To do a day out without newborn weeks after birth?

The baby will be with their Dad- that is completely reasonable if you are happy with it. Obviously assuming the baby will take a bottle and dosent refuse it or anything!

This! I had my son in winter and went to watch a football match for three hours (including travel time) when he was three weeks old. The mum guilt was bad at first but you soon learn that you need to be yourself sometimes!

I could pump no problem with my first. Could barely pump at all with my second. Either way I couldn't and wouldn't have left either of them at that age and I wouldn't want to confuse them by introducing bottles so soon. I also wouldn't have been well enough to go myself as I nearly died as did the babies which is why I can't have any more.

I wouldn't plan anything tbh. If you feel up to it, great. If you don't, nothing lost.

Not at all..you go and enjoy yourself with your family and son..take no notice of these bloody mums who need their husbands wiping their arses for 2 months after having a baby,if you feel up to it just go,these women are just fishing for gossip as to why you all can't go..Best of luck xx

I carried on life as normal with a newborn. There wasn't anywhere I could take one DC and not a newborn. I'd be going with baby and DC.
I don't think there is anything wrong with leaving the newborn with dad for the day in theory. I personally wouldn't have been away from my baby that long, you may have an idea of how you would feel based on how you felt when your DC was that age. I also may have struggled with expressing enough milk that early, I really struggled expressing but again you may have a better idea of what works for you if you expressed with your DC early on.

Sounds very much unreasonable to leave newborn with DH. You can't know for sure if the baby will accept bottle and going to a party is not as important as being with your newborn

Go with your son, your DH is willing to stay home with the NB. It's not like you will be gone for days, it's just a few hours.
My daughter stayed home with her NB when her DP had events for his side of the family and took their 3yo. He stayed at home with the newborn when she had events to attend.
A lot of people don't like taking NBs out due to all the germs (measle scare) and they are not able to be vaccinated that little.

Your newborn baby will be none the wiser for a day, goodness some people making out you have to be with them 24/7 or you're a wrong un' is just ridiculous. They will be dry, fed and contented with dad and your DS get quality time with mum. Don't beat yourself up, go!

If DP is good then you can go.

If you are likely to change your mind because you aren’t sure don’t say it to DC and warn everyone it will be a last minute decision depending on baby and all.

Give you the space you’ll need to make a good decision with the least stress.

Good luck!

Why not? I went on my daughter’s school trip for the day when I had just have my other daughter, she was two weeks old. She was with her father, I had pumped and left lots of bottles. Dad and daughter had a lovely day and I kept my promise to my other daughter to join her on her school trip (reasons that I needed to attended not my husband). I really can’t see what all the big fuss is about. No child newborn or not is more important than another. You will have a lovely day with DS and your husband will get one on one time with newborn!

Normally, I wouldn’t want to leave a new baby a couple weeks old, but it’s going to be a big change for DS and I think some time with you, doing something wants to do is important at a time he might be feeling pushed aside, replaced, less important. Reassurance he is still important. There are many ways to do this, of course, but a special day out is something he might remember. So long as you have organised feeding, I don’t think the baby will come to harm with his father present. They can do extra bonding.
Only you will know how it’s going to feel at the time and it might not be practical when the time comes, so I’d keep things flexible for now. No promises either way.

This

I did similar ten days after birth with my first. I was desperate for the break. No issues.

Its expressed milk my dd gives in bottles. Not sure how formula comes into it.

I think it's fine and you can always leave early if you decide to.
Not everyone does the whole 'bubble' thing and for lots of mums, 'business as usual' is the preference, especially when it's not your first baby.
Make your plans, you can always change them if circumstances change.

A baby who has been exclusively breastfed for two weeks may not take a bottle. Introducing a bottle can also affect breastfeeding; it's easier for babies to get milk from a bottle than the breast, so many develop a preference which can make them reluctant to breastfeed. It then becomes a cycle which can lead to babies refusing to nurse at all.

Combination feeding is possible but it takes careful management and I think OP will struggle to hit that balance in the short timeframe available.

A couple of months is very different from a couple of weeks.
A baby that tiny will still be establishing feeding and her supply will also be up and down. The baby is likely to be constantly feeding.
I know I could never have pumped enough milk for a full day two weeks after birth and if i hadn't fed the baby for a full day my breasts would have been agony . And also my children wouldn't take a bottle anyway.

Only you can decide if you're happy being away from your baby so soon after birth. In general I think newborns benefit from being with their mums, but nonetheless are fine with other caregivers, so leaving the baby with your husband isn't intrinsically an issue.

The issue is that if your baby is only 1 or 2 weeks old I think it is incredibly unlikely your milk supply will be sufficiently established for you to build up a stash which will last most of a day, especially if the baby is cluster feeding. You'll need to introduce a bottle or so a day from the start so that you know the baby will take a bottle, and be prepared with formula in case it is needed. You will also need to be religious about pumping so you don't get mastitis.

If you end up having a c-section you will not be able to drive (even if you feel well enough check that your insurance would still be valid).

Its very hard to imagine an event which is for families with kids but excludes your husband and baby from attending, but assuming this truly the case I would play it by ear and decide a day or two before if you feel up to it and are confident the feeding will work out.

I think it would be much better to take the baby with you. I wouldn't want to be away from a newborn for that length of time.
But also you may not be able to drive that near to the birth and definitely not if you end up having a section

I breastfed for 14 months. My baby only ever had one bottle of formula, actually when he was 2 weeks old because I was exhausted and needed a sleep. We slept for a much needed few hours after he drank it down, then he woke up constipated. I was in no state to leave the house that day let alone go to a family party.

I was advised by the health visitor not to mess around with a breastpump for the first 6 weeks to build a good milk supply and by the time I tried it and actually pumped some milk my baby was then only interested in breastfeeding and refused bottles. So that one bottle of formula at 2 weeks old was the only bottle he ever had. He also spat out dummies.

At 5 and a bit months I gave him solid food, water in a sippy cup and carried on feeding him but obviously much less once he was on solids, so at that point I could have left him for a day. At 2 weeks there was no chance.

I think op should do whatever is right for them but there are most certainly babies who won't take bottles.

Go into many areas and hardly any babies are breastfeed at all by 6 weeks. Especially as their free f or nearly ormula for many of the parents there. The midwife tells the mums about it often before baby is even born

The criteria on exclusive breastfeeding is so extreme this doesn't really represent how many women are feeding. In my friendship circle, I know only one woman who met the criteria for exclusive breastfeeding. Some didn't because of mix feeding - so as you say, they took bottles, others because they introduced food early, either on medical advice or otherwise. Or they gave some formula in those first few days, some of them on only one occasion. These were all women who ended up breastfeeding until well into toddlerhood btw. I gave some formula in the first week (out of choice, I wanted to mix feed) until my baby refused the bottle. She then breastfed for 2.5 years. The numbers are misleading basically.

Hmm as I previously stated by DD introduced one bottle a day from a few days old. That her husband gave the baby with her out of room. Still case now at nearly a year and baby breastfeeds from her

One or two WEEKS, not months?! I was still crying in my bed two weeks in with both mine!

Milk only comes in day 2-3, so maybe four days in to breastfeeding, you’d be leaving them to try and get feed from a bottle with dad?! Not even back to birth weight yet?!! 😳

Women are so different, aren’t they. You’ve done it before, so you do you, don’t try to decide based on others.

But even if you do formula feed, at that stage a newborn and their mother would be better off together than apart. It’s still early days (for both).