10/10/2025 05:23

I am absolutely willing to admit that the dog did no actual harm and that seems to be the sticking point with neighbours (oh he’s a lovely dog, just excited to say hello) and I’m the paranoid bitch.
(which I am) but surely to god dog owners should not assume everyone loves their doggo the way they do ?

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chunkybear · 10/10/2025 05:19

I love dogs, but what a bizarre way for the neighbour to react to their dog jumping up to a child in a wheelchair?! I’d be mortified if my dog, who is a medium sized female, did this as even as 22kg she’s pretty heavy when she jumps up excited to see people so YANBU from a dog lover

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beachcitygirl · 10/10/2025 05:13

@Isittimeformynapyet I suspect you are spot on.

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Isittimeformynapyet · 10/10/2025 05:11

All the people who hate dogs will say YANBU and all the people who love dogs will say YABU.

For the sake of living happily in your little community you could approach the neighbour and say you're sorry about reacting so forcefully but you are afraid of dogs and would appreciate it if they would put their dog on a lead if you are around in future. You'll probably find she apologises for her part in it too. If not, I guess you'll have a future of skulking past each other and feeling uncomfortable.