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Would you report this group chat?

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Fabulously · 08/10/2025 22:22

My university has a student forum where the module chair shared details of a group chat he created for students to get study support. The group chat is not officially endorsed by the university but has well over 100 students and university staff members included such as tutors.

I’ve only been in it a week (haven’t posted anything) - but it gets heated; the module chair sends frequent edgy jokes about politics, disabilities, schools etc. Others join in with more outright inappropriate messages about immigration and benefits & the like, arguing ensues.

Earlier today, he got into a full argument with one of the students who started insulting the module chair’s mother in response, module chair responded in kind - basically a bizarre dispute. Would you just exit the chat or also make some attempt to report the unprofessional messages? I feel uncomfortable reporting given staff members are involved, as I wouldn’t want it to impact my studies! But at the same time it makes me look at the university differently, if the staff act like this, like I wouldn’t go to that module chair for help if I had to.

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WeeGeeBored · 09/10/2025 05:00

You need to report it. If the group was just for students I would urge you to just leave but it also contains tutors. It is inappropriate for them to be arguing or agreeing with students in this manner for one simple reason: at the end of the year they will be marking the students exam submissions and I would argue that being in this group could create a bias in their judgement. To my mind it is highly unprofessional for tutors to be involved.

UNLESS as part of the module tutors are playing devil’s advocate as a provocation to spark debate and develop the students’ critical thinking. Are you sure that you understand the true purpose of the group?

Absentosaur · 09/10/2025 04:46

Simply leave the group and get on with your life.

Neemie · 09/10/2025 03:40

If it has genuinely upset you then you should report it. If you simply disapprove of it then I would just leave them to it.

SammyScrounge · 09/10/2025 03:16

You've only been in the chat for a week. You.haven't got the feel of the people or the chat yet. I wouldn't go running to report anyone just yet.
The hot topics of the day will probably be discussed - and should be. Are you saying there should.be no debate? Or that only the most politically correct ideas should be aired? If you don't agree with people debate
with them , don't inform on them behind their backs or write anonymous notes.

Notashamed13 · 09/10/2025 03:15

I'd just leave the group if I didnt like the content.

MidlandsGal1 · 09/10/2025 03:11

Just leave the group.

pikkumyy77 · 09/10/2025 03:04

Uh? Of course you should exit and report it. Its entirely inappropriate and you don’t want to get caught up in it.

thegifttaegieus · 09/10/2025 02:50

“It was always the women, and above all the young ones, who were the most bigoted adherents of the Party, the swallowers of slogans, the amateur spies and nosers−out of unorthodoxy.” —George Orwell, 1984

Definitely, be a good member of the Red Guard. Well done for trying to crush anyone having thoughts you disapprove of, words you don't like and feelings you think should be outlawed.

Good for you. Hitler, Pol Pot, Chairman Mao and every single dictator in history from both ends of the spectrum salutes you. Get on there, report it. Nothing will be done about it, sadly, because free speech has not quite been stamped out in the UK.

But you can get all those feelings out at the next two minute hate.

PrincessofWells · 09/10/2025 02:28

Can you report it anonymously sending a link to the chat? Yes you should report it if its discriminatory or contains hate speech.