To do a day out without newborn weeks after birth?

If you plan to breastfeed baby then I would imagine this may be a struggle to manage with a 1-2 week old? I would have struggled at that point.. Also, from a biological perspective, it will likely be distressing for such a young baby to be away from mum.

There's plenty a partner can do outside of feeding the baby - cleaning, laundry, meal.planning, cooking, taking care of toddlers.

What MNers generally complain about is the fact that many men have no idea that there isn't a house fairy taking care of all of that, or needing detailed instructions on every single item they 'help' with, and then needing to be told they're Very Good Boys when they've produced dinner one night.

Think she said DH take the older one.

No, I didn't say that.

So…you said can’t her DH take the baby, which is already the plan.

Um, yeah. So?

For all the posts on MN whining about partners not doing things now you’re saying her DH shouldn’t? Honestly, this site.

I’m going to go out on a limb and say OP isn’t going to at least try a bottle before the day 😂

She literally says the baby with be with DH.

Youve gone from "would be more reasonable to leave baby at home" to "cant possibly take baby", thats odd. So further questions are only natural.

But, to stick to the topic - yes you are BU

There are also SO many variables that may well mean leaving the baby with dad (sorry, im assuming hes dad) might not actuall be an option (not least the expectation of having enough milk to express and leave)

Could you potentially both go?

Ok. In that case. Yes you are being unreasonable!
a 2 week old baby that’s being breast fed is too young to leave for 6 hours! It’s also ridiculous to think you can leave your breasts filling up for 6 whole hours!
It would be a whole lot worse to attend and have to leave early because baby needs you than it would be to not go at all and not mention the day to your son.
Do something else with son that only means leaving baby for couple of hourso

Well if baby is only a week old, it’s a BERY long time to go without expressing or feeding a baby…. Your boobs could potentially be very swollen and painful by the time you get home, you could also end up getting mastitis which is hideous !
It also depends as my DD simply wouldn’t take a bottle, no matter what test I bought, it was breast or nothing…
Surely it’s easier to take the baby? You’d still get lots of fun time with your older child as there will be lots of family members there desperate to meet and hold your newborn anyway!

I left my baby with dh to have my hair done when mine was little - but that was half an hour not all day!

Her plan is to breastfeed and baby will literally only be a couple of weeks old. I disagree with the its winter so don't take the baby comments unless they all don't go. The same relatives could give OP or the older child the virus which they then bring home to the baby. OP could bring DH and the baby, they could chill together with dad in charge and OP could have 1-2-1 with the older one and be on hand for feeds etc. No one needs to pass baby round or be kissing them, and OP is there if baby decides not to take a bottle.

I’m not I could do it at just a week old. For one thing I didn’t give my children bottles and never got the hang of pumping (which I only tried because my second baby was in NICU for a few days) until much older (and one refused to have them at all). But aside from that I’m not sure why all three of you don’t go.
But as for the wellbeing of the baby I’m sure they will be fine if they are happy with a bottle.

Please be prepared not to go if the situation doesn't allow it (in the best interest of the newborn and yourself).
From my own experience, you may not be able to express enough immediately; if you are planning on breastfeeding you need to be careful about nipple confusion; you might have to undergo a c section; you may not feel physically up to it - and that's OK! Don't promise anything to DS, it's a bonus if you do manage to go.
Please stick to your guns about not taking him - family are the worst at wanting to coo and touch and hold newborns regardless of what you want and tell them, and also tend to be in very enclosed and close contact - their immune systems are too weak at this point should they catch anything it could be fatal. I am amazed at the number of people suggesting you take a newborn immediately!

The feeding plan comment was in regards to posters who said baby may not take expressed through a bottle - I’m sure as an experienced Mum who has resorted to Mumsnet she will try bottle use days prior and not just wait until the day she is absent. As baby is not here yet her feeding plan cannot be guaranteed and poster does not state EBF. She plans to pump whilst there so there will be a small window where she will be away from the baby whilst pumping (she can pump/BF as leaving and upon return with baby, even sooner if DH transports her with baby). Just because you have experience of both doesn’t mean everyones experience is identical. My experience is not the same as yours.

Ultimately it is up to the poster, she will know how she feels both in herself and the wellbeing of her baby after birth. I do not think she will be wrong in whichever choice she makes given it will be thoroughly thought through and planned as she appears to be.

@AvidLurker she plans to breastfeed and pump, it's in the OP. I have experience EBF and pumping and it is absolutely not doable to be away from baby when they are 2 weeks old. Your milk supply is still getting established, baby cluster feeds randomly, it's just not doable.

Mine seems to be an unpopular opinion with all the ‘cannot leave baby with Dad for a second’ comments, but I would go. I do not agree with a such tiny baby being at an event with so many people, especially this time of year where cold and flu is rife so I wouldn’t entertain the idea of taking baby. People will want to hold baby, not knowing if they have washed their hands/be touching cheeks etc., that would put me on edge.

After my first DC(7 now) were born I probably would have fell in that camp and not have left them but I’ve now got a 4 week old I would love to be able to spend some time alone with my 7yr olds.

10-4 is not a whole day, most of that time baby will be sleeping! As I had a section I would have DH drive us but apart from that why can a baby not be left with Dad unless EBF? You will know beforehand if there are feeding difficulties, they are unlikely to suddenly arise between 10-4 that day. You’re not a first time Mum so I imagine you know exactly what your feeding plan is! Best of luck with everything!

You can’t definitively plan, the baby may not even take the bottle; birth may not go as intended, etc.

But in theory, yes of course you can go and leave the baby with their father.

I think you should go if you can, even if it's just to spend some quality time with your DS😊 perhaps you could try 10.30 - 3.30 instead 😊

Personally i wouldnt leave a newborn at 2 weeks old , my daughters just had a baby who is now 2 weeks old and it would never cross her mind to go out for the day and leave her baby... even with her husband
I think its best if you all go then husband can take the baby if needed while you spend time with your son but youll be at the family event as a family

Why are your family planning a big event that you can't take your brand new baby to. You've presumably been pregnant all the time they've been planning this. I can't imagine having a family thing that someone I loved couldn't attend because they'd just given birth to another family member .

Take the baby if you feel up to the day out. Don’t leave it behind.

When my son was 2 weeks old I had to go to an important interview in person (a training programme where the opportunity only comes around once a year so wasn't going to miss it). It was about a 1.5hr commute each way then 2 hours there for interview plus group exercise, so about 5 hours in total. It was manageable. I did have to pump in the toilets while I was there and on the train (not an experience I want to repeat!) and when I got home my boobs were ready to explode. But overall it was ok and DS took pre-pumped milk from the bottle no problem. DH said he slept basically the whole time anyway. You'll be ok I'm sure just make sure to pump for your supply

Without knowing all the details, I think it should be fine.
You know your own body, you can judge if nb has enough milk to cope.
You are in charge of you. Go for it!

Don't ask everyone else their thoughts or opinions, see how you feel at the time, induced birth doesn't guarantee quick and it doesn't guarantee no c section either ( I speak from experience)and if you're okay and up for it at the time, go, if not don't! Maybe not tell your DS till the day as this will save any upset and make it much more fun and exciting if it goes ahead, which for DS will make it so much more memorable x