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Expensive meal to be invited to do we back out

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workingitout1234 · 07/10/2025 16:12

Invited to a family meal on Saturday for FIL bday, not a main milestone (if it was different story)
they have chosen a fancy venue and it’s set menu starting at £36 per person, plus we have to pay £15 for our child
I had a baby 4 weeks ago and are on statutory maternity pay and am scrimping day to day, we have 2 children. I have to consider if I go to a soft play, I can’t ever buy coffee, I have to return unwanted gifts to get things we need.

what do we do? I don’t want to be rude but I feel like this is too expensive and I can’t lie it’s made me feel really sad about money.

have spoken to my husband and he is also shocked, I’m going to let him handle it and make the decision but I feel like nearly £90 is too much money for a meal out
have eaten there before and the food was awful it’s all about the showing off the venue

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HeyWhaychaDoin · 07/10/2025 16:14

Agree, it won't just be the set menu price will it? Drinks too, then "can't let mil and fil pay can we? Let's split the bill'
And so even though you'll have drunk water, you'll be paying for.the rests drinks, coffee etc!

Namenamchange · 07/10/2025 16:14

what would you do if it was your dad? Would you go? Not go? Can dh go without you to make it cheaper?

How does the bill get split? Each what they orders it so many ways?

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