To do a day out without newborn weeks after birth?

Personally I think it’s unrealistic. Also, struggling to think what sort of family event welcomes kids but bans babies and anyone non-blood related i.e. spouses/partners. There was no way I could have even sat to drive a car with a few of mine for the first few weeks and I didn’t have c-sections.

I think it’s probably very achievable as long as feeding is going well and you are able to find the time and space to pump while you are there- you may need to do it more than once.

People are just confused OP, because most of us can’t think of any sort of family event where a newborn wouldn’t be welcome, and you don’t want to elaborate on your (potentially perfectly reasonable) reasons.

It's your second baby so you've got some inkling of how you'd feel.

I happily went to a party without baby at about 2 weeks, though it was only an evening and local. But others feel panicky if they baby is in a different room to them at this age. So let you be the guide to you.

There's nothing wrong with going or not going, it's purely a matter of what's comfortable for you.

It might affect breastfeeding, but equally it might not. If you are very fixed on exclusive breastfeeding then I wouldn't risk it, but I get the feeling you wouldn't even be considering this, so you are probably a bit relaxed as how it'll go.

Mum for at least the first few weeks, unless that's impossible. Unpopular but Dad/Grandparent etc are not Mum, they did not grow the baby inside them and aren't a substitute when e.g trying to establish breastfeeding.

I'd take the baby. Feeding a two week old in way at that stage can be challenging. Some babies will be cluster feeding, some who are breastfeeding won't go near expressed milk.

The baby will be fine with dad. You - that is a different question. You will still be healing, pumping might not work, your hormones will be all over the places.

How can anyone give you an answer on that without knowing how far away it is?! If you'd be driving 2 hours each way solo a week postpartum with a 3 year old, don't do it. If it's a 20 min drive and your mum's with you the whole time and driving then it's more achievable.

If you have a CS you probably shouldn't be driving by then anyway.

No it is not ffs.

I would just plan to go with the baby.

If you don’t want to give details and that has to be the plan then put simply yes it’s unreasonable and unrealistic.

If all goes well with the birth and with feeding, I don’t see why not and think it would probably be a good thing for your DS as he might be feeling very unsettled. I will add though that I FF so am not sure of the logistics of pumping etc but if you’ve done it before, I assume you know all of that!

I think the feeding aspect will be harder than you think, but otherwise I'd say go.

The baby will be fine with their father so it comes down to whether you feel emotionally and physically ok to go. You might find you don’t know for certain until the day. Just because you are being induced and are fairly confident of the dates doesn’t mean you won’t end up with tearing or a c section.

If you do go, you will need to pump and do so frequently to both mimic your baby to help your supply and to prevent mastitis. I’d probably have formula at home for the baby because you might not be able to pump enough in advance of being away in such a short amount of time.

Mum or a parent/grandparent/carer?

OK seen your update.

I think it unwise to plan to go with just DS.

Good luck with the rest of your pg and with the birth, however it happens.

You’ve had a baby before - what do you think? For me I’d move heaven and earth to take your baby as well. You say it’s impossible but get over that and I suspect the whole thing would be much easier.

if you feel well enough you will be fine.

I think the only way I’d consider it is if DH and the baby came and were somewhere nearby. But really it seems quite ambitious and I don’t exactly understand why your baby wouldn’t be welcome if your other child is. I think the driving would have been hard for me at the time and I was still bleeding a settling into feeding at that point - even with my second.

I think it’s impossible to know the answer until you’ve had your baby.

I was fine physically after a few hours and could have worked out the feeding, others don’t want to leave their babies for a year.

Of course it's ok, the baby will be with their dad

I cant imagine any family event where a new baby would not be welcome. Even a funeral or wedding you take the baby out the minute it starts squawking.

At two weeks old you will still be getting BF established, trying to get your seatbelt over rock hard boobs for the journey home would be

Separating yourself from your baby is a really big ask of yourself, as well. Your DH is right.

Take baby, go as a family.

Did you pump that early with your eldest? It’d be one thing if you were planning on formula feeding but IDK how realistic it is that you’ll have built up a stash of breastmilk from pumping in only a week.

Also, how are you planning getting there? Are you planning on driving yourself? Could you realistically manage that even if you have stitches or a c-section? How old is DS and can you physically manage him? If he’s a toddler that’s going to be a lot harder than if he’s a sensible 6YO.

It’d surely be easier if you all went as a family. I know you say it’s not really baby friendly but I’m a bit confused by that if it’s a family thing with lots of other young kids, and your DS sounds young if he can’t attend without you, so it surely can’t be that unsuitable for a newborn…

Each to their own but think this is wild. A newborn needs Mum more than you or DS need to go to a party. Can't someone else take DS? This is not to mention still potentially being battered from the birth and not able to manage

But she hasn't said how far a drive it would be.