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Spending a lot on cars

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ClawsandEffect · 09/10/2025 19:58

I don't get it. I know cars aren't my thing. To me they are transport. A-B safely and on time.

I do get wanting a reliable car. So not a banger. Safe for the children definitely.

But I am just mystified at why anyone would drop 50K on a car. I understand if you're very wealthy. Because it doesn't make a dent in your finances.

But the parents I see at the school drop off in super expensive / flashy cars when I know their living situation and income bracket (jobs). Why would anyone want to either dump a small fortune into something that depreciates so quicky OR saddle themselves to a small mortgage for a piece of kit that is just going to rust and decay.

Is it just me?

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Crochetandtea · 12/10/2025 12:22

ContentedAlpaca · 12/10/2025 11:43

New cars seem to come with a much bigger risk of computer faults and electrical faults than they used to.
Garages are over the moon when we turn up with our ancient cars where the only things that can go wrong are mechanical.
I can see why people effectively pay a subscription for a new, pricier car that they can hand back if there's a problem.

My previous Toyota didn’t have electric windows in the back. My son’s friend used to comment on it quite frequently in a ‘ this is a crap car ‘ way - my son knew what he was insinuating.
Anyway he said something one to many times and my son replied, Yes my parents prefer to spend money on things which make them money not cost them money. Proud parent moment.
Same parent in their expensive Audi was complaining about affording food one month into Covid. I know which one I’d rather be.

More people should plan for the future. The government are quite happy for poor people to spend everything they have and then some. They need them to keep the economy going while they hoard their millions. When people wise up to this it gives them financial freedom. Much more valuable than any expensive car on their driveway.

MermaidMummy06 · 12/10/2025 12:22

Status, impulse buying, because finance looks attractive & salespeople are good at selling. Sometimes it's just because they want a nice car. It's all about priorities & comfort with debt.

I'm currently after a car upgrade from my 17 year old car. I looked at two cars yesterday. One perfect for what I need, a reasonable price, but older & well, dull. Another flash, two years old & with all the bells & whistles, but would wipe all our savings. I admit I was tempted. My practical side always wins out, as my need for financial stability & hate of debt is very strong. Whereas, a mum acquaintance has just bought a very expensive car & admitted they now have two on finance & owe a bomb. She's happy, loves the car. Almost recoiled when I mentioned how old my car is! We're just different.

oakpie · 12/10/2025 12:17

FairyRobot · 12/10/2025 12:13

Of course, I’m not suggesting that it doesn’t. I was just stating we don’t value it as an asset as we would our house for example. The main benefit for us is the predictable payments, and the stress/risk reduction.

Years ago we bought a second hand vehicle for about £12k. In the first year it cost us £5k in a massive repair issue that we couldn’t claim back from the retailer as it was sold as seen despite being from a dealer. It was also off the road for 2 months in that time. We were also paying interest on the loan we took out to buy it, as we didn’t have the £12k outright. By the time we came to sell it, I worked out it would have only cost us marginally more to have had a new leased car over that time, but without all the stress and inconvenience it had given us. That was the deciding factor for us!

Obviously not everyone gets so unlucky and some used cars run forever, but it’s personal choice, and not everyone is doing it purely for vanity reasons, or to keep up with the Jones’s.

That said, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy the ‘new’ factor. Not because it looks fancy, just because it’s nice to sit in a car that’s perfect and clean. Bonus!

This is how I feel about it. I don’t care that the value depreciates, my car is not an investment, I invest my money in my house, pension and savings. I spend the rest on things I enjoy; holidays, good food, and a car I enjoy driving. I pay for my car what I am happy to pay monthly, I do not care what I have to show at the end of the term. Like you I like the predictability of the monthly payments on a newer car, I know I pay for that predictability. I can afford it and am comfortable with that.

FairyRobot · 12/10/2025 12:13

CelestialGazer · 12/10/2025 11:25

You do realise that you still pay for the depreciation, just in monthly instalments?

Of course, I’m not suggesting that it doesn’t. I was just stating we don’t value it as an asset as we would our house for example. The main benefit for us is the predictable payments, and the stress/risk reduction.

Years ago we bought a second hand vehicle for about £12k. In the first year it cost us £5k in a massive repair issue that we couldn’t claim back from the retailer as it was sold as seen despite being from a dealer. It was also off the road for 2 months in that time. We were also paying interest on the loan we took out to buy it, as we didn’t have the £12k outright. By the time we came to sell it, I worked out it would have only cost us marginally more to have had a new leased car over that time, but without all the stress and inconvenience it had given us. That was the deciding factor for us!

Obviously not everyone gets so unlucky and some used cars run forever, but it’s personal choice, and not everyone is doing it purely for vanity reasons, or to keep up with the Jones’s.

That said, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy the ‘new’ factor. Not because it looks fancy, just because it’s nice to sit in a car that’s perfect and clean. Bonus!

ClawsandEffect · 12/10/2025 12:13

Theseventhmagpie · 12/10/2025 12:10

Rubbish. Do you actually know any multi millionaires??

I worked for 2. Neither bothered with cars that were anything special. One in particular had a very beat up, old, estate car.

I do agree @Crochetandtea. Some of their attitudes were horrible. But I was completely with them on the lack of expenditure front.

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Theseventhmagpie · 12/10/2025 12:10

Homephonea · 09/10/2025 20:15

Normally down to insecurity sadly. They think that’s what wealthy people do. It’s not,

Rubbish. Do you actually know any multi millionaires??

stclementine · 12/10/2025 12:10

reversegear · 09/10/2025 20:38

I love cars, I drive a classic Porsche 911 that I’ve wanted since I watched flash dance at 8 years old and I’ve spent my life wanting to own one and finally at 50 I bought one. I personally drive it and couldn’t care less if it was invisible, I don’t give a hoot what anyone thinks of me smiling like a looney with my roof off and the engine noise, she’s beautiful. 😍 and is a massive treat to me.. I’ve worked my entire arse off.

I also have a 70K company Landrover, it costs me £900 a month and is hybrid and I run it via the business to reduce my corporation tax, I have huge dogs, live in the country and again don’t care less if nobody ever knew what I drive or owned it’s just my car, I also only have it on lease for 3 years so will never pay £70k just renting it for a time.

I also drive cars form the 90s proper old bangers and over my life have owned Porsches, landies, lotus and raced on tracks.

if you met me for a wine and a whizz in the 911 you’d understand car people, what you are describing is maybe a car idiot like me or maybe someone who’s showing off but you’ll never know.

I get your confusion but people who don’t get cars don’t take up any of my headspace, so maybe free up your headspace. Maybe they have saved forever or maybe they are a show off. You’ll never know 😍

You are my hero! From another Porsche obsessed track junkie

oldFoolMe · 12/10/2025 12:10

My work offer a salary sacrifice to lease a brand new car. As a higher tax rate payer it saves me a lot , plus everything is covered. Service, maintenance, tires, mot , and insurance so if anything goes wrong i know im covered.

ShesTheAlbatross · 12/10/2025 12:09

Cars are things that just do not interest me. I’ll never buy an expensive car.

But I’m sure people who do might look at things I buy and think “I’d never spend my money on that”

Crochetandtea · 12/10/2025 12:07

ClawsandEffect · 12/10/2025 10:55

True. But I know the two families I worked for weren't overtly ostentatious. One family were huge snobs, but not about possessions. Conspicuous consumption was regarded as very non-U (not upper class). Probably because most of their possessions were inherited (antiques etc).

Edited

Rich people like this are the worst. They inherited everything but feel they have the right to look down their noses at those who actually have to work for a living.

Crochetandtea · 12/10/2025 12:05

It’s a status symbol. Pretending to have more money than you do must make you feel better about yourself??
And to previous posters justifying their cars - it doesn’t sound like the op means people who can actually afford the cars. It’s those who struggle to pay for the car while complaining about being broke.
I’m sure there is lots of research on the reasons why people do it? When you are comfortable in yourself and have the money to buy the car outright often you don’t feel the need to buy the car because you don’t have anything to prove. I’d rather have ££££ in the bank and drive my 7 year old car than drive a new car with £ in the bank. I’m more interested in building generational wealth than looking rich.

mindutopia · 12/10/2025 12:03

No, I don’t get it either. I do have a Volvo, which I love. But it’s secondhand and I paid £6k for it. I’d never buy a new one.

I do have a school mum friend. She’s a single parent, no partner, so no other household income. I’m not really sure what she does. She has a “shop” somewhere that she goes to check on maybe once a month. Doesn’t otherwise appear to work. Lives in a small ordinary house. She drives a £100k custom car. I’d never even seen one in person before, so had to look it up.

If I had £100k to drop on a car, I’d be buying a nicer house or putting my dc in private school or investing in something. It would be different if I was otherwise flush, but if I appeared to be not very financially secure in the rest of my life, I’d not be spending £100k on a car.

stclementine · 12/10/2025 12:02

I have an expensive car because I drive a lot and like cars. There does seem to be this weird thing on here where cars are because someone wants to look wealthy but the truth for most of us who drive flashy cars is the more mundane - we just like cars. I don’t care if someone thinks that I’m wealthy or not. I don’t care that MNetters are judging me. I just like my gorgeous silver Audi A6 😍

oakpie · 12/10/2025 11:58

Redpeach · 12/10/2025 11:51

Cos the expensive ones are often the larger ones

Not exclusively no, plenty of the large ones are old diesel guzzling SUVs, and there are thousands of luxury hatchbacks and sports cars on the roads.

PollyBell · 12/10/2025 11:55

I dont get spending on a lot on cars but I don't notice what people drive i also dont get the point of watching certain TV shows or having certain hobbies but I dont need to get if it works for them

AlaskaThunderfuckHiiiiiiiii · 12/10/2025 11:53

We don’t smoke rarely drink, holiday in the U.K. when we do have a holiday and we just like a nice car, I’m a community nurse and so my car is basically my office and spend 90% of my time in it so yes I like a nice new car with a warranty and nothing to worry about for 3 years. We’ve just got a brand new car it’s a mild hybrid and already we’re saving some money on fuel

HelpMeGetThrough · 12/10/2025 11:52

YourPeppyAmberTraybake · 12/10/2025 11:06

My DH bought a 50k electric car when he retired. Hopefully we will have it for 10 years. we’re saving over £ 350 per month on fuel.

Just spending a grand a month in the leccy.

Redpeach · 12/10/2025 11:51

oakpie · 12/10/2025 11:48

How does someone having an expensive car affect others? Sure if you want to talk environment, size of car etc, but this thread is sneering at people spending money on cars, not the impact of the car itself.

Cos the expensive ones are often the larger ones

Dearg · 12/10/2025 11:51

DH & I love driving , we like cars that are enjoyable to drive. Personally, I like a bit of modern tech in mine- cameras, sat nav, apple play, etc.

My only rule, apart from affordability, is that I have to be able to park it ( and drive it safely of course) And that’s pretty much the judgement I make on others.

Have as big or small, new or old, £££ or £ , as you like, but drive it safely, and park it neatly.

oakpie · 12/10/2025 11:48

Redpeach · 12/10/2025 11:46

When your choices affect others, people will judge

How does someone having an expensive car affect others? Sure if you want to talk environment, size of car etc, but this thread is sneering at people spending money on cars, not the impact of the car itself.

Redpeach · 12/10/2025 11:46

oakpie · 10/10/2025 08:36

I find the reverse snobbery around cars really weird, it’s like people get personally offended by the car choices of others. I’m sure we all understand why (most) people want to have the nicest home or the nicest holidays they can have, why would cars be any different? For my DH he is a complete petrol head, it’s his hobby not just a means to an end. For me, cars are a pretty fundamental part of our lifestyle, in terms of reliability and comfort, so I am happy to spend a good chunk on a brand I trust, on the bells and whistles that make the drive more comfortable. What has that got to do with my own level of confidence? Totally get others don’t want to spend big portions of their salary on cars, they may be more of a means to an end for them just as I don’t like spending much on clothes for example, we all have different priorities, but I don’t understand the level of judgement against people who want to have a more expensive car (or how they choose to fund it for that matter).

When your choices affect others, people will judge

ContentedAlpaca · 12/10/2025 11:43

New cars seem to come with a much bigger risk of computer faults and electrical faults than they used to.
Garages are over the moon when we turn up with our ancient cars where the only things that can go wrong are mechanical.
I can see why people effectively pay a subscription for a new, pricier car that they can hand back if there's a problem.

Caroparo52 · 12/10/2025 11:41

Totally get you.

HelpMeGetThrough · 12/10/2025 11:38

It’s an extension of their “personality” for some.

(think I’ll take the Ferrari for a spin today).

edwinbear · 12/10/2025 11:37

DH and I aren’t bothered about cars - we both have old second hand cars, bought outright and get run into the ground. We spend our money on private school fees as that’s important to us. Some people value plenty of decent holidays, or a big house, or ploughing as much as possible into their pension. Others get a lot of pleasure from their cars - it doesn’t really matter does it?