Page 10 | To ask if most straight men are attracted much younger women?

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RubyTuesday10 · 09/10/2025 13:07

BridgeNewton · 09/10/2025 08:45

Man here

As we get older our tastes in women change and we tend to be/come attracted to women within our age group. As a 20 year old I wouldn't find many 50 year old women attractive, as a 50 year old I do.

However that doesn't mean that we still can't, and don't, find younger women attractive. Of course we do, they don't magically become unattractive just because we have got older. We might not want to date them as they are, usually, simply not mature enough to be interesting and/or we would have very little in common that either of us would find intellectually stimulating.

For the commenter who said that their partner would 'never look at a younger woman in that way', I am afraid that I have some bad news for you.

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Thank you for the insight, it’s good to get a male perspective. I understand younger women but anyone under 18 just feels inappropriate.

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 09/10/2025 13:06

Tbf I'm probably a perv, my niece has a friend , 21, who works out professionally, 4000 calories daily for his gym routine. He is rippled to perfection.
I do stare for a moment.

ufo · 09/10/2025 13:04

EmeraldShamrock000 · 09/10/2025 13:02

I disagree.
I think age brings a confidence that can make a person more attractive, women and men.
I understand shallow men prefer younger women, dating apps proves this, often looking for a woman 20 years younger, I can't imagine they get much attention from women 20 years younger.
I don't think most men are attracted to 16 year olds, maybe I'm wrong, if so, the world is hopeless.
I think most humans can find another human in their prime attractive.

I suppose it depends. Confidence alone isn't enough. Confident men can be dicks and confident women can be shrews.

ufo · 09/10/2025 13:02

MemorableTrenchcoat · 09/10/2025 12:38

But we know that many women do favour brutes who have the physical means to protect them and their offspring. If this trait did not facilitate reproductive success, it would have been selected against eons ago. That’s not red pill logic, it’s a scientific fact.

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Strength is attractive, but it's not THE attractive trait that women look for. Social competence beats everything. And if you want to look at it from an evolutionary perspective, the man who's likeable enough to gather 5 of his friends will beat the dickhead loner, however strong that loner happens to be.

Big, strong, mean bullies is the thing that makes redpiller types nervous though. That's called projection isn't it?

EmeraldShamrock000 · 09/10/2025 13:02

I disagree.
I think age brings a confidence that can make a person more attractive, women and men.
I understand shallow men prefer younger women, dating apps proves this, often looking for a woman 20 years younger, I can't imagine they get much attention from women 20 years younger.
I don't think most men are attracted to 16 year olds, maybe I'm wrong, if so, the world is hopeless.
I think most humans can find another human in their prime attractive.

graygoose · 09/10/2025 12:58

Funnily enough I think a lot of young guys like older women though. I’m in my late 30s and get so much interest from guys in their 20s. Fully aware there may be some mummy issues there lol but I wouldn’t say universally all men want barely post pubescent girls.

Rosebold · 09/10/2025 12:54

ufo · 09/10/2025 11:59

If they're still together now, wouldn't that make the relationship a success?

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I think this is difficult, now we know that your brain isn't fully developed until your mid 20's and so that gives the older partner in this instance a lot of undue influence. They aren't two young kids figuring life out with an equal power balance they are an adult and child in a relationship and it's quite possible that the adult is able to guide or even mould the younger party in a way they wouldn't if they had been of a similar age. I suppose you could also say that about lot's of things but in general people tend to feel it's more empowering for younger people to have a more equal power balance.

I know some people who have this kind of relationship, a friend of mine met his partner who is 18 years older than him when he was 19 and they are still together to this day 35 years later. We could say that the relationship is a success but he was also quite vulnerable when they got together and so it's not clean cut that it's all ok I think.

freakingscared · 09/10/2025 12:52

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2025 12:49

Yes but OP was asking about attraction, not relationships. Would most men over 40 want to date someone in their early 20s? Probably not. Would they want to have sex with them? Absolutely.

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I’m still not convicted by that ? Are you attracted to young fitter blokes ? I’m early 40s and I’m not and certainly wouldn’t want to have sex with one . Why do you assume men would ? Or at least all men ?

ZoggyStirdust · 09/10/2025 12:52

ufo · 09/10/2025 12:04

It's a bit like asking a woman if she'd get with someone for his money. The answer is yes, but no one likes the image associated with it so it's one of those things people think but don't say.

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spot on

Luckyingame · 09/10/2025 12:50

Orpheya · 08/10/2025 22:26

Late teens? Mid teens. I have heard men saying that they like 15 years old in an world without laws

And this is exactly as it is.
These animals are behaving only due to societal rules being in place.
So happy my life is not contaminated, yes, contaminated, by any of them.

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2025 12:49

freakingscared · 09/10/2025 12:12

I can’t speak for most men , we have a 44 year old relative dating a 23 year old currently and my husband was quite put out of by it . While on the phone to another relative without me present ( I was having a shower and had just come down ) I heard him say “ what is wrong with him , I could never date someone as young “ . He truly seemed to not get hey he would do it , so I’m not sure most men would pipe like a younger partner . Maybe attracted to them yes but I think most mature men realise a relationship is more than that ?

Yes but OP was asking about attraction, not relationships. Would most men over 40 want to date someone in their early 20s? Probably not. Would they want to have sex with them? Absolutely.

Unlichtie · 09/10/2025 12:48

RubyTuesday10 · 08/10/2025 21:28

Yes of course, but the fact that the joke appealed to men, implied a wider consensus that these type of thoughts are acceptable. It’s the response to it not the joke itself that I found depressing but maybe that’s because I have a teenage daughter and know that a couple of them do too.

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Have you ever been to a comedy show. Tgis is going to come as a shock... but many woman laugh at jokes too, including this one. It doesnt mean they want to sleep with young girls either.

3luckystars · 09/10/2025 12:45

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 09/10/2025 12:18

But someone who is still beautiful at 50 isn't as beautiful as they were at 20.

I'm 34, I know I'm not as beautiful as I was ten years ago and I know I will be less beautiful than I am now in another 10 years time. That's just the reality of aging.

'Beautiful people will always be attractive throughout their life.' To who? Because men are definitely not looking a white haired old ladies and thinking 'smash!' unless they are the same age or older.

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I don’t know about that, I think genuinely my friends are better looking now than in their 20s. I think I am too.
Maybe this is my brain telling me this though and it’s the same brain that’s telling me that older men are more attractive now too.

3luckystars · 09/10/2025 12:43

YouWantToKnow · 09/10/2025 11:55

"AIBU to ask if most straight men are attracted to much younger women"
Name changed for this.
As a straight man, I have to answer "Yes they are."
There might be exceptions, but I can only say I have never met one.

I have never met one either, totally agree, and my experience with men is that they prefer younger looking women.

StepawayfromtheLindors · 09/10/2025 12:43

ASDnocareer · 08/10/2025 21:43

I used to presume the most ‘respectful’ men who aren’t ageist/sexist wouldn’t prioritise younger women, but the older I get the more I’m proved wrong. I live in a very progressive city too

Last guy I dated (very liberal) is 33 and his new girlfriend is a 22 year old student. Felt like he was holding out for someone of her age

Many of my ‘respectful’ single guy friends in 30s have set the minimum age on dating apps to much lower than their own age. They otherwise don’t have any friends that much younger than them

When I was late teens - early twenties I got hit on the most by much older men (even seemingly liberal / ‘respectful’ ones in 40s)

The clue is in your use of the word liberal

Rosebold · 09/10/2025 12:41

I think most men are attracted to post pubescent young women who may or may not be over 18. To some extent that is just biology and not creepy in and of itself. What is creepy is if they try to act on it, make comments, leer etc.

I did read that when analysing online dating activity men of all ages engaged more with profiles of young women aged 20 - 24 than of women their own age if they were older (40's,50's etc) even if they included women their own age in their search. They also spent longer messaging and replying to women in that age range as opposed to women their own age. On the other hand women tended to prefer men their own age up until they hit their early 40's whereafter they preferred slightly younger men.

As for Jimmy Carr he has been with his 50 year old wife for 25 years and he is 53 so she is age appropriate for him. He was just making a cheap, tasteless joke which par for the course with him.

StepawayfromtheLindors · 09/10/2025 12:41

RubyTuesday10 · 08/10/2025 21:11

Had a depressing moment at work today, male colleague played a Jimmy Carr stand-up clip on his phone and it went along the lines of “if I had to pick my favourite child it would be my neighbour’s hot daughter.” The other men with him laughed at it. I couldn’t help feeling a bit nauseous and it’s made me question whether many older straight men actually do fantasise about girls in their late teens or whatever. Perhaps I have been naive to think it was something that just appealed to a minority of perverts. One or two of them have daughters too and it just strikes me as odd that they could even laugh at a joke like that. Am I naive to feel this way?

Ugh grim 🤮

LEWWW · 09/10/2025 12:39

If it was socially acceptable/not illegal a lot of men no matter their age would sleep with children over women their own age…When I was 14 a lot of girls had boyfriends in their 20s…utterly grim.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 09/10/2025 12:38

ufo · 09/10/2025 12:28

It also makes no evolutionary sense for women to get with some brute who's gonna hurt her and leave her. Men must be kind, competent, assertive, and social rather than cold and violent. Common redpiller type mistake in reasoning.

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But we know that many women do favour brutes who have the physical means to protect them and their offspring. If this trait did not facilitate reproductive success, it would have been selected against eons ago. That’s not red pill logic, it’s a scientific fact.

MidnightMeltdown · 09/10/2025 12:38

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 09/10/2025 11:46

Correct, men are more visual than women, but there is no way the majority of men are salivating over skinny 15 year old girls. That is paedophilia.

However, they are looking at women in their 20s and 30s with attraction. I've lost count of the number of articles I have seen on women feeling 'invisible' when they hit 50 and how some of us embrace it whilst others lament youth lost.

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No it’s not paedophillia. Paedophillia is an attraction to prepubescent child. A 15 year old is adult from a biological perspective and men are hardwired to be attracted to them.

JLou08 · 09/10/2025 12:33

IShouldNotCoco · 09/10/2025 03:59

Hmm. I don’t think so - you’ve bought into their delusions 🤣

Most men start to get receding hair as soon as they approach 30 (it’s amazing how an hairline can make such a difference to how hot a guy is but it does) and most men in their 50s have beer bellies, a reddening face and their noses get fatter. You very rarely see an older man who doesn’t have a dad bod. It’s just that some men are deluded and think they are entitled to date rich, 25 year old supermodels no matter what.

This idea that ‘men age like fine wine and women age like milk’ is a misogynistic trope, no doubt designed by a man somewhere to keep women in their places.

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I agree. I think people are thinking George Clooney, Martin Kemp etc when they think about men ageing well but there are plenty, probably more, older female celebs who are beautiful. I'd say in the general public older women do look much better than men.

ufo · 09/10/2025 12:28

MemorableTrenchcoat · 09/10/2025 12:08

And this society, or any other, wouldn't exist at all if it weren't for early men's (and women's) reproductive strategies. If males favoured pairing up females well into their 20s and 30s and females mated with the friendliest, gentlest males, rather than powerful ones with the most resources, Homo Sapiens, or one of its progenitors, would be long extinct. Evolution has specifically selected for the traits that you now find so detestable. Can you really not see this?

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It also makes no evolutionary sense for women to get with some brute who's gonna hurt her and leave her. Men must be kind, competent, assertive, and social rather than cold and violent. Common redpiller type mistake in reasoning.

namechangetheworld · 09/10/2025 12:27

TattooStan · 09/10/2025 12:02

My husband likes women around his age. It comes across in lots of things he says and does, the celebrities he thinks are attractive, even the porn he watches. He obviously thinks beautiful young women are beautiful - they are - I think hot young men are hot. But he wouldn't lust after one.

Of course he wouldn't. I bet he doesn't watch porn either, right?

namechangetheworld · 09/10/2025 12:22

EmeraldShamrock000 · 09/10/2025 11:55

You do realise that older women are not automatically old and saggy. Similarly, not all 19 year olds are attractive.

I know a few saggy expanding 19 year olds, the spandex leggings show everything, holding it together, heavy makeup, huge lips.

Beautiful people will always be attractive throughout their life.

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The majority of men would still choose to sleep with an average looking 19 year old over an attractive 40 year old. Even a 40 year old woman who takes care of herself still looks 40. It's their youth they're attracted to, not their sense of style.

Quite a few delusional older women on this thread. And I am an older woman.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 09/10/2025 12:18

EmeraldShamrock000 · 09/10/2025 11:55

You do realise that older women are not automatically old and saggy. Similarly, not all 19 year olds are attractive.

I know a few saggy expanding 19 year olds, the spandex leggings show everything, holding it together, heavy makeup, huge lips.

Beautiful people will always be attractive throughout their life.

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But someone who is still beautiful at 50 isn't as beautiful as they were at 20.

I'm 34, I know I'm not as beautiful as I was ten years ago and I know I will be less beautiful than I am now in another 10 years time. That's just the reality of aging.

'Beautiful people will always be attractive throughout their life.' To who? Because men are definitely not looking a white haired old ladies and thinking 'smash!' unless they are the same age or older.