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Chopbob · 07/10/2025 14:42

People using the word gosh, or golly gosh.

I have never in real life heard anyone other than MN posters and Disney princesses use gosh. It's absolutely vile.

It can get in the bin along with moist, supper and plonk (wine).

(Lighthearted of course)

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PoliteRaven · 08/10/2025 08:39

SantiagoShaming · 08/10/2025 05:07

I say gosh, but I also say fuck—a lot. I’ve said the C word a grand total of once in my four and a bit decades.

I’m not sure why older language is being derided here; what’s wrong with it? My most used exclamations are crumbs, Christ on a bike, bollocky (e.g. “where did I put my bollocky keys?!”) and buggeration. I don’t think gosh is particularly twee but I think I’d rather be accused of being twee than coarse.

I also just love language and enjoy using unusual or archaic words. DP is frequently lovingly referred to as a scoundrel or a knave!

Me too, I sometimes call my DP and "impudent whelp" 😂

Shodan · 08/10/2025 08:35

PeachBlossom1234 · 07/10/2025 16:46

I used to say “oh god” a lot but one time a volunteer at my work pulled me up and said she was offended by it. I have never said it once since and instead say “oh gosh” or “oh goodness”. Definitely not meant in a fake way, but that I don’t want to cause offence

The headmistress of my school once told us, after assembly, that she considered any exclamation including the word God (e.g Oh my God/ For God's sake/Oh God or even just God!) as a prayer being offered up, and therefore it wasn't swearing.

Whether or not she meant it (it was a private, C of E school, so it's possible she was religious I guess) it had what I think was the desired effect- it drastically reduced the use of 'God swears'. Teenage 'rebellion' is not as fun when you believe that the adults don't have a problem with it...

CoffeeCantata · 08/10/2025 06:47

rosyvalentine · 08/10/2025 03:03

Gosh doesn't bother me, but the one I really hate is "eats". As in, will we go for eats later? Ugh! Just say food or dinner!

Or ‘eaterie’. Aaaarrrgggh.

CoffeeCantata · 08/10/2025 06:30

SantiagoShaming · 08/10/2025 04:58

Luckily it’s fallen out of favour I think, but where I’m from people used to say “fresh orange” to differentiate between orange juice and orange squash. Even when I was a child it made me irrationally angry, never understood why. But I’m in solidarity with you on “fresh.”

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Oh GOSH! Yes - what is it about fruits (plural)?

I sat near this chap at a formal dinner and he was put out because the pudding contained apples rather than “summer fruits”. I remember the shudder I felt. If he’d just said fruit it would have been fine.

Dont ask me why!

CoffeeCantata · 08/10/2025 06:26

5128gap · 08/10/2025 06:21

No more fake than the performative swearing of people who haven't got over the excitement that no one can tell them off for it now they're grown ups. I cringe when I hear people who'd have been 'goshed' through their childhood thinking swearing is cool and subversive.

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Snap!

Just seen your post. Great minds, etc😄

CoffeeCantata · 08/10/2025 06:24

SantiagoShaming · 08/10/2025 05:07

I say gosh, but I also say fuck—a lot. I’ve said the C word a grand total of once in my four and a bit decades.

I’m not sure why older language is being derided here; what’s wrong with it? My most used exclamations are crumbs, Christ on a bike, bollocky (e.g. “where did I put my bollocky keys?!”) and buggeration. I don’t think gosh is particularly twee but I think I’d rather be accused of being twee than coarse.

I also just love language and enjoy using unusual or archaic words. DP is frequently lovingly referred to as a scoundrel or a knave!

I agree. There’s such a range of interesting and expressive language to choose from and it’s great to use slightly archaic words and idioms. Why wouldn’t you?

My swearing tends to be reserved for extreme scenarios, which personally I think is how it should be. I have to switch off when luvvie actors (Miriam Margolyes is one of the worst offenders) start effing and blinding for no reason. I suspect these people came from posh backgrounds, went to convent schools etc and came of age in the 60s and associate swearing with excitement, taboo-breaking and fashionable rebellion. But to me show-off swearing is just embarrassing.

I agree twee isn’t great, but much rather that than coarse!

5128gap · 08/10/2025 06:21

Catpiece · 07/10/2025 15:10

Gosh is fake as fuck. It’s usually people trying to pretend they’re the type that don’t swear. It sounds fake because it IS fake

No more fake than the performative swearing of people who haven't got over the excitement that no one can tell them off for it now they're grown ups. I cringe when I hear people who'd have been 'goshed' through their childhood thinking swearing is cool and subversive.

ladyamy · 08/10/2025 06:12

It’s ‘munch’ for me 🫥

SantiagoShaming · 08/10/2025 05:14

steff13 · 08/10/2025 03:23

It's not as bad as succulent. In reference to food; I'm ok it it's about plants. When I hear someone referring to food as succulent I can just imagine them licking their fingers while they're eating and it makes me want to gag.

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Completely agree! Succulent makes me shudder, as does meal, so when DP showed me that viral video of the Australian chap getting arrested (“Succulent Chinese meal!”) I wanted to wash my ears with bleach!

I’m indifferent to ‘moist’ but ‘browse, ‘topic’ and worse still ‘atop’ - especially on a menu or describing a dish - all make me itchy and angry. No idea why!

SantiagoShaming · 08/10/2025 05:07

I say gosh, but I also say fuck—a lot. I’ve said the C word a grand total of once in my four and a bit decades.

I’m not sure why older language is being derided here; what’s wrong with it? My most used exclamations are crumbs, Christ on a bike, bollocky (e.g. “where did I put my bollocky keys?!”) and buggeration. I don’t think gosh is particularly twee but I think I’d rather be accused of being twee than coarse.

I also just love language and enjoy using unusual or archaic words. DP is frequently lovingly referred to as a scoundrel or a knave!

SantiagoShaming · 08/10/2025 04:58

Coffeeishot · 07/10/2025 16:02

I hate the word Fresh as in feeling Fresh or Fresh fruits etc etc it makes me shudder! Ive only read gosh I've never heard anyone say it .

Luckily it’s fallen out of favour I think, but where I’m from people used to say “fresh orange” to differentiate between orange juice and orange squash. Even when I was a child it made me irrationally angry, never understood why. But I’m in solidarity with you on “fresh.”

TotallyUnapologeticOmnivore · 08/10/2025 04:38

Samscaff · 07/10/2025 16:48

I use "Gosh" and know many others who do too.

What's wrong with it?

There's nothing really wrong with it, it just sounds a bit Malory Towers.

ChuckGarabedian · 08/10/2025 04:05

I have an irrational hatred of the phrase “buttery soft” - I’ve heard it a lot recently in social media ads, particularly when talking about some sort of fabric.

susiedaisy1912 · 08/10/2025 03:49

Frankblackwife · 07/10/2025 15:17

Vile just makes me think of gimme gimme gimme

Me too.

steff13 · 08/10/2025 03:23

ProfoundlyPeculiarAndWeird · 07/10/2025 15:29

Why does moist always, ALWAYS come up on threads like this? It's not that bad. I think it's just that it has been cited so many times as a disliked word that it is the one that springs most readily to mind when we try to think of words we hate.

It's not as bad as succulent. In reference to food; I'm ok it it's about plants. When I hear someone referring to food as succulent I can just imagine them licking their fingers while they're eating and it makes me want to gag.

Katflapkit · 08/10/2025 03:10

My truth is a current Cringe along with a the fake apology 'sorry you feel that way'

rosyvalentine · 08/10/2025 03:06

Freda69 · 07/10/2025 16:06

I don’t mind gosh, but I can’t stand the word ‘panties’ as used by Americans - just cringeworthy.

How about panty hose? AKA tights! 🤣

rosyvalentine · 08/10/2025 03:03

Gosh doesn't bother me, but the one I really hate is "eats". As in, will we go for eats later? Ugh! Just say food or dinner!

Katflapkit · 08/10/2025 01:42

Doggybroc · 07/10/2025 14:44

my very close (and absolutely lovely) friend does.

She is a devout Christian and uses it instead “God”

I love her saying it 😊

I am a lapsed (like Narnia) Catholic and I say Oh My Gosh instead of OMG, especially in front of religious people.

Vaguelyclassical · 08/10/2025 01:33

smallglassbottle · 07/10/2025 15:07

I use it to avoid saying God as I'm a Christian. I also use exclamations (not swearing) in other languages to make it a bit more interesting as I get bored of saying gosh.

Zut alors!

BauhausOfEliott · 08/10/2025 01:24

gannett · 07/10/2025 16:39

Americans absolutely love a "bloody". I was moaning about the "bloody printer" once and an American friend in the room asked me if I could say it again so she could record it.

That said I felt similarly when she said "y'all", though nothing compared to how overjoyed I felt when my French housemate actually said "ooh la la", which I'd always assumed was a stereotypical myth.

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I’m from London but I live in Manchester and in my first job up here, I was the only non-northerner in the office. One of the people I worked with was absolutely thrilled to learn that I really do use rhyming slang sometimes.

nothing compared to how overjoyed I felt when my French housemate actually said "ooh la la", which I'd always assumed was a stereotypical myth

Similarly, I was delighted when my Italian boss was shocked by something and said ‘Mamma Mia!’

BauhausOfEliott · 08/10/2025 01:03

AInightingale · 07/10/2025 17:47

What is the most acceptable word for these...garments? I hate them all. Though I don't mind 'drawers' actually.

And 'gusset' is monstrous.

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I’m happy to call them knickers, which to me sounds a bit smutty and dirty, and therefore enjoyable. But I know loads of people HATE the word knickers! It’s so weird how we all have such strong reactions to different words.

Cattenberg · 07/10/2025 23:07

Clafoutie · 07/10/2025 19:47

😂It is strange isn’t it. Mine is when people say ‘pud’, as in ‘ main course and a pud’.

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I hate "pud" too!

Mrmrowlchops · 07/10/2025 22:46

PurpleChrayn · 07/10/2025 21:53

Light-skinned men who have naturally over-defined lips give me the ick.

How oddly specific

Octavious · 07/10/2025 22:38

@Catpiece i use gosh and I swear like a trooper I can't use swear words at work

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