Neighbour fall out

I have two large bouncy dogs and I think YANBU. I would be mortified if they jumped up on anybody! It's a fundamental part of training for goodness sake. Sorry that happened to you OP I'd be upset too.

Dog owner here, one very jumpy-uppy and excitable. Failed to train it out of him, so I take responsibility for him - he’s on a lead in public spaces, door to hall kept closed for deliveries, etc. This is my failing and he absolutely would not be uncontrolled around a wheelchair user. [For context he’s a small/medium size springer, not a ‘big’ dog, but still…]

OP you are absolutely not being unreasonable - fear of dogs aside, you have every right to expect a dog owner to control their dog and to receive an abject apology if they jump up at your child. Owners like this create a bad environment for responsible owners as well as make public spaces unsafe - scary even - for other persons.

You are 100% not in the wrong, I have two of my own dogs and am able-bodied and I've told other other dog owners off pretty vehemently for letting their dogs jump all over me with their muddy paws. I would go nuclear if some moron allowed their dog to jump on my disabled child. It's unacceptable to not have that level of control over your dog, if it's going to behave like that keep it on a lead and take it to training classes.

Don’t be so bloody ridiculous.

OP, I’m a massive dog lover and I’d have lost my absolute shit.
Unacceptable. This one is on your neighbour to extend the olive branch and ensure it doesn’t happen again.

You need to draw a line under it but without apologising

id text her something along the lines of
can we move on from yesterday .Going forward can you please make sure your dog is under control

Right. An invasion of space, being hassled by dogs, is also totally unacceptable. I like dogs and I loathe people's uncontrolled animals interacting with me.

I love dogs and own 3. However the neighbour was completely in the wrong. If their dog is jumping up at anyone its not under control! They need to maintain control of their dog at all times when outside their own property.

I'd be furious with neighbour for
A. Letting her dog jump at child in wheelchair.
B. Laughing

(I own a dog)

I am on your side and I wish I’d been quicker to react when a dog jumped on my daughter. She was toddling through the park and some massive thing knocked her down and was on top of her. I screamed and this ineffectual dog owner came up and was all ‘oh, he’s always doing that, he just loves children’ as my daughter cried. She was terrified of dogs for years.

I hate that woman.

Loving dogs or being afraid of them has nothing to do with it. Size has nothing to do with it.

A dog should not be jumping on a disabled child in a wheelchair full stop.

Or jumping at anyone tbh.

If they aren’t well trained they need to be on a lead.

I love dogs. I have a big bouncy one. I don’t think you’re unreasonable. Your neighbours dog should be under control out in public. It doesn’t matter whether you like them or not, it’s not your responsibility to deal with someone else’s off lead dog. The fact the dog jumped up onto a child in a wheelchair shows it was not under sufficient control. I’m not surprised you’re upset.

if mine had escaped me and done that I’d be endlessly apologetic. You’d probably get cake by way of making amends!

I love dogs however I think this is unacceptable. I would have apologised profusely. I do think though that if possible children should be able to pass a dog without being upset.the river nearby is lovely and popular with 🐕. A little boy was in tears when we passed by wirh our gentle girl.his mum said he hates dogs! Not the best place to go as every other person has one!

Dogs should not be jumping at anyone let alone someone in a wheelchair who is not in a position to defend themselves.

One of mine is very friendly and likes to put is front paws on people if we stop to talk to someone when he is on lead (he is a larger dog). As I know he likes to do that, I make sure that he can’t. If the situation described happened, I would be horrified and full of apologies and would be checking later to make sure your child was ok. But I can’t trust this dog not to be over friendly and behave in a civilised manner, so he is not off lead around anyone.

All the people who hate dogs will say YANBU and all the people who love dogs will say YABU.

As a dog lover with over 30 years of dog ownership, I say YANBU.

I would never have let any dog under my control jump up at a child in a wheelchair. The child can't get away from the dog ffs, and it could have been very frightening.

One of my dogs absolutely adored children and always wanted to go and say hello to them, but because I'm not a twat I would get him under control as soon as anyone who looked less than 15 or so appeared on the horizon.

Some kids are terrified of dogs, some kids are allergic to dogs, as are some adults. It's the responsibility of the dog owner to make sure that their dogs don't go bothering people who don't want to interact with them.

Yanbu

I don’t care that his “friendly” I don’t want his slobber or his fur on me. I don’t want a “hug” from him. Or him to sniff my ass. I don’t want paw prints on me.

I want you to have your dog by law under control which means it shouldn’t be able to touch or sniff me.

I want shit owners to not be shit. And also pick up their dog shit!

and I used to have dogs so not a hater of dogs. A hater of bad owners. I’ll fuss well behaved dogs.

Dont apologise. You did nothing wrong. I really can't imagine laughing at a dog jumping on a disabled child in a wheelchair. What a twat. You can still be civil when you see her.

I love dogs. If my dog jumped on anyone, let alone a child, I’d be mortified.

Dog owner here, and I’m well aware that it’s my legal responsibility to keep my dogs under my control when they are out. Any dog jumping up at other people is out of control, and your NDN should know this. She should be mortified at her own reaction (could she have laughed in embarrassment or nerves) and be apologetic to you. I’m sorry she isn’t!

I watch mine like a hawk for their body language, and also communicate with people we meet so I can prevent this sort of scenario. It’s what every dog owner should do.

Echo above as a dog owner and lover, you are absolutely not being unreasonable.
If owner knows their dog is an excitable jumper the onus is absolutely on them to mitigate - recall and get it under control so that if you/your kid want to say hello politely you then can.
I also seem to remember reading that for a dog to be considered “dangerously out of control” someone only needs to feel threatened by their behaviour.

I've always hated the 'he won't hurt, he's just friendly' as if physical injury is the only risk with dogs. It's just such a rude and inconsiderate invasion of space. Even if you're not scared of dogs, it's horrible to have to cope with interactions like this. I find them incredibly stressful and so, by letting your dog do whatever the fuck it likes, you have, in fact, caused harm.

I love dogs, and there has never been a point in my life when I haven't owned at least one.

You are not being unreasonable.

It does not matter if your dd was harmed or not. Any decent dog owner would not allow their dog to be out of control in public. And jumping up people/children is out of control, even approaching other people without permission is out of control and the dog should not be off leash.

I have dogs and yanbu about losing it.

Nah. Laughing at a child in a wheelchair being assaulted by your uncontrolled dog is the perfect example of a venomous cunt.

Hope this helps.

The bar for being a "venomous cunt" really is low on here

I was verbally attacked on the beach when a whippet puppy jumped up at a small girl. I let the mother rant before I told her it wasn’t my dog. It wasn’t.