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My 17yo Niece is temporarily moving in with me

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SlimeSuspect · 09/10/2025 21:43

I’ve just been asked by her mum (my SIL) to temporarily have my 17yo step-niece to stay. She needs a safe place as father who has alcohol issues has become erratic. She is a quiet, goth-type animal lover who I think needs a gentle hand and some female support. I’m actually v flattered that she’s asked and am hoping I can attempt to be the supportive female role model that I needed at her age.

I don’t have children of my own, so the parenting thing is pretty much alien to me. I live on my own, with my dog, am self employed but travel a bit (so she’d be on her own some nights).

Any advice from seasoned teen parents/carers on how I can make this a positive and empowering experience for us both? But still take care of boundaries/house rules etc.

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HarrisonsHair · 09/10/2025 21:49

Get to know her, find out what she likes, how she wants to spend her time, how she would like things arranged. Does she like to have lots of space or would she prefer to hang out with you, what she likes to eat, what support she needs, is she independent?
Treat her like an adult but don't always expect her to behave like one.
And be kind, sounds like she could do with being looked after if things have been difficult at home.

SparklyCardigan · 09/10/2025 21:46

How about the poor lass stays in her home and her father (your brother/BIL?) stays with relatives instead. I could not support this.

SlimeSuspect · 09/10/2025 21:45

Sorry, I didn’t mean to post this in AIBU. I guess it won’t hurt the traffic aspect though!

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