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Spending a lot on cars

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ClawsandEffect · 09/10/2025 19:58

I don't get it. I know cars aren't my thing. To me they are transport. A-B safely and on time.

I do get wanting a reliable car. So not a banger. Safe for the children definitely.

But I am just mystified at why anyone would drop 50K on a car. I understand if you're very wealthy. Because it doesn't make a dent in your finances.

But the parents I see at the school drop off in super expensive / flashy cars when I know their living situation and income bracket (jobs). Why would anyone want to either dump a small fortune into something that depreciates so quicky OR saddle themselves to a small mortgage for a piece of kit that is just going to rust and decay.

Is it just me?

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FeelinTwentySixPointTwo · 12/10/2025 11:35

I spend a lot of time in my car (long commute) but that's exactly why I wouldn't buy a fancy one. Would find it far too stressful being in something that costs £30k plus and worrying someone might scrape it. I go for a boring but reliable old VW.

But that said... I spend a huge amount of money on holidays as travel is really important to me. Some people would find that nuts whereas I don't understand the appeal of cars/handbags/watches/all the other status symbols.

We're all different aren't we, and being sneery or judgmental isn't particularly useful. Unless people are leaving themselves utterly skint and can't feed their kids as they have £300pcm payments on a fancy car or something..

CelestialGazer · 12/10/2025 11:25

FairyRobot · 09/10/2025 20:19

We’re not loaded by any means, but we have a £40k car. It’s leased, as I expect are the vast majority of new cars that you see. Our reasoning is that we’re not interested in owning a vehicle, as it’s an unreliable asset that will only depreciate.

After a few bad experiences with 2nd hand cars costing us a fortune in unexpected major repairs, we decided that we’d rather have the predictability of a regular monthly payment on a new car, that’s under warranty and isn’t going to surprise us. And after 4 years you swap it for a new one using the equity as the deposit on the next car.

You do realise that you still pay for the depreciation, just in monthly instalments?

oakpie · 12/10/2025 11:11

IthinkIamAnAlien · 12/10/2025 11:01

Because we all ought to be taking notice of the growth of cars on our roads which are 1.5 the size of former makes of car and which have hidden costs to us all.
These heavier cars damage the roads thus increasing the costs of mending pot holes etc, they emit more carbon, are less fuel-efficient, and can have higher running costs. On the road, their size makes them harder to maneuver and park, and they can pose a greater risk to pedestrians and cyclists due to larger blind spots and their mass. As for their lights, the position and brightness are just plain dangerous for everyone else.
It's not hard to find reputable information as above, you just have to look.

That’s an SUV issue, I hate big cars, my brand new expensive car that gets judgement on threads like this is a hatchback.

YourPeppyAmberTraybake · 12/10/2025 11:06

My DH bought a 50k electric car when he retired. Hopefully we will have it for 10 years. we’re saving over £ 350 per month on fuel.

IthinkIamAnAlien · 12/10/2025 11:01

oakpie · 10/10/2025 08:36

I find the reverse snobbery around cars really weird, it’s like people get personally offended by the car choices of others. I’m sure we all understand why (most) people want to have the nicest home or the nicest holidays they can have, why would cars be any different? For my DH he is a complete petrol head, it’s his hobby not just a means to an end. For me, cars are a pretty fundamental part of our lifestyle, in terms of reliability and comfort, so I am happy to spend a good chunk on a brand I trust, on the bells and whistles that make the drive more comfortable. What has that got to do with my own level of confidence? Totally get others don’t want to spend big portions of their salary on cars, they may be more of a means to an end for them just as I don’t like spending much on clothes for example, we all have different priorities, but I don’t understand the level of judgement against people who want to have a more expensive car (or how they choose to fund it for that matter).

Because we all ought to be taking notice of the growth of cars on our roads which are 1.5 the size of former makes of car and which have hidden costs to us all.
These heavier cars damage the roads thus increasing the costs of mending pot holes etc, they emit more carbon, are less fuel-efficient, and can have higher running costs. On the road, their size makes them harder to maneuver and park, and they can pose a greater risk to pedestrians and cyclists due to larger blind spots and their mass. As for their lights, the position and brightness are just plain dangerous for everyone else.
It's not hard to find reputable information as above, you just have to look.

ClawsandEffect · 12/10/2025 10:55

botheredandbewilderedagain · 10/10/2025 07:57

Millionaires tend to have homes in other countries and you don't know what kind of cars they keep abroad.

Also, cars that "announce wealth" to you might not, to others.

True. But I know the two families I worked for weren't overtly ostentatious. One family were huge snobs, but not about possessions. Conspicuous consumption was regarded as very non-U (not upper class). Probably because most of their possessions were inherited (antiques etc).

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crazycatladie · 10/10/2025 09:09

Most will probably be company cars. My husband has a company car worth £40,000 no way could be buy a car this expensive ourselves. I drive a ten year old car.

FigTreeInEurope · 10/10/2025 09:07

It's quite hard to understand our ego, and not let it rule be the roost.

oakpie · 10/10/2025 08:36

I find the reverse snobbery around cars really weird, it’s like people get personally offended by the car choices of others. I’m sure we all understand why (most) people want to have the nicest home or the nicest holidays they can have, why would cars be any different? For my DH he is a complete petrol head, it’s his hobby not just a means to an end. For me, cars are a pretty fundamental part of our lifestyle, in terms of reliability and comfort, so I am happy to spend a good chunk on a brand I trust, on the bells and whistles that make the drive more comfortable. What has that got to do with my own level of confidence? Totally get others don’t want to spend big portions of their salary on cars, they may be more of a means to an end for them just as I don’t like spending much on clothes for example, we all have different priorities, but I don’t understand the level of judgement against people who want to have a more expensive car (or how they choose to fund it for that matter).

botheredandbewilderedagain · 10/10/2025 07:57

ClawsandEffect · 09/10/2025 20:20

Yeah, I worked for a couple of millionaire families (one British, old money etc, aristos, one American oil money). Neither had cars that announced wealth.

Millionaires tend to have homes in other countries and you don't know what kind of cars they keep abroad.

Also, cars that "announce wealth" to you might not, to others.

Firstworldproblems2025 · 10/10/2025 07:56

Some very odd responses on this thread. It comes to something when someone having what you perceive as a”fancy” car makes you feel somehow superior?
I have driven and owned everything from a crapped out old banger to a £££ luxury vehicle. It was what I wanted/could afford at the time and I gave and still give, zero fucks what anyone else thinks about it? Why would I? My money, my choice. If you judge me for the car I drive, whether it’s a banger or a super car, you aren’t the type of person I’d want to know.

GlassofRosePorfavor · 10/10/2025 07:41

So people are somehow better if they are old money and drive shit Volvos?

Whenlifegiveslemons · 10/10/2025 07:39

It's an interesting topic & one I find myself wondering. I guess we all have our own ways to spend money - I personally prefer spending on holidays/trips away. But I've got friends who both have high end cars & that's their thing.

Sienna61 · 09/10/2025 21:15

reversegear · 09/10/2025 21:10

Can you image the BIK rates on that.. but good fun 😊

BIK is irrelevant if you get an allowance. Fewer people have company cars these days as the tax position is poor for both employer and employee vs a car allowance.

reversegear · 09/10/2025 21:10

Lonelycrab · 09/10/2025 21:08

Buy a new type R?

Thats what I’d do if I had 50k to spend. Nurburgring times would tend to agree with this…

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Can you image the BIK rates on that.. but good fun 😊

Lonelycrab · 09/10/2025 21:08

Sienna61 · 09/10/2025 21:03

One of the stipulations linked to my car allowance is that the car can’t be more than 5 years old meaning if I drive an old Honda Civic I’m immediately 14k pa out of pocket.

Buy a new type R?

Thats what I’d do if I had 50k to spend. Nurburgring times would tend to agree with this…

TessSaysYes · 09/10/2025 21:04

I'm with you OP, I'd rather landscape the holiday home grounds, or get triple glazing, than curate a big awkward SUV for a car lease company.
An old 2nd hand car costs no way near the yearly leasing on a new car.
People should do whatever they like really...if they can afford it...but I feel a bit sorry for them 😢

Sienna61 · 09/10/2025 21:03

Lonelycrab · 09/10/2025 20:59

It is a decent size for what I need and is incredibly comfortable to drive. I really like it

Strange, as I get all of that from a civic that’s worth 4 grand😄

One of the stipulations linked to my car allowance is that the car can’t be more than 5 years old meaning if I drive an old Honda Civic I’m immediately 14k pa out of pocket.

Shade17 · 09/10/2025 20:59

£50k isn’t a lot to spend on a car these days. If you want something brand new and nice you’ll be spending more than that.

Lonelycrab · 09/10/2025 20:59

Sienna61 · 09/10/2025 20:57

I’m not at all into cars however I recently bought a fairly decent SUV for around 50k. It is a decent size for what I need and is incredibly comfortable to drive. I really like it.

I get a car allowance of 14k pa so it’s easily affordable.

Quite a few parents at DS’s school have similar cars but those I know all have decent jobs so they don’t feel like disproportionate purchases.

It is a decent size for what I need and is incredibly comfortable to drive. I really like it

Strange, as I get all of that from a civic that’s worth 4 grand😄

Scottishlassie10 · 09/10/2025 20:57

SeaAndStars · 09/10/2025 20:52

Careful, or we'll have a new thread about people who have big garages.

Ha you’re probably right 😂

Sienna61 · 09/10/2025 20:57

I’m not at all into cars however I recently bought a fairly decent SUV for around 50k. It is a decent size for what I need and is incredibly comfortable to drive. I really like it.

I get a car allowance of 14k pa so it’s easily affordable.

Quite a few parents at DS’s school have similar cars but those I know all have decent jobs so they don’t feel like disproportionate purchases.

Zempy · 09/10/2025 20:56

YABU

I have zero interest in cars. I drive a twelve year old hatchback.

However, I understand that some people prioritise cars. They probably don’t understand why I spend such a large proportion of my disposable income on holidays. So what?

SeaAndStars · 09/10/2025 20:52

Scottishlassie10 · 09/10/2025 20:46

Just as well you don’t see our garage. 2 Porsches and 2 BMWs. All paid for.

Careful, or we'll have a new thread about people who have big garages.

Konstantine8364 · 09/10/2025 20:47

I do think there are 2 types of people who spend a lot on cars; people who actually like and appreciate cars as a hobby/interest and people who want to keep up with the Jones's. The first type I totally get, my hobby is horses and I spend a ridiculous amount on them. Ive got some mates who bought expensive cars, do all detailing, go on car forums etc and it isn't for me, but its very understandable. I feel really sorry for the people who dont really care about cars but feel they have to spend a tonne of them (and other things) to look rich/good, then have less money for the things they actually value.