Friend wants me to pay

yeah, this is no good deed goes unpunished territory.

id say one more time the responsibility is hers to fund sending here things in and then not answer until she finds the money. It’s not difficult to send money from overseas nowadays.

Also, why would you be plotting to steal her 2nd-hand clothes?! 😂 Not even the most useful ones she took with her? Sounds like the sort of thing you would say to try and make someone feel dirty and ashamed, and so do what you want them to (or she really does think her cast-offs are all that).

Absolutely spot on.

If she wants her stuff, the first step towards getting it would be to be polite and apologetic. Calling OP a liar and expecting someone else to pay to send her stuff is CFery of the highest degree.

"Fair enough, if you don't want me to send them, when do you want to come and pick them up? They're taking up room in my house, so soon is better than later tbh".

Since she’s being so horribly unreasonable play her at her own game. Tell her that since she’s only prepared to offer £60 towards the posting of her stuff, the charge for storing her stuff with you is £140 and that as soon as she wires you the £200 you’ll send it. I’ve seen some CF stories on MN but this one takes the cake !!

Personally my gut instinct would be just dump the stuff
but she sounds a twat so no doubt you would be the villain of the piece for doing that

I would send her an email
I’m sorry you seem to be under the impression I was paying for this .it’s your stuff and why would I offer that it’s nothing to do with me .I honestly thought I was doing you a favour by storing this .
give her the following options

1. friend collects it 2)she pays
2. you take it to charity shop
3. you dump it money bay be tight so I’d give her a month

She's nasty. She's no friend.
She has a week, possibly two to send the money, then everything goes to charity. It's actually incredibly kind of you to let her store her things and even offer to send them out without paying for them too.

Awful, entitled woman. Sorry OP, am glad she now lives in another country!

Of course she has to pay if she wants her stuff back .

Do you think that when you said you'd post them later that she stupidly thought you meant that you'd cover the cost? She's an idiot .

Cheeky bitch! Don’t you dare pay.

Give her 2 weeks.
If no money turns up for the postage, you will get rid.
Then block her.
She is no friend of yours.

@wineosaurusrex she sounds like an absolute cow.

Give her 1 week to arrange a collection and if she doesn’t then donate to one of the charities that come to your door for collections xx

Clearly you are not being in anyway unreasonable. However, take some care. I was used as a store house for a massive amount of stuff when a relative moved to Aus. I was not even that close to them and I said yes okay, but only for a very limited time. My mistake was not specifying limited. They then became quite aggressive. A polite response for them to move things got the response that we will store things for as long as we need.. Eventually I used my legal helpline on my insurance which gave me quite a convoluted path to getting rid of their stuff- they were livid that I had the "nerve" to give them notice it was going to the tip. however, clear advice is you do have to give warnings and communicate clearly. You cannot just chuck the lot, tempting as that might be.

What would I do?

NOTHING!

id send her a text and say that id give her 7 days to have her cases collected from you or id dispose of it.

anyone who treats you like this isn’t a friend, you’ll never get any kind of friendship back from this, so write it off and forget about her.

You have done nothing wrong, in fact you’ve been kind and done her a massive favour and she’s been nothing but rude and ungrateful

once the 7 days is up, take it to charity shop.

seriously

Hell would freeze over before I sent her the stuff now whether she paid or not. Tell her she will have to arrange pickup of the stuff before a certain time, 2 weeks maybe or you will dispose of it. Then block.

Well I wouldn’t be posting anything to her if that’s how she’s going to behave! And as others have said, her response is so extreme I would be very concerned that there was something dodgy in her bags….

So first thing I would do is have a good look! Open her cases and go through them. If nothing I would then send a very brief message. “I have stored your bags free of charge because we were friends. You need to arrange for a courier to collect them at a time suitable to me. If they are not collected by the end of October, the bags will be opened and the contents taken to the charity shop”. And do not engage with any more of her nonsense. If she pushes back just repeat. You have until the end of October or they go to the charity shop.

What a nasty person and a complete CF

This

Pp are correct there are often customs charges on top plus if things go missing she will blame you

" Dear CF
Please arrange a courier to collect your property by X date, this is your responsibility not mine
Failure to do so will result in the items being disposed of as I can no longer store them
As a gesture of goodwill I will waive storage fees"

She's trying to bully you
Once the stuff is gone delete and block

Why would anyone pay for this? She's crazy.

Hi Horrible Ex Friend

I'm sending this message then blocking you as your outrageous behaviour is causing me immense stress. You have my bank details and I'm giving you till the end of the month to send me 200. If I receive it I will post the goods. Otherwise I will take it to a charity shop. Your other option is to give my phone number to someone local who agrees to contact me and collect your things. I am getting rid of the stuff as I will not tolerate any further claims that I am stealing your stuff. In fact I did you a huge favour by storing your stuff (and not charging you) then offering to post it. I deserved expected thanks but instead got abusive accusations and demands.

I would send her a message saying, "Please send me the 200 before the end of the month and I will ship you your things. Beyond that date I will not continue to store them for you and everything will be donated to a charity shop."

Given she’s abroad now neither of you need to continue the friendship. Text her saying bank details and amount, give deadline date after which send to charity shop and block her - but signpost it all and keep copies of the texts.

Cheeky fucker. Tell her she has a month to pay the full amount to have her gear sent over or she can choose to pay you for storing her shit or let you donate it.

You can’t just dispose of the goods or sell them as some have suggested without taking some formal legal steps first. You are an involuntary bailee of them in legal terms so you need to give formal notice of your intention to dispose of them and if you sell them you need to keep the proceeds in a separate account and send them to her.

There is a good description of the law and the steps you need to take here

www.stephens-scown.co.uk/disputes-with-businesses/whose-belongings-are-they-anyway-dealing-with-involuntary-bailment/

Send her emails & recorded letter with proof of receipt giving her a deadline date to arrange for somebody to collect from you or they’ll be sent to the local homeless /womensaid charity.
sorry she’s turned out to be a non friend x

She's a complete CF.

She needs to get a return flight to collect them herself. Or pay for postage. Her choice.

Ignore her. Don’t send it to another friend. If she wants her things she can arrange for pick up and shipping.

Font give it another thought until she arranges something.