10:21 HairsprayBabe I don't think this is true at all - makes it sound you are running the house like Captain Von Trapp.
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My initial post - I thought it was funny a throw away post - I thought you would take it as a joke - didn't realise you were so serious at this point - e.g if someone said my kids look like the Von Trapp children because I dress them in second hand clothed I would think it funny.
Captain Von Trapp (presumably you’re referring to the character in “The Sound of Music” rather than the historical person upon whom it was based) was extremely strict, militaristic and authoritarian. He made his children scared and showed no empathy whatsoever, showed them no love or affection, even used a whistle to direct their behaviour like animals. I’m not sure why you think comparing another parent of whom you know nothing to such a character would be amusing.
I adore my children. I have supported them alone since they were babies. They both have disabilities. I work extremely hard to give them the best life I possibly can. I fight the LA for provision for them. I homeschooled one for months when they couldn’t cope with school, put them back together again, and did my work at night so had to cut my sleep to 3 hours per day for months on end. I fund private medical care for them. I have had to spend tens of thousands of pounds on healthcare and legal battles to get them the help they need. I give them a huge amount of love and affection and understanding for their additional needs and extra support and tools to cope and we have a home filled with laughter, love and joy.
They have wonderful holidays and trips and a lot of input and care and time from me. They have a trampoline and swings and swimming pool in their garden, they have nannies to care for them while I’m working because they can’t cope with group childcare on top of school, but I have changed jobs to ensure I am here every morning and evening and any time they need me. I have never missed a sports day or play or parents’ evening, despite working full time. They have lovely holidays every year, birthday parties, playdates. We do a family games night every week (board games and electronic ones of their choice) and movie nights where we cuddle up on the sofa. I bake with them, teach them to cook and grow things in the garden. I take weeks of unpaid leave ever year as well as annual leave to spend every moment I can with them, while also working in a demanding job and also fighting endless battles for appropriate educational provision for them and taking them myself to every single medical appointment and operation.
Your comment was, therefore, extremely insulting, as it was intended to be because I highly doubt that you genuinely believe any parent - even those far less committed to their children than I am - would take this as a compliment. Making these kinds of assumptions about a stranger and comparing them to a character who exemplified abusive parenting methods is quite clearly not a “light-hearted” or “funny” comment. The fact you believe such insults to people you know nothing about to be justified or acceptable simply because someone stated that they let their children try/do numerous activities outside school because the school curriculum is so narrow is unfathomable, as is your attempt to now try to pass this off as some kind of amusing “joke” when you were effectively accusing me of being abusive to my children by making a comparison to Von Trapp.
11:06 HairsprayBabe @ PlanetMa maybe your kids just go to a rubbish school because I haven't had that experience at all.
A question not an attack
It was not a question. Those are usually identifiable by a question mark. This is not a way that somebody with any intention to engage in a discussion rather than being argumentative would phase a genuine enquiry.
11:18 Hairspraybabe Filling the gaps in their school education is literally the job of parenting - if you have to ship it out to paid activities then that's your parenting choice.
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The general use of you and your eg - if people want to do X it is their choice, but less wordy
Bad grammar in that case: one would write “one” if meant generally, or “someone” if the person wished to make it sound less formal. “You” is the second person and refers directly to the person to which you are speaking/ writing.
11:24 HairsprayBabe If you want people to be pleasant start with yourself.
You called me unpleasant first
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If I am upsetting you this much just block me, I am a stranger on the internet it doesn't matter what I say, but I don't have to agree with you or be "nice" - I will remind you - you are the one who started the name calling.
I’m afraid it does matter that you are hostile and unpleasant to strangers on the internet for no reason, particularly when you try to factually misrepresent their comments over and over again in the most egregious manner and continue to do so even when it is pointed out to you. Those of us capable of standing up to such bullies and pointing out what they are doing have a duty to do so because some other may not feel or be able to when it is directed at them (I can’t imagine, given your behaviour on this thread, that this is the first and only time you’ve engaged in random and unprovoked attacks on someone else for no reason at all).
If only there was a way on Mumsnet to block unpleasant, disingenuous, argumentative and deliberately spiteful posters, but sadly that does not exist. So one can only hope that either - after their disingenuousness is highlighted repeatedly - they have the shame to go away and stop bothering other people when it’s been made clear that they’ve come across someone who won’t be bullied by their attempts to misrepresent things for their own purposes, or that Mumsnet eventually removes them completely so that nobody has to tolerate it anymore.
You seem to be determined to derail the OP’s thread away from the actual topic of discussion so I suggest that we leave this here now and you do not direct any further comments to me.