To be late for school once a week?

You're looking for loopholes. It's tardy to be late, your time is not more important than anyone else's so it's not a good habit to get into. In my job if you were late three times EVER you'd be sacked. Start good habits now rather than looking for clauses. It's not a healthy attitude to have, especially for someone who should be young and hungry to take on the world. Show responsibility and respect.

I don’t think so.

If the OP had said, what’s the advice on this or what would you do, then I would have responded as such.

The OP wanted responses directed as if to her child. What would be the purpose of that if not to tell their child ‘look what Mumsnet says’.

At school you may get some sanction that doesn’t bother you.
If you were working, persistent lateness with that sort of attitude, would probably get you the sack, and rightly so.

As for your mother, posting this at all, I had better not comment!

It's a concession not a right, they are showing a bit of leniency for someone who is late once in a while, the bus didn't run or something.

This is the excuse all those MPs used when caught claiming expenses for duck houses etc. "I'm allowed to, therefore I will".

Really weird post OP.
Mumsnet shouldn’t do your parenting for you. Support your child to get to school on time.

Bloody hell. What a response! I swear this place gets worse by the day. Isn’t that one of the main purposes of this forum?!!

I suspect I would have done this at that age if it had been a thing at my school. I was very bored by school (I was bright and didn’t get enough interesting challenges) and I didn’t like rules or being told what to do. I can see a lot of self-centredness and brattiness looking back that I didn’t think of then, I just wanted autonomy and a bit of interest/variety.

As adult I wouldn’t do this kind of thing and I don’t think I’m entitled brat any more because I’ve grown the hell up. I think it’s a good idea to discuss it with him and find out what’s driving this behaviour and go from there. As pp said he’ll have to deal with the consequences of it.

I don't blame you, OP. School sixth forms are ridiculously prescriptive and infantilising and do not prepare 16-18 year olds for university or work. If it were up to me I'd get rid of them. Anyway you can subvert the rules is ok by me. A lie in once a week will stand you in better stead than form time and assembly.

Maybe wait until after UCAS references have gone in to play this game.

I think they are old enough to make their own decisions, and tbh I wouldn't care if my child was doing this. I did similar at 6th form, and school made a fuss for a while but what can they do when it's within the rules.

If you can make a system work well for you, why wouldn't you - as long as you're not disadvantaging anyone else (which in this case he isn't). And it's not like they're missing any actual lesson time.

When its to do with sick leave at work though, I wouldn't be so happy with this because you're putting your other co workers under more stress, which isn't fair.

Save it until Friday though. In case you actually are late one day and you've already used it.

Great team player you're raising there 👍🏾.

If you go through life with the attitude “what’s the bare minimum I can do without being punished” you will have an unsuccessful and unfulfilling life.

Obviously made the wrong choice for sixth forms. Mine went to a college that only required them to be present for lessons and tutor time. They had a whole study day per week where they didn’t have to go in but also, they would often go in late on days when they didn’t have 9ams or come home early if they were done for the day.

However, if the rule was you have to be there for 9 and stay til the end, they’d have been there for then.

I get it’s annoying but the rules are the rules.

Doing it 'because I can' no way.
Doing it because it benefits me in some way (extra revision time at home, cheaper train ticket etc) and doesn't harm anyone, then yes. Is there critical thought there, or just doing it to be a 'rebel' for sake of it.

I would only do on a Friday though, as if do another day then risk of getting an unplanned late.

At year 13, they are old enough to start making own decisions and to understand the consequences.

Honestly - the school need to change the policy! Otherwise it clearly sets out this is allowed and it’s perfectly reasonable to be late once a week.

Also in year 13 with highest predicted grades and already having a job ….. the school really need to pick their battles! The kid is doing great.

In Year 13 it's up to the student not the parent.

I hate any kind of gaming the system but if you let him (I can't help assume it's a DS) do this, or rather turn a blind eye, you might be able to push on another more important issue (keeping the good grades and the volunteering).

Being "smart" about things wears off as well after they have proven their point for a while.

The voluntary work etc is irrelevant. They just sound pretty immature. Thinking they are being clever and rebelling, but just looking like an idiot. I guess at that age you can’t force them.

What about UCAS references, are they applying for university? I wonder if by being a smart Alec, the references will be written with a tone to reflect what the teachers think of your child.

He’s Year 13 so 17/18? Not really much you can do tbh, apart from air your disapproval. Tell him he’s being a prick - I bet he thinks he’s really clever for ‘outsmarting the system’. As an adult people will not admire this type of behaviour.

Purposefully missing an assembly is rude. It suggest the young person feels their time is more precious than the staff delivering the assembly.
Not a good personality trait.

I am not telling you off! Sorry if it came across that way, you can do whatever you want on the internet …

But what’s the point of this if not to show your kid, look Mumsnet agrees with me?

I actually think it's a useful skill and a sign of lateral thinking, which is often useful in life.

School get to make the rules. S/he's complying with the rules to the extent that it works for him. Yes s/he's playing the system, but why on earth shouldn't s/he?

At work, it wouldn't be allowed, but it sounds like s/he'd comply with whatever the system was there, so why not?

Congratulations on raising someone who doesn't mindlessly follow the herd.

Is it just assembly/form time they’re missing by going in late? Obviously shouldn’t be missing any lessons. Having said that at my children’s school in y13 form time and assembly can be very important as they do a lot of work on UCAS applications, super curricular work etc.
What are they doing with that time - extra study?