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RubyTuesday10 · 2025-10-08T20:11:27+00:00

Had a depressing moment at work today, male colleague played a Jimmy Carr stand-up clip on his phone and it went along the lines of “if I had to pick my favourite child it would be my neighbour’s hot daughter.” The other men with him laughed at it. I couldn’t help feeling a bit nauseous and it’s made me question whether many older straight men actually do fantasise about girls in their late teens or whatever. Perhaps I have been naive to think it was something that just appealed to a minority of perverts. One or two of them have daughters too and it just strikes me as odd that they could even laugh at a joke like that. Am I naive to feel this way?

IShouldNotCoco · 09/10/2025 11:46

CompoCompoComp · 09/10/2025 11:44

A man in his 40s looked my 13 year DD ( in the children’s hospital where she’d just been for an appt) up and down in a way that made be want to punch him right in his ugly fucking face. She was wearing her school uniform, and needless to say he didn’t even clock me …

Vile isn’t it?

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 09/10/2025 11:46

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2025 11:34

I think that you are looking at this from a woman’s perspective. I believe that many (or maybe most?) women need more than simple physical appearance to be attracted to someone. Men are different. They are much more visual. They may not want a relationship with a 15 year old, but they will be attracted to them, and would no doubt sleep with them if there were no consequences.

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Correct, men are more visual than women, but there is no way the majority of men are salivating over skinny 15 year old girls. That is paedophilia.

However, they are looking at women in their 20s and 30s with attraction. I've lost count of the number of articles I have seen on women feeling 'invisible' when they hit 50 and how some of us embrace it whilst others lament youth lost.

IShouldNotCoco · 09/10/2025 11:45

Leonardo Dicaprio is a messed up person who probably chooses girlfriends young enough to be his daughter because of the power imbalance. His propensity towards getting off on violent acts towards sex workers is well known and certainly shows what kind of a man he is.

You can be a 50 year old man and obviously appreciate that a woman in her 20s looks good. But that’s where it should end. If that man is dating a woman in her 20s then he’s utterly pathetic, sorry. No other word for it.

Dogaredabomb · 09/10/2025 11:44

RingoJuice · 09/10/2025 10:28

I would wonder if there was a distinction made between ‘objectively most attractive’ and ‘what you are attracted to’, because to me, there is no point in being attracted to someone out of your league. Wonder how they framed it.

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That's a very interesting point!

CompoCompoComp · 09/10/2025 11:44

A man in his 40s looked my 13 year DD ( in the children’s hospital where she’d just been for an appt) up and down in a way that made be want to punch him right in his ugly fucking face. She was wearing her school uniform, and needless to say he didn’t even clock me …

BatchCookBabe · 09/10/2025 11:41

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2025 11:36

That’s awful. Imagine ruining your whole life like that from a bad decision at 14 😨

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I know right. Let's say these girls weren't the brightest lights on the Christmas tree, and weren't middle class, or academic. They were from rough areas, and quite 'rough' families, but I think they could still have achieved a better life than getting pregnant at 14 by a man old enough to be their father, and continuing to have babies with him. This man (and men like him) target vulnerable girls from lower class families.

ufo · 09/10/2025 11:41

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2025 11:34

I think that you are looking at this from a woman’s perspective. I believe that many (or maybe most?) women need more than simple physical appearance to be attracted to someone. Men are different. They are much more visual. They may not want a relationship with a 15 year old, but they will be attracted to them, and would no doubt sleep with them if there were no consequences.

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Men are more visual, but I don't think it's as solely visual as people think. Men seem to like personality traits that are usually expressed or associated with youth e.g. playfulness, emotional expression, but many of those are lost are women (and men) get older. It's one of the differences in what each sex finds attractive. For example someone gets older, gets more confident, starts taking control of things. For women that's generally attractive, for men, well there's no bigger boner killer than a bossy, controlling woman.

SpottyAardvark · 09/10/2025 11:40

Human beings are just mammals like any other. Men being naturally attracted to young, but post pubescent, women is biologically normal, and it’s a consequence of millions of generations of evolution.

In exactly the same way, women are biologically hard wired to be attracted to high status men who have resources. Hence the age-old term ‘a good provider’. Modern society views this natural trait as perfectly normal & acceptable, but it quite rightly imposes strict limits on men’s natural traits because of power imbalances and the obvious potential for exploitation.

This is basic stuff, and it’t surprising how many people are so scientifically illiterate that they need to have it explained to them.

TeachMeSomething · 09/10/2025 11:40

BatchCookBabe · 09/10/2025 11:25

Yep I agree. When I was at school, there were a number of girls aged 14-16 (maybe 9 or 10 of them over the time I was there) who had flings with older men. Some of them had one with a teacher, or the school janitor, or the school gardener. One girl was 14 when she got pregnant by the school janitor, and he was a 37 year old married man. He already had 7 children by his 2 wives. (3 with one, 4 with the other - who he was still married to.) His second wife was 10 years younger.

He left his (second) wife, for this girl and moved into a flat with her. The second wife divorced him for adultery. He married the girl when she was 18, and she was pregnant with their third child on the day they got married. So 10 children at this point. He was about 41 by now.

I moved out of the town soon after, and saw him some 10 years later, when he was in his early 50s, and he was with a different woman again. My friend with me knew his 'new' fling a bit, and she was 23 and had had 2 children with him at that point. She had one 2 months after she was 16, which means she was pregnant at 15. Utterly grim. He looked like a skinny Frank from Shameless too. Always looked dirty, with greasy hair, and was often drunk. (So he acted like Frank too. I don't think he worked again after he was sacked from the school for getting a 14 year old girl pregnant!)

How on earth he managed to get all these girls/young women to marry him just baffles me. So does the fact that he has NEVER been charged with having sex with under age girls!

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Back in the early 70's, as we transferred to secondary school at the age of 11, I met up with a group of new friends who had all come from the same primary school. They talked about another girl they knew from school who was mysteriously starting the new school a few weeks later than everyone else. No-one actually said why she was starting later but, eventually, it turned out that she had been involved in a 'relationship' with a much older man (in his late 20's) and this had come to light just as school was starting after the summer. (The guy in this case was, thankfully, taken to court and given a prison sentence.)

Dogaredabomb · 09/10/2025 11:39

MrTumblesSpottyBoxers · 08/10/2025 21:36

The amount of men driving cars turning their heads 180 degrees to stare at school girls, it doesn't surprise me.

We are surrounded by men who may not act on it or admit it out loud, but would be more than up for shacking up with a 16 year old if they could get away it and not get shamed for it

Would they really though? If faced with the reality of really having a relationship with a 16 year old I'm not sure.

Young people are in their peak physical prime and just look better. I often watch strictly come dancing and the male dancers are utterly gorgeous, they're also younger than my kids.

I think there's a massive difference between thinking phwoaaarrrrrr how gorgeous and the reality. I'd be mortified to do anything irl with a young man.

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2025 11:36

BatchCookBabe · 09/10/2025 11:25

Yep I agree. When I was at school, there were a number of girls aged 14-16 (maybe 9 or 10 of them over the time I was there) who had flings with older men. Some of them had one with a teacher, or the school janitor, or the school gardener. One girl was 14 when she got pregnant by the school janitor, and he was a 37 year old married man. He already had 7 children by his 2 wives. (3 with one, 4 with the other - who he was still married to.) His second wife was 10 years younger.

He left his (second) wife, for this girl and moved into a flat with her. The second wife divorced him for adultery. He married the girl when she was 18, and she was pregnant with their third child on the day they got married. So 10 children at this point. He was about 41 by now.

I moved out of the town soon after, and saw him some 10 years later, when he was in his early 50s, and he was with a different woman again. My friend with me knew his 'new' fling a bit, and she was 23 and had had 2 children with him at that point. She had one 2 months after she was 16, which means she was pregnant at 15. Utterly grim. He looked like a skinny Frank from Shameless too. Always looked dirty, with greasy hair, and was often drunk. (So he acted like Frank too. I don't think he worked again after he was sacked from the school for getting a 14 year old girl pregnant!)

How on earth he managed to get all these girls/young women to marry him just baffles me. So does the fact that he has NEVER been charged with having sex with under age girls!

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That’s awful. Imagine ruining your whole life like that from a bad decision at 14 😨

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2025 11:34

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 09/10/2025 11:16

I think it is naïve to ignore the fact men and women both reach peak attractiveness in their 20s - early 30s and it starts to go downhill from there.
Looking at someone and appreciating they are good looking isn't the same as being attracted to that person though, I think there is more to attraction than appearance.

The guys were probably laughing at the joke because it is risqué and outrageous not because they related or agreed. This type of 'shock humour' is what Jimmy Carr is known for. I think he's an insufferable cockhead but that's by the by.

I certainly don't believe the majority of men fancy teenagers.

I think that you are looking at this from a woman’s perspective. I believe that many (or maybe most?) women need more than simple physical appearance to be attracted to someone. Men are different. They are much more visual. They may not want a relationship with a 15 year old, but they will be attracted to them, and would no doubt sleep with them if there were no consequences.

ufo · 09/10/2025 11:31

BatchCookBabe · 09/10/2025 11:25

Yep I agree. When I was at school, there were a number of girls aged 14-16 (maybe 9 or 10 of them over the time I was there) who had flings with older men. Some of them had one with a teacher, or the school janitor, or the school gardener. One girl was 14 when she got pregnant by the school janitor, and he was a 37 year old married man. He already had 7 children by his 2 wives. (3 with one, 4 with the other - who he was still married to.) His second wife was 10 years younger.

He left his (second) wife, for this girl and moved into a flat with her. The second wife divorced him for adultery. He married the girl when she was 18, and she was pregnant with their third child on the day they got married. So 10 children at this point. He was about 41 by now.

I moved out of the town soon after, and saw him some 10 years later, when he was in his early 50s, and he was with a different woman again. My friend with me knew his 'new' fling a bit, and she was 23 and had had 2 children with him at that point. She had one 2 months after she was 16, which means she was pregnant at 15. Utterly grim. He looked like a skinny Frank from Shameless too. Always looked dirty, with greasy hair, and was often drunk. (So he acted like Frank too. I don't think he worked again after he was sacked from the school for getting a 14 year old girl pregnant!)

How on earth he managed to get all these girls/young women to marry him just baffles me. So does the fact that he has NEVER been charged with having sex with under age girls!

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Never underestimate the men who know how to talk to women. They could be dirty, unemployed etc but they'll always beat any 'respectable' man if they know what to say. We're psychologically orientated towards social behaviour, and it's also the primary thing that men are attracted to (despite the reputation for being solely interested in looks etc)

BatchCookBabe · 09/10/2025 11:25

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2025 11:07

Sadly, I think that most men would happily sleep with a 15 or 16 year old if it wasn’t illegal or frowned upon. Years ago, it was probably the norm for girls of this age to marry older men.

Yep I agree. When I was at school, there were a number of girls aged 14-16 (maybe 9 or 10 of them over the time I was there) who had flings with older men. Some of them had one with a teacher, or the school janitor, or the school gardener. One girl was 14 when she got pregnant by the school janitor, and he was a 37 year old married man. He already had 7 children by his 2 wives. (3 with one, 4 with the other - who he was still married to.) His second wife was 10 years younger.

He left his (second) wife, for this girl and moved into a flat with her. The second wife divorced him for adultery. He married the girl when she was 18, and she was pregnant with their third child on the day they got married. So 10 children at this point. He was about 41 by now.

I moved out of the town soon after, and saw him some 10 years later, when he was in his early 50s, and he was with a different woman again. My friend with me knew his 'new' fling a bit, and she was 23 and had had 2 children with him at that point. She had one 2 months after she was 16, which means she was pregnant at 15. Utterly grim. He looked like a skinny Frank from Shameless too. Always looked dirty, with greasy hair, and was often drunk. (So he acted like Frank too. I don't think he worked again after he was sacked from the school for getting a 14 year old girl pregnant!)

How on earth he managed to get all these girls/young women to marry him just baffles me. So does the fact that he has NEVER been charged with having sex with under age girls!

PGmicstand · 09/10/2025 11:18

Among my friendship group, those couples over 60 seem to be in relationships where the.man is older by up to 12 years.
The remainder are almost all relationships where the woman is 1-5 years older.
All of these are long relationships of 10+ years.
I suspect 'my people ' may be an anomaly.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 09/10/2025 11:18

Chiseltip · 09/10/2025 10:37

Wow!

Next you'll be asking if it's really true that we are attracted wealthy men . . .

Of course man are attracted to younger women. Why the fuck do you think the UK cosmetics industry is worth 30 Billion annually. Do you think we are spending all that money on products to look older!

We want to look younger. We think youth is attractive. We spend thousands each year on products and procedures in an attempt to keep ourselves from looking our actual age.

I really question the motivation of OP's who pose questions like this. What the fuck do people think men are attracted to?

If I could look 19 again I would. And so would any of you. Even the OP. And there isn't a man on the planet that would think

"nah! . . . I prefer old and saggy"!

HA love it and you couldn't be more right.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 09/10/2025 11:16

I think it is naïve to ignore the fact men and women both reach peak attractiveness in their 20s - early 30s and it starts to go downhill from there.
Looking at someone and appreciating they are good looking isn't the same as being attracted to that person though, I think there is more to attraction than appearance.

The guys were probably laughing at the joke because it is risqué and outrageous not because they related or agreed. This type of 'shock humour' is what Jimmy Carr is known for. I think he's an insufferable cockhead but that's by the by.

I certainly don't believe the majority of men fancy teenagers.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 09/10/2025 11:13

We're forgetting that a lot of older women have absolutely no issues attracting younger men, decades younger, not just celebrities.
Many young man 17+ would definitely have sex with an attractive older woman.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 09/10/2025 11:13

Charla69 · 09/10/2025 10:54

Yes we can!. It's gross, sixteen year olds are still kids!.

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If they're sexually mature, they will appeal to the opposite sex. Same goes for every other species on the planet. Why is this so difficult for some people to understand?

CompoCompoComp · 09/10/2025 11:10

Jimmy Carr is a fetid little wank stain who thinks he’s ‘edgy’ because he jokes about paedophiles and rape. I do wonder how long before we find out comedians like him are Jimmy Savilles hiding in the open with their ‘humor’

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2025 11:10

RingoJuice · 09/10/2025 11:06

They are adults in many cultures. In Western cultures, adolescence was being recognized as a separate life stage but this is a relatively new development.

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Exactly. ‘Adulthood’ has been socially constructed. From a biological perspective, they are adults at 12 or 13 when they start menstruating. I imagine that this is when they start to appeal to most men.

BatchCookBabe · 09/10/2025 11:09

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 03:45

I was about to mention the popularity of teen porn too.

Mind you, MILF porn is quite popular as well.

I think men just like hot naked women.

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This reminds me - you mentioning MILFs. I have noticed a slight trend of young-ish women (20s and 30s) who call themselves a MILF. But they have no children. You're not a MILF if you have no children FFS! 🙄

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2025 11:07

Sadly, I think that most men would happily sleep with a 15 or 16 year old if it wasn’t illegal or frowned upon. Years ago, it was probably the norm for girls of this age to marry older men.

RingoJuice · 09/10/2025 11:06

Charla69 · 09/10/2025 10:54

Yes we can!. It's gross, sixteen year olds are still kids!.

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They are adults in many cultures. In Western cultures, adolescence was being recognized as a separate life stage but this is a relatively new development.

3luckystars · 09/10/2025 11:04

Chiseltip · 09/10/2025 10:37

Wow!

Next you'll be asking if it's really true that we are attracted wealthy men . . .

Of course man are attracted to younger women. Why the fuck do you think the UK cosmetics industry is worth 30 Billion annually. Do you think we are spending all that money on products to look older!

We want to look younger. We think youth is attractive. We spend thousands each year on products and procedures in an attempt to keep ourselves from looking our actual age.

I really question the motivation of OP's who pose questions like this. What the fuck do people think men are attracted to?

If I could look 19 again I would. And so would any of you. Even the OP. And there isn't a man on the planet that would think

"nah! . . . I prefer old and saggy"!

Thank you!!!!!