Partner’s son smashed telly again and DP says it’s my fault???

Of course you'd manage without him. What does he offer that you can't do yourself? Get him evicted and get on with the rest of your life.

OP, this is very sad and I am so sorry you are in this situation with two young children.
This behaviour is of magnitude enough to damp this man. It will sip into your life and your children. Before you know it, you will have your own teen breaking stuff and you will be nothing but a shadow of yourself.
The teen is on time to change his ways. He needs strong guidance, pronto. He should be helping you to cook dinner or look after his sibblings. He should be, at minimum, setting the table for dinner and helping to tidy up/ wash up. He sounds addicted to these games.

But your partner.... less likely that he can change and well, he is just not an adult.

It is your home OP, the council would side with you on this one.

I do absolutely get why it isn't so simple to just leave and especially when he is constantly telling you that you would never manage but you absolutely would! Just think of the weight lifted from having this man's expectations and beliefs put on your shoulders.

Also whilst he is keen to tell you that you wouldn't cope on your own, it also sounds he isn't around that much?

It is hard though. Single Mum to 2 and I understand why you are worried but I do want to say that if you chose that was what was right for you all then you would figure it out and there is support out there.

If you throw him out you'll qualify for UC as a single person rather than a couple which should help. Then you take him to CMS (assuming he's not self employed and able to mess up his books). Also even if you are behind with the electricity they can't cut you off as there is an under 6 in the house. Check out what you could claim in benefits on entitled to website

Your not the one leaving he is

Op I’m guessing you don’t work? So look at what benefits you’d get If living alone.

Get rid of the twat and his feral kid. Don't have any more kids with him. It's been on and off for years but you're still together? It's not working, is it?

I appreciate what you say about finances. I really do. But you will manage.

I would not want a young male with an explosive temper, no boundaries and no adult male role model around my small children. If your partner won’t consider your safety and that of his younger children you’re going to have to step up. This time the TV. What next? You need to be the adult here and protect yourself and the little ones. Your partner has made it abundantly clear he’s not interested in doing so.

Helpful,🙄

From the novel 'A Thousand Splendid Suns' by Khaled Hosseini - 'Like a compass needle that always points north, a man's accusing finger always finds a woman. Always.' My condolences - I hope you find some peace.

Hang on so it’s your home, then you don’t leave, you can infact kick him out. And if your behind in the electricity then is he even contributing enough, have you looked at what benefits you’d get if he was gone?

This

This a million times over.

Well, you don't have to leave do you? The house is in your name. Can you work out whether financially you can afford to live without him? You need rid of him and his son before someone gets hurt.

If that’s the case, you stay and throw him out.

The son's a chip off the old block.

Jesus christ it's not you.

Of course he should have supported you and disciplined his son.

Now his son thinks it's acceptable behaviour!!

Father like son - get shot of both of them.

Can he still play on Xbox without TV? I'm kind of assuming he can't.
If he can't, then I'd leave that as a natural consequence.

Have you got a tablet the younger ones could use for a bit of screen time until you work out what to do next?

I'd also think long and hard about relationship.

Well, at a guess, he’s angry because his own dad has no interest in him, instead leaving him in the responsibility of someone else who, however kind, has her own two much younger children to look after. That’s not OP’s fault or anything she can change.

What do you want people to suggest? He sounds like a twat. He’s unlikely to recover from that condition.

His feral son is not your problem. Walk away.

This has bad news written all over it. If this boy smashes a tv and you get the blame, then he learns nothing. He can take his anger out on whatever he likes with no consequences because his emotions aren't his fault, right? Given this it would be unusual if his behaviour didn't escalate.

What is the housing situation here, is this man connected financially to the house? If he's not you can get them both removed, doesn't matter that he is the father to your children. You have a responsibility to protect your children, even if the person you are protecting them from is their own half brother.

Another kid messed up by the step family they’ve been forced in to.

Its no wonder that children’s behaviour has gone so far downhill when there’s so many parents that choose to move their children into situations that make them unhappy.

Maybe you should be trying to find out why your step child is so angry, rather than wanting him just to get a telling off that will only make him feel even less loved.