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Very stressful awful morning.

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Lucy2586 · 08/10/2025 09:52

I have been having trouble getting my child into school EBSA. The school are aware that I have contacted every agencies possible and I have managed to get her there most days apart from the second week of year 7.

i take her early at 8 so shes there before the crowds, but she won’t go to student support on her own theu have to collect her. The last few occasions they have made me wait saying they would like her to go on her own. After a very difficult morning getting her in both of us in tears theu made me wait 20 mins by this time more and more crowds I had to stop her escaping twice so I admit I was curt to the staff because I myself by this point was at breaking point. I know there are other children and parents I understand this but I am doing my part getting her in after being threatened with a fines etc by them.

The teacher called me said I acted rude and they would like a meeting because they I seem distressed too. What do theu expect parents to do it’s so so hard. Am I unreasonable for wanting to get her in before the crowds. Im not meaning to rude just highly anxious by this point.

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teees · 08/10/2025 10:26

I would be less worried about our whether people think YWBU and more concerned about finding a workable solution. At the moment you don’t have one. I took mine out after I realised all school Gavin then was trauma. A bit extreme maybe but if your child is distressed and trying to escape perhaps it’s time for a major rethink?

Katemax82 · 08/10/2025 10:24

No advice here but you have my sympathy. I have 2 kids at different schools with this. It's hell

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Lucy2586 · 08/10/2025 10:21

Endofyear · 08/10/2025 10:06

Being rude to the staff isn't going to get you anywhere. Your anxiety and tears etc are going to rub off on your DD so you really need to work on staying calm and work with the school to make the handover as quick and seamless as possible. Go to the meeting and explain that you are having difficulty getting your daughter to go in by herself to meet student support and ask if they can come and meet you at the entrance at the moment. Try and work out with them a plan to work towards her going in independently.

I have tried everything for weeks i am not sure what else I can do. I know being rude doesn’t help it’s just exasperation really. We were doing great they were taking her straight in but they have decided they want her to go on her own and she won’t it’s pretty impossible.

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Endofyear · 08/10/2025 10:06

Being rude to the staff isn't going to get you anywhere. Your anxiety and tears etc are going to rub off on your DD so you really need to work on staying calm and work with the school to make the handover as quick and seamless as possible. Go to the meeting and explain that you are having difficulty getting your daughter to go in by herself to meet student support and ask if they can come and meet you at the entrance at the moment. Try and work out with them a plan to work towards her going in independently.