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To not understand why DH books a hotel in same town when colleagues visit

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Christmascountdown25 · 08/10/2025 21:59

Does anyone else find this strange?

DH’s team are spread over England and Wales (head office is where we live) and about 3 times a year, they have a two day meeting at the head office with the staff who travel particularly far put up at a local hotel.

The last two occasions, DH has also stayed at that hotel (he says expensed by the company). His reasoning - he doesn’t want to wake
me (and 2x young DC) midweek when arriving home later after drinking and a free hotel isn’t something to say no to. They always have big socials but he’s usually vague on the detail. He’s one of 3 men and there are 6/7 women, only one of which is local so the rest stay at the hotel.

I just find it so strange. The hotel is a 10
minute drive away from us and he has no issues waking me up when he’s had too many pints with his mates on a Friday night.

OP posts:
Screamingabdabz · 08/10/2025 22:10

He wants to be free to party party party with his work mates. I get it.

Danioyellow · 08/10/2025 22:09

I think it’s normal and I’d do the same. You clearly think he’s shagging a work mate

MaryBeardsShoes · 08/10/2025 22:07

Personally I’d much rather get a taxi home to my own bed! But I can see why other people might not. And of course he could be shagging one of them. Which is what you’re surely suggesting??

IveGotOneToo · 08/10/2025 22:06

ChaChaChaChanges · 08/10/2025 22:02

I totally understand where he’s coming from, and would do (have done) the exact same in the same type of situation. For me it was about joining in and being part of the team.

This.

A lot of (innocent) team building happens in the bar after the meal.

BusWankers · 08/10/2025 22:06

What do you want us to tell you? He's using the opportunity to shag his colleagues?

PhuckTrump · 08/10/2025 22:04

We’re allowed to do this at my job (and some do), but I prefer to sleep in my own bed—I always wake up in the night in hotels. If you want to network and hang out at the bar, it’s a good way to get to know everyone.

User37482 · 08/10/2025 22:04

I would definitely do it, no-one would be coming back to my room with me. A whole night by myself would be amazing.

If you are worried he’s doing something you need to talk to him about it.

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 08/10/2025 22:04

I'd do the same. It's free, it's convenient, it's fun to have a night in a hotel.

girljulian · 08/10/2025 22:04

I wouldn’t overthink it, he probably just has FOMO.

Someonelookedatmypostinghistorysoichanged · 08/10/2025 22:03

Oh c’on you don’t need to be coy… you know what you are suggesting. Only you know if your actual concern is that he’s got his eye on someone in the hotel.

NellieElephantine · 08/10/2025 22:02

Free hotel room, whole bed and bathroom to myself? Yes please!!

ChaChaChaChanges · 08/10/2025 22:02

I totally understand where he’s coming from, and would do (have done) the exact same in the same type of situation. For me it was about joining in and being part of the team.