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To have moved closer to family and further from boyfriend

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Redfox2 · 07/10/2025 10:28

A few years ago I made the decision to move a couple of hours away from my partner of 3 years (at the time) to be nearer family.
He would like us to live together but only in his area. I don’t want to move there for various reasons. It would be further from my family again and also I haven’t lived with anyone for many years and am not sure I want to. He’s upset but won’t compromise on where we live if we lived together. We are both over 60, I have children and he doesn’t.

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BuildbyNumbere · 07/10/2025 13:01

If he won’t compromise then he’s clearly not that bothered.

Lurkingandlearning · 07/10/2025 12:39

Moving in with someone is such a big step, life changing, if it isn’t done with wholehearted enthusiasm I doubt it will be a happy experience. You’re not sure so don’t do it.

Does he know you are unsure about living with him regardless of the location?

CuckooPond · 07/10/2025 10:34

Well, of course you’re not being unreasonable not to want to move to somewhere that doesn’t suit you, and even contemplate cohabiting if you don’t want to. I suppose I’d be asking what’s in this relationship for you, and whether you want to stay in it at all? Or does it add to your life as matters currently stand? If not, I’d consider ending it.