To have made my partner switch hotels in London?

Please do tell him to sling his hook and go home/stay in the shitty place. You'll have more fun on your own than with him sulking and huffing.

Tight arsing on a birthday trip is so unattractive. Espeically being proud of finding something horrible 'but it's cheap'. Presumably you weren't expecting the Ritz, just somewhere clean and safe.

He didn''t have to choose a trip to London if he couldn't do it properly. If he couldn't afford a half way decent hotel (a Premier Inn or similar), and a nice sit down meal in a (inexpensive) restaurant, then he should have suggested something cheaper to do locally that you'd enjoy.

Bloody hell op, he’s a keeper (not!). I’d be going out to dinner on my own, to celebrate my new singledom, having ceremoniously dumped him for being a tight arsed twat.. I strongly suggest you do the same.

Omg bin the cheapskate l!

Has this behaviour completely come out the blue Op? And no indication of him being very tight and, even worse, getting in to awful grumps?

Whereabouts are you? Us Londoners could recommend somewhere?

Omg I’d be so annoyed. He maybe has different standards to you, I mean who knows, maybe the place he’s staying at when he goes skiing is a dump too, but his whole attitude would be a deal breaker for me. Someone doesn’t need to spend a tonne of money on their partner but they need to show they’re thoughtful, considerate, loving etc. He isn’t giving off those vibes.

edit to also say- wtf, five guys??!!!. Even if you love burgers there are some exciting independent burger bars in London he could’ve made the effort to look up and book one for you. Sorry he’s crap, but hope you love Hamilton.

How old are you OP?

Jesus Christ, I’d seriously leave. Go home after the theatre. He’s an idiot!

It is £500 for three nights, not one

I wouldn’t pay £500 for a night, there’s less expensive places even Prenier Inn is cheaper than that

Probably standing ones

OP, staying in a homeless hostel, or whatever the hell this place was, is not a “birthday treat”. If he doesn’t split the bill I would dump him honestly.

I agree with @limegreenheart
"it's possible to get past this IF it were mainly a matter of different standards/priorities and his being an inexperienced traveller, but the fact that he's sulking rather than apologising and going all out to make the best of things is a bad, bad sign!"

A decent guy would be apologising and laughing at his mistake, admiring the room you'd booked and saying make a great night of it anyway etc... instead of sulking so much to guarantee you have an awful time.
Or would have owned up and said that the holiday cost more than he thought and could you go halves on accomodation. like an adult.

What a loser. Fallen at the first fence.

PS. Don't they have tables at five guys.....? Could have been part of a nice London walk.. And who eats at 4 bloomin 30?

This has got to be a wind-up. I refuse to believe this woman can be that much of an idiot to stick with a guy like that. It's just embarrassing.

Honestly, I would tell him to stay in the place he booked and I'd do my best to have a lovely weekend without him.

😂

Ewww tell him to take himself home. Seriously.
Go out by yourself and enjoy your birthday. He hasn’t set the bar low….there is no bar. At all.

Grotty dive of a hotel AND burger takeaway? He knows how to show a lady a good time, doesn’t he?

Seriously, bin this stingy sulky twit. We recently had to stay in what appeared to be a “rooming house” earlier this year for a funeral, but it was clean, had windows and a door that properly locked (cost a bit more than 30 quid a night too).

OP is your bar really set that low? He is a complete twat.
YABU to have paid it - I would have just gone home.

@LondonWoes is this your first trip away together, and/or have you booked and organised every other trip? If this is standard for him then I’d expect other red flags, but if you’ve done all the leg work up until now or you’ve paid previously I can see why this this might have slipped under the radar.

Out of interest are you the higher earner?

I have searched for london hotels recently. 30 quid wouldn't buy you a night in a hostel so I can only imagine what kind of dive it was. He should have at least gone halves on the hotel.

Jeez. Five Guys is barely a step up from McDonald's.

It sounds awful and I totally agree that he should stay at the "scuzzy fleapit" a PP called it. But the comments on this are comedy gold and have cheered me up from feeling a bit rubbish this afternoon

Physical keys can do this too. All my uni accommodation used this set up. But that doesn’t mean that’s what they had at this house. It’s expensive to get secure systems that do this. Much more expensive than a set of identically keyed Yale locks. So a £30/night (illegally converted?) AirBnB would not seem a likely candidate.

Wow. He hates you.

Where is your sense of self worth and self respect? Dump this loser.