To not understand why DH books a hotel in same town when colleagues visit

😂😂😂 what a mad thing to say. I doubt he’s gotten anywhere near them. That’s the talk of wishful thinking idiot.

You do realise that a lot of people actually like their colleagues and enjoy the occasional night out with them, though?

I always go for drinks with my colleagues after a work event like this - not because I’m expected to or because there’s any enforced ‘bonding’, but because they’re a good bunch of people and I enjoy the odd night out with them where we can have a few drinks and talk about non-work stuff for a change. They’re nice people and we’re all pretty friendly.

Of course if you don’t have that sort of relationship with your colleagues there’s no reason you’d want to go out with them and that’s totally fine.

But just because you feel that way, it doesn’t mean there’s anything odd or suspicious about other people doing it, because for them it wouldn’t be ‘giving family time to work’, it would be some drinks with people they like and would feel no different to going out with friends.

Quite incredible isn't it?
I wonder if they are all pals of OP's H desperate to convince her it's all innocent?
They certainly aren't doing OP any favours by dismissing her concerns so lightly.

I have done it loads of times, no hidden meaning to it. It’s just easier as they expect a meal and drinks. It is team building.

50% of men cheat on their partners, eager to stay over at a hotel ten minutes away and mentioning a hot single colleague and three pages of replies swearing blind its innocent.

Yes, but when he’s out drinking at the weekend, nobody’s offering him a decent hotel room for free.

If I had the option of a free hotel room in my city every there was a work event, I’d get one. It would mean no need to leave the socialising early to catch the last tram, no faffing about with taxis, a cooked breakfast in the morning - it’s a no brainer. I don’t have kids and my DP doesn’t care what time I get home, but I think if I were in your DH’s shoes I’d have the additional motive of not wanting someone tutting and huffing at me because I’d been out late, and I’d also be pleased at the chance to get up and shower and have breakfast in peace without being woken up by kids or partner.

Sounds like bliss tbh. And it doesn’t add up to fucking a colleague. I know Mumsnet loves to put two and two together to make five and even the slightest hint of a man enjoying going out with female colleagues or spending a night away is usually met with ‘Doesn’t look good, OP. Get your ducks in a row’ and/or the massively unhelpful ‘Always go with your gut’, but there’s really nothing odd about taking up the offer of a hotel.

And just because he made a comment about his colleague’s figure, why on earth would you imagine she fancies him and would want to shag him? I strongly doubt he’s anything special. She probably thinks he’s just some middle-aged bore who keeps staring at her tits.

Because it's a nice treat to do it alone!

As others have said, it's nice sometimes to relax and socialise with colleagues, let your hair down and get treated at the company's expense.

Then fall into a nice comfortable bed and have breakfast in the morning.

Believe it or not, some of us are pure as the driven snow but we still like a night away 😁

Ick

If it's too good of an offer to pass up why doesn't wife join him for the night and get a sitter for the dc? 🤨
Why not bring the kids along for the fun of it?
As OP said, he has no trouble finding his way home from the pub on other nights.
He's up to no good.

He sounds delightful.

There's literally nothing wrong with having a nice all expenses paid night away 😳

I think it's really weird that you think there is.

And a hotel breakfast. I never normally eat breakfast but in a hotel, I can down at least one of everything TWICE.

Given his gross comments about the woman with big boobs, I wouldnt say that he fancies her particularly, but he wouldnt turn down an opportunity if it presented itself to him. The best time and place for that to happen is at a hotel with the rest of his colleagues when everyone has had a few.

So yes I think that he is on the cop.

I have done this after the Christmas party because it is easier than sorting getting home when drunk. I can see why someone would do this, especially if they are having a night out with colleagues.

@LadyTable yes I find it strange. He lives 10 minutes away, he should go home, and sleep in his own home with his family. If he is happy to go out with friends and return home without a thought of disturbing anyone then so I can’t see why going out with work colleagues is any different. He is moving the goal posts in order to suit his own agenda…whether that be as innocent as he just wants a break from family life for the night and a long lie in.

he doesn’t want to wake me (and 2x young DC) midweek when arriving home later after drinking

This is his reason. Plus he can join in fully if he is there, without worrying about when he has to leave, getting taxis etc.

My husband does this with his company when close by. I totally understand why he does - all the luxuries of a nice hotel, it's a bit of a treat, and the company is paying so hell yes lol.

I bet he is paying for the hotel out of his own pocket rather than the company reimbursing his accommodation expense. You may or may not have a problem with this.
If staff “who travel particularly far are put up at a local hotel”, the company is not going to cover the cost for your husband.
I travel to another city for whole team meetings about three times a year and love the whole socialising after hours then spending the night on my own in a hotel room. I can understand how he’d enjoy this too. Obviously I’m not in a position to judge whether anything dodgy might be going on.

Why is it strange given the multitude of posts on here from MNetters saying they do exactly the same thing?

Do you think we're all dodgy?

My husband does exactly this when his work colleagues come to town, I’ve never found it strange.

The hotel stay is strange given you live 10 minutes away. There is more to this than expenses paid so he his staying over.

Right there, that's your issue. Hotel stay is a red herring.

So why didn't you just say that in the first place?

Yes!! Sounds like a dream to me. I would (have) snap that offer up.

No, I wouldn't like this and I wouldn't do it either. Not for work. If it was my actual friends who were coming down to where I live and we were all getting a hotel, then yes, but my colleagues aren't my friends and I don't have any need to "bond" as a team outside of work hours.
If it's the kind of thing that work "expects" I'd be telling them I'll take the time back. I don't give family time to work.