Neighbour fall out

I love dogs and would be mortified if one of mine did this. Completely the owner's fault. Absolutely disgusting response from her.

as a dog lover (can no longer have one) I would say a definite yanbu and that owner should be bloody careful that the police don't get involved. Potentially it won't end well for the dog even though its the owners fault.

We have a small dog, my children are used to him (he was here first so they’ve never known life without him). However, my son in particular is scared of bigger dogs. We alway have our dog on a lead near people we don’t know as you never know how people feel about dogs. A large dog jumping at a child in a wheelchair is not funny! I’d have shouted at them too!

We have a small dog, my children are used to him (he was here first so they’ve never known life without him). However, my son in particular is scared of bigger dogs. We alway have our dog on a lead near people we don’t know as you never know how people feel about dogs. A large dog jumping at a child in a wheelchair is not funny! I’d have shouted at them too!

Yanbu op and your Neighbour sounds like an arsehole. Who wants to upset a child in a wheelchair and their Mother just because dogs. Ugh she sounds vile. I would be waiting for an apology from her but I expect you’ll have a long wait. Entitled idiot she is.

I love dogs, but I would've lost my shit if this happened to me and my child. YANBU!!!!
I also would've kept my big dog on the bloody lead as well! Very unreasonable and down right stupid of your neighbour. Is your child ok did they get a fright too?

Dog owner (and lover!) here. Your neighbour absolutely in the wrong. He/she should have control over the dog at all times. I'd have been absolutely mortified and very apologetic if my dog had done the same.
Probably worth having a chat though to smooth things over as you have to live side by side!

No way should you accept this loose dog jumping at your child! It’s very easy to be bruised by a large dog and she’s very vulnerable; if she doesn’t keep it on a lead I’d contact the dog warden and police - I wouldn’t be interested in keeping the peace.

Do we? I wasn't aware we'd met before. I always shut my dog in the garden when people who don't know him come round. I always put him back on the lead in the park when we're near people or other dogs. Even though he's completely obedient and has excellent recall. Sod off with your stereotyping.

No you’re absolutely not in the wrong.

I’m frightened of strange dogs too due to an incident that happened when I was a child, and I would be scared if one jumped up at myself or my children.

A dog should absolutely not be off lead without having reliable recall.

I had a similar experience years ago when my youngest was about 18 months old, my friend and I, with our children, were sitting on a blanket in the park having a picnic when out of nowhere a Collie came bounding up to us, ran though the blanket knocking everything all over the place, and knocked my friend’s little girl flat onto her back and snatched the sandwich out of her hand.

The owner came up laughing and at that point the adrenaline kicked in due to the shock of us being in a vulnerable position sitting on the ground with young children and having no idea what the dog was going to do, I really gave her a piece of my mind…

I love dogs, I have a dog, and no OP YANBU. It's appalling to let your dog jump on anyone who doesn't invite it first, but to jump on a child in a wheelchair and then laugh about it? FFS! These are the types of owners that give the rest of us a bad name! 😡

Actually even those ofnus with dogs and who love them can empathise when an irresponsible dog owner acts like a complete twat.

@beachcitygirl you were absolutely justified at losing your shit. I have a 6 year old spaniel, who I love to bits, however, I appreciate that others do not love her and so she is never off lead unless we are in a privately hired secure paddock. In part because I live in an area where there is an active dog order that prohibits dogs being off lead (not that some people pay attention) but mostly because whilst she has excellent recall. She is a dog and a bit of a dickhead at times and occasionally decides she is deaf. I dont want to cause anyone else to be worried/uncomfortable and so she is on the lead at all times in public.

Being a spaniel. She needs a shed ton of exercise and we are lucky that I have over 200ft of garden that she can play in and a very lovely couple of private hire fields. But I chose her. Not the rest of the village and therefore it is up to me to make sure she is under control and safe and that others are safe.

Your neighbour is an absolute bellend.

I hope your child is ok!

I don’t think your ndn dog should be off the lead when not in a secure dog park. So I think YANBU. I’d be mortified if my dog did this and apologising profusely.

however for neighbourhood cohesion I’d just mention next time ask nicely if the dog could be kept on lead. Personally I wouldn’t apologise for your behaviour but that’s up to you.

i have a dog but I cannot bear this modern attitude that we all have to love dogs and not put humans first.

Unfortunately, dog owners expect everyone to love their dogs 🙄😣

I love dogs and your neighbour is massively unreasonable. My dog adores children, which is why I put her lead on as soon as I see a child, and she’s very gentle and submissive, but I don’t want her to cause fearfulness in a child with unwanted attention. Jumping on any child, let alone one in a pushchair or wheelchair is out of order full stop.

Don’t even think of apologising for your reaction because that will give her permission to carry on letting it happen.

I have two dogs, I love dogs but I would say the OP is YANBU.

It is you and your children's right not to be jumped on by someone else's dog. If I meet someone I don't know while out with the dogs I hold them on a short lead so they cant jump or interact, if that person choose to interact and make a fuss I give them more lead but it is that persons right to not engage or not be jumped on.

I love dogs and don’t think you’re being unreasonable. I have 2 large dogs and they’re always on lead in public. This owner sounds irresponsible and if she carries on letting her dog behave in that way, friendly or not, it’s only a matter of time before someone reports her.

beachcitygirl

You are 100% NOT being unreasonable! Your neighbour is a complete arse, with no consideration at all. You were well within your rights to shout at her.

It took till over 6 months to train my Labrador not to jump up and if there were people about, she was on the lead. Every pushchair we passed, she tried to stick her head in and I'd have to pull her back. I apologised every time, even though I always stopped her from picking a baby.

I absolutely love dogs and am happy to see them everywhere.

Your neighbours behaviour is completely unacceptable. Their dog should not be off leash if it’s likely to jump up like that.

I adore dogs.

YANBU and your neighbour is a massive twat and owes you an apology. You did absolutely nothing wrong.

You are not in the wrong.
But I would follow the advice in the first reply because it's horrible to fall out with neighbours.
Going forward ... you live amongst a load of dogs so you need to get over your fear of them. I would pay for expert help.

Grrrr. I’d be furious. Being jumped up at is only ok if you love dogs and understand doggy behaviour AND have reason to believe a particular dog is not dangerous. Some idiot dog owner chuckling and calling ‘it’s OK, hes being friendly’ does not guarantee any of these requirements.

Dog lover here too. Totally not acceptable for dogs to be jumping up on anyone. Especially a child. The fact that dog likely meant no harm is totally beside the point. However it would be good if you could address your fear if you do live near so many dogs as a heightened reaction could very well make things worse/even dangerous in a situation with an unregulated dog and likely scare your child.

But your neighbour is totally out of line. I’d consider going round calmly and explaining how it felt to your child and to you and be clear that if it happens again you will report them as you are perfectly entitled to do.

my dog at first was a terrible jumper but I trained it out of him within weeks of getting him. It’s a fundamental part of training. Doesn’t matter if the person minds or not. No dog should be jumping up on people. I take a dim view of anyone that allows their dog to do that to me and doesn’t immediately apologise or put them back on the leash as they are a rubbish owner who is actually endangering their dog by having such poor control.

hope your child is ok.

I love dogs, currently have 2, 1 of which is a 40kg lurcher. Has the sweetest nature and wouldn’t hurt a fly but he’s a wanker and if he was off lad, absolutely would jump ip
at your son.

for this reason wanker is on a lead when around other people. Your neighbour is completely unreasonable and dogs should be trained not to jump up at people or be on a fucking lead. I’d have been mortified if I was her and deeply apologetic.

I love dogs but your reaction was spot on.
Hope your piece of shit neighbour apologies today to you and your child.