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To be sick and tired of DP’s requests?

196 replies

Newjob25 · 09/10/2025 18:05

We are two years in, and every time we are going to be intimate, DP asks me to dress up in something.

Started off with lingerie, now it’s ’oh do you have any leather’, or if we are watching TV - ‘do you have some boots like her for later’.

The odd occasion - absolutely fine. But it’s become a chore now.

He said I should feel sexy getting dressed up and seeing how much he enjoys it.

AIBU to say enough is enough?

OP posts:
Ellie56 · 09/10/2025 19:39

I think it's time to send this twat packing. You can do much better than him.

BellissimoGecko · 09/10/2025 19:32

Tell him you’d like to urinate on him, then tell him he should want to do it to make you happy. Twat.

Ellie56 · 09/10/2025 19:32

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 09/10/2025 18:12

Start making suggestions for him. The cat from Cat in the Hat. The Gruffalo. Mr Tumble.

😅😂

Yes do this!

OodlesTheTalkingPoodle · 09/10/2025 19:30

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 09/10/2025 18:12

Start making suggestions for him. The cat from Cat in the Hat. The Gruffalo. Mr Tumble.

BLIPPI

Blueuggboots · 09/10/2025 19:30

My ex did this. It was fucking tedious.
it also made me feel shit about myself because I wasn’t enough as I was, IYSWIM?
He wouldn’t dress up for me!!
did I mention he is my EX?

Beachtastic · 09/10/2025 19:30

Tiswa · 09/10/2025 18:11

you simply aren’t compatible and yes it is too much constantly placing his needs front and centre

It's horribly clear what he's placing "front and centre"!

LemonJellyLegs · 09/10/2025 19:29

FeliciaFancybottom · 09/10/2025 18:08

Where is he expecting you to magic up some leather and kinky boots from on a whim (his whim!)?
Does he think you're Mr Benn?

😅😅😅

Bring back the Funny button!!!

OodlesTheTalkingPoodle · 09/10/2025 19:28

Sandy483 · 09/10/2025 18:43

I thought you said Mr Bean and was trying to think of a time Mr Bean had worn leather and kinky boots.

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Same 😂

DavidKeanu · 09/10/2025 19:28

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@FeliciaFancybottom fucking dying at Mr Ben 😭

NoSoupForU · 09/10/2025 19:27

Why are you doing something you don't want to do? Say no for Christ's sake!

arethereanyleftatall · 09/10/2025 19:25

Newjob25 · 09/10/2025 18:47

Thanks all. Yesterday was the final straw I think - he had a rare day in the office and text on his lunch: “idea for Friday. You can tell I’ve not been in HO for a while. Pencil skirt?!”

That is grim. Basically telling you he’s got the horn from how some of the women in his office are dressed.

finish with this man op, but please learn something from this. Women are not placed on this earth for the entertainment and sexual wants of men. The key word for you would be mutual. It doesn’t sound like this guy gave a second thought to what you might want in bed, just what he does.

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 09/10/2025 19:24

Newjob25 · 09/10/2025 18:47

Thanks all. Yesterday was the final straw I think - he had a rare day in the office and text on his lunch: “idea for Friday. You can tell I’ve not been in HO for a while. Pencil skirt?!”

Fucking hell, what office does he work in? In what decade? He's fancying himself as Don Draper isn't he? Put on trackies and an oodie and tell him its a wfh day.

Bestfootforward11 · 09/10/2025 19:23

And he’s doing what exactly to please you? It’s all about him. Honestly, life’s too short to have to explain to someone that not giving the barest thought that you might you have your own desires and needs is a pretty major turnoff. X

susiedaisy1912 · 09/10/2025 19:21

Yuk that would put me right off. It’s not you he wants to be intimate with but a fantasy

Luna6 · 09/10/2025 19:18

FeliciaFancybottom · 09/10/2025 18:08

Where is he expecting you to magic up some leather and kinky boots from on a whim (his whim!)?
Does he think you're Mr Benn?

Made me laugh.

PrawnofthePatriarchy · 09/10/2025 19:17

Dump him. Most men find their partner's naked body all the turn on they want. I would be so put off by this man's relentless demands. As a PP said, your guy is pornsick. I find myself wondering if he has erectile dysfunction without all the trappings he requires.

As I said - dump the waste of space bastard. And don't ever worry that you're to blame for any of this. It's all him.

Luckyingame · 09/10/2025 19:15

I wouldn't do this even once, plus other particular things regarding sex and men.
I didn't miss on anything, quite the opposite.
Tell him to jog on.

ladygindiva · 09/10/2025 19:13

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 09/10/2025 18:12

Start making suggestions for him. The cat from Cat in the Hat. The Gruffalo. Mr Tumble.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Dawnintheageofaquariams · 09/10/2025 19:12

Another one that has watched too much porn...
An occasional lingerie set is one thing, but every time?
Would dry me up faster than a roll of Regina Blitz. (Other absorbent cleaning products are available)

outerspacepotato · 09/10/2025 19:11

Newjob25 · 09/10/2025 18:47

Thanks all. Yesterday was the final straw I think - he had a rare day in the office and text on his lunch: “idea for Friday. You can tell I’ve not been in HO for a while. Pencil skirt?!”

If, and that's a big if, you want to keep this selfish dude around, tell him he's turned sex into a dreaded chore with his constant wardrobe special requests. You're tired of it. You want sex where your pleasure matters. Not to be treated like a dress up mannequin.

Or just dump. He doesn't really sound with the effort.

WeNeedToTalkAboutIT · 09/10/2025 19:09

Leave him and leave a blow up doll on his couch. That's clearly all he wants.

MrsLizzieDarcy · 09/10/2025 19:06

If he can't get aroused by regular intimate loving sex, he's got issues.

Run.

TheFatCatSatOnTheMat · 09/10/2025 19:05

How to make dressing up in sexy lingerie and the like really fucking boring? Wearing it all the time.

He sounds tiresome OP. And that message about the pencil skirt… just no.

Cucy · 09/10/2025 19:04

Have you told him how you feel?

I love dressing up, it makes me feel so sexy but doing it to regularly would defeat the purpose.

It’s meant to be a special thing to spice things up every now and then, not do it to death.

Wadadli · 09/10/2025 19:03

Newjob25 · 09/10/2025 18:47

Thanks all. Yesterday was the final straw I think - he had a rare day in the office and text on his lunch: “idea for Friday. You can tell I’ve not been in HO for a while. Pencil skirt?!”

“Do fuck off!” Him, not you

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