To be sick and tired of DP’s requests?

Please don't marry him. Sounds like he is a tedious, selfish sexist pig as well.

Who wears ‘pencil skirts’ ? Are they back in fashion without my realising?

my mum used to go on about pencil skirts in the 1980s.
I wasn’t allowed to wear one because ‘they ride up when you sit down’
i didn’t have a fucking clue what she was on about .
how old is this man op? it doesn’t sound like regular people chat.
Sounds like he was texting after waking from his fever dream

And back in the sea he goes. What a massive ick

Suspect its more likely that he has a weird porn "storyline" in his head. Boss with secretary etc

Another vote for telling him he's tedious bore and he needs to fuck right off. He's gross.

As an aside, who buys all these costumes and where do you stash them?

That wouldn’t be for me either. I can’t explain why but perhaps that it’s just too much preparation and would take the fun out of it somehow.

Is he even thinking about you? Or the woman on the tv in the boots/ some woman in the office in a pencil skirt etc? Is it actually a way of fantasising that you’re someone else?

Use the old MN classic on him “are you on glue?!”

Not too late to call it off.

I wish I had the night before my first wedding when I finally realised what a huge mistake it was. And no, it wasnt "easier to go through with it and get divorced later". It felt like it at the time but honestly, it wasnt.

Eeew. That's grim - he wants you to dress up as one of his colleagues. What a sexist pig.

Is there a reason you havent dumped him??!

If you as you are is not enough for him then he isnt good enough for you.

I could of written this myself! I am in the exact same boat! And we are getting married tomorrow

😅😅

The ick is strong with this one.

And you know once you've got the ick it doesn't go away.

He’s obviously in to dominating you in one way or another. And it seems you played ball at the beginning so he needs to understand that sex isn’t just for his pleasure, it involves the two of you. So it seems to me you would have been fine if this was a bit more 50/50 - some of the sex he likes and some that you like.

the comment ‘why don’t you wear boots like her’ to a rando on telly would fuck me off tbh.

He would be dumped he sounds like a creep ffs

I’m all for spicing things up in the bedroom but this is a major turn off not to mention a bloody faff having to get dressed up every time he wants sex, either your own naked body is enough or it’s not you don’t need to put up with this shit.

That doesn't work for me.

That simple.

He's a cheeky fecker. He'll try to talk his way around excuses and guilt you into not 'doing it for him'.

If he doesn't get the hint, a 'Fuck, no!' might suffice.

🤣

That's a whole other fetish

I'd dress up a character from a horror film, maybe Hannibal Lecter complete with mask

Just say no. Tell him it's all a bit much and he can start dressing up for you.

He's being really entitled.

That would give me the major ick

Dressing up every now and again is fine, but every time you start to get intimate, he wants you to pull a sexy costume out of the bag 🙄 Can he not have sex without you dressing up? If that's the case, then he's got issues, that you can't solve. Have you spoken to him regarding how you feel? Him telling you, how you should feel, is him, not listening to you and minimising your feelings. When he comes over on Friday, expecting you to be wearing a low cut blouse, black pencil skirt and high heels - I'd be wearing a onesie! When he asks where's the sexy outfit, I'd be blunt - I am bored out of my bloody mind dressing up for you every time we have sex. It's tedious and making sex a chore. So no, there won't be a pencil skirt tonight or any other night.

So he's telling you he spends his time in the office fantasising about all the women who work there. So they are all sex objects too. He's telling you "I'm a creep".

It's wearing isn't it.

OK, I'll be the lettuce if you are the cucumber ... but no onion this time - it makes my eyes water.