Myself and husband are having huge problems on agreement with schools and its having a toll on dd13.
She is currently at an all girls yr9 co of e school. School is outstanding she is doing fine academically in higher cohort in year. However this year she has got quite down friendship wise. The school is 10min drive away and lots of her friends live spread everywhere however some are also local. Her best friend who she went through primary with is in her form but tbh they have been having issues for some time. I feel thr friendship has run its course.
DD has also recently been referred for OCD and anxiety issues. Most of these outside od school. She hasn't had the best home life for 2 years after my DH lost mil it was a extremely difficult time couple with the fact that myself and DH have been on the verge of separating.
DH has always hate the all girls school element school is great pastoral and they have been great helping with issues. He thinks DD should move has seen a change in her she isn't bubbly, doesn't like school (she says not the school just school) nagging to do homework etc and she isn't having a social life outside of school. She plays football at weekends and trains twice a week plus martial arts. Non school related.
She sees a couple of boys who's she is friends with outside of school too.
DH wants to move her to local academy 10 mins walk. Its large fab facilities. Not as good academically and has some behavioural issues but is local and mixed cohort. He says this will be better she's better around boys and easier to be out at weekends etc etc.
Myself and DH can't agree. DD said she doesn't want to go to local school but I am not sure if this because she is worried about the unknown and making friends rather than not wanting to leave her current school. She is fully aware that DH doesn't like her current school and feels she can't be happy there as she knows dad doesn't like it and he is vocal about it.
DH spends a lot of time generally nagging at he about texting meeting friends etc as I think he thinks she should be out all the time etc etc.
I disagree and think lots of it is teenage stuff and finding her feet. But I also now feel drained as I am sure poor DD is and just think we should move schools so we dont DH bringing up the school every week.
We are waiting for a call from hear of y9 at current school. The pastoral at current school thinks DD should have a couple of sessions of 1 2 1 prior to moving as any move could also make her ocd anxiety worse.
I am completely drained and dont know what to do for the best as I am obviously concerned about her GcSEs too.