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School and reasonable adjustments

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PhoebeCat23 · 08/10/2025 15:44

My son has a lot of sensory needs which are impacting on his ability to go to school. I have to give him extensive sensory input before he goes to school and even this sometimes isn't enough. He reports it feels itchy and uncomfortable and (if we make it out of the front door), is pulling and readjusting his clothing the 15 minute walk to the bus stop. He wears bamboo underwear and socks which he has no difficulty with but school uniform simply does not exist in these materials. I have made efforts to soften the clothing to make it more comfortable which has helped a little, but not enough.

I have provided his school with an OT report outlining his needs as well as sharing his challenges around the uniform. They have allowed him to wear another top under his P.E. t shirt so it is not touching his skin directly but apart from that, are refusing to allow any further adjustments. They've just said he MUST wear school uniform and he MUST attend. I'm now being pulled over the coals because of this. I feel like a broken record repeating myself to them but just being ignored.

What on earth do I do? I have done everything I can possibly think of (but still open to ideas if I've missed something) to help him. I don't want to get into trouble but I'm at a loss as to what else can be done. They simply won't budge.

Advice and ideas much welcomed. 🙂

OP posts:
PhoebeCat23 · 08/10/2025 15:55

My son is 12 years old. I have asked if they will allow him to attend wearing something smart but that is comfortable for him. They have refused to allow this. He attends a state school. The uniform requirements are grey school trousers, white shirt, tie and blazer.

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Octavia64 · 08/10/2025 15:53

How old?

what’s the uniform? Some uniforms can be adjusted more easily than others and if it’s white polo shirt or shirt it’s possible to source alternative fabrics.

does he have a diagnosis or EHCP? Either will help with reasonable adjustments.

splim · 08/10/2025 15:51

Private or state school? How old? What is the uniform?

Straight hemmed jogging bottoms (without cuffs or elastic at ankle) should be a fairly uncontroversial switch if uniform trousers are black or navy. Also jersey uniform trousers, which are usually sold as girls' trousers, are extremely comfortable and look even more like normal school trousers.

With the OT report I think you need to be talking to the SENCo. If it's a private school, might they be trying to "manage him out"?

Bloobelly · 08/10/2025 15:48

How old?

CharlieWeasleysWife · 08/10/2025 15:47

How old is your son? What happens if you send him in, in an approximation of the uniform that he can tolerate (eg grey bamboo joggers, white bamboo T-shirt)?

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