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Murder

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Frankblackwife · 07/10/2025 06:49

Do you think you could get away with it?

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everyoldsock · 07/10/2025 21:06

ConnieHeart · 07/10/2025 20:20

I'm from the same town as Melanie Hall & used to often go to the same nightclub. I feel that MH was murdered by someone she met in the club. Was the man who kissed her ever traced? Such a shame that her friends left her on her own thinking she was with her boyfriend and vice versa. I always tell my dds never to leave any friends in their own.

I'm very intrigued as to who murdered Jill Dando. Her brother seems to think that she was just in the wrong place at the wrong time as she wasn't due to be back at her house that day. But I'm not so sure. It's almost unheard of for someone, particularly an adult, to be murdered by a stranger, plus it seemed to be so meticulously carried out

Her brother’s theory is slightly ridiculous. I can’t believe that a random person would shoot her in broad daylight, and using an originally blank firing gun that had been modified. It really is beyond belief that someone got away with killing her in a busy part of London, on a late morning. I still think it was someone from a Serbian gang.

cremello · 07/10/2025 21:04

IAmKerplunk · 07/10/2025 20:51

There was also that documentary about a man who pushed his wife off a hill (Jacob’s ledge or something) but he messed up with phoning for emergency services and/or the victim survived for a short time and told a passer-by that he had pushed her. If neither of those things had happened it would have been put down as a tragic accident

arthur's seat.

the documentary is very very well done. The victims mother is amazing

menopausalfart · 07/10/2025 20:54

@Idstillratherbepaddleboarding I once had a dream that I killed Esther Rantzen. I hid her in an airing cupboard. When I woke up, I was convinced for a good 15 minutes that I had done this.

CuckooPond · 07/10/2025 20:53

IAmKerplunk · 07/10/2025 20:49

Wasn’t there similar a good few years ago, can’t remember where. It was an arranged marriage and the groom was gay so he arranged for the taxi to be hijacked. Off to google…

Anni Dewani was murdered on her honeymoon during a carjacking in SA that was supposed to have been arranged by her husband, but he was acquitted at trial, I think.

IAmKerplunk · 07/10/2025 20:51

There was also that documentary about a man who pushed his wife off a hill (Jacob’s ledge or something) but he messed up with phoning for emergency services and/or the victim survived for a short time and told a passer-by that he had pushed her. If neither of those things had happened it would have been put down as a tragic accident

IAmKerplunk · 07/10/2025 20:49

SalonDesRefuses · 07/10/2025 20:33

Sorry, I know I'm being morbidly nosy, but what was the reason given for the man who arranged the car highjacking? They were on their honeymoon! Surely not marrying her would have been the easiest option.

Wasn’t there similar a good few years ago, can’t remember where. It was an arranged marriage and the groom was gay so he arranged for the taxi to be hijacked. Off to google…

ChocolateBoxCottage · 07/10/2025 20:47

UnctuousUnicorns · 07/10/2025 19:48

Most internal doors in houses open inwards, into the room, though? Front doors tend to open into the house too.

Yes so dh would not see me open it behind him. It wouldn't be the door pushing him down the stairs but the person hiding behind it 🤫

Idstillratherbepaddleboarding · 07/10/2025 20:45

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ConnieHeart · 07/10/2025 20:43

ChrisMartinsKisskam · 07/10/2025 20:32

If I put my conspiracy hat on I would say the the “establishment “
she was a popular powerful in her own way credible journalists
who was very well liked

I think maybe she had something on the bbc presenters who we now know are sex abusers and she took her suspicions to the wrong people

Yes, a friend of mine said she'd read that maybe JD was about to expose a story on someone and needed to be silenced. I think someone was paid to assassinate her, so that will be even harder to investigate

TheNightingalesStarling · 07/10/2025 20:43

PraisebetoGod · 07/10/2025 20:26

I've just googled too, we have two Internet cafes. Plus the library. When I got my library card many years ago I didn't need to present ID. I don't think that's changed. Obviously if you're going to have to resort to the library to get on the Internet to research murder methods, you will need to join under a fake name. Also wear a wig/mustache, you know, it's all in the details... oh and for goodness sakes, please use cash!

Now you have a digital footprint for searching for an Internet cafe so the police know where to look....

everyoldsock · 07/10/2025 20:41

menopausalfart · 07/10/2025 20:31

thousands go missing from the UK every year. I imagine quite a few are murdered where the perp is never found. I've heard it's easier to get away with murder if the person is unknown to you.

I agree, there’s probably some proportion of those people who’ve been murdered. But then what do the killers do with the corpses is what I’ve always wondered.

Blahdiblahblahr · 07/10/2025 20:39

My personal theory is there are many murders which go unpunished because people don’t realise they are murders. Deaths look accidental. I reckon it’s fully possible women killing their husbands / male partners is really under-reported because a pillow over the face at night and ‘oh no it was just a heart attack one of those things such a tragedy’. They wouldn’t be performing autopsies on all these fellas.

SalonDesRefuses · 07/10/2025 20:33

TurtleCavalryIsSeriousShit · 07/10/2025 07:01

I think I'm more likely to get away with it because I live in South Africa.

Just recently a tourist here "left his wife to continue her hike" and she fell off a cliff. Pretty sure he purposely chose this country because our police force is a joke.

A few years ago a couple came here on their honeymoon and the man arrange a car highjacking where his wife got killed.

Mind you, the police did manage to figure that one out fairly quickly, but he was an idiot.

If you're clever, I really think you could get away with it here. Sadly.

Edited to add the cliff story is alleged. It's still very recent and no-one has charged the husband with anything

Edited

Sorry, I know I'm being morbidly nosy, but what was the reason given for the man who arranged the car highjacking? They were on their honeymoon! Surely not marrying her would have been the easiest option.

ChrisMartinsKisskam · 07/10/2025 20:32

ConnieHeart · 07/10/2025 20:20

I'm from the same town as Melanie Hall & used to often go to the same nightclub. I feel that MH was murdered by someone she met in the club. Was the man who kissed her ever traced? Such a shame that her friends left her on her own thinking she was with her boyfriend and vice versa. I always tell my dds never to leave any friends in their own.

I'm very intrigued as to who murdered Jill Dando. Her brother seems to think that she was just in the wrong place at the wrong time as she wasn't due to be back at her house that day. But I'm not so sure. It's almost unheard of for someone, particularly an adult, to be murdered by a stranger, plus it seemed to be so meticulously carried out

If I put my conspiracy hat on I would say the the “establishment “
she was a popular powerful in her own way credible journalists
who was very well liked

I think maybe she had something on the bbc presenters who we now know are sex abusers and she took her suspicions to the wrong people

menopausalfart · 07/10/2025 20:31

thousands go missing from the UK every year. I imagine quite a few are murdered where the perp is never found. I've heard it's easier to get away with murder if the person is unknown to you.

Wadadli · 07/10/2025 20:27

Frankblackwife · 07/10/2025 06:49

Do you think you could get away with it?

Only if I had a piggery

PraisebetoGod · 07/10/2025 20:26

TheRealMagic · 07/10/2025 20:07

I think a bigger barrier to this one: are internet cafes still even a thing?! I've just googled and in my (large) town the only option seems to be the library, and you have to enter your library card number to use their computers so it isn't anonymous.

I've just googled too, we have two Internet cafes. Plus the library. When I got my library card many years ago I didn't need to present ID. I don't think that's changed. Obviously if you're going to have to resort to the library to get on the Internet to research murder methods, you will need to join under a fake name. Also wear a wig/mustache, you know, it's all in the details... oh and for goodness sakes, please use cash!

Sunglasses Hiding GIF by Soul Train
ConnieHeart · 07/10/2025 20:20

PinkPanther57 · 07/10/2025 16:07

Would it be easier to investigate & find Claudia & who killed Melanie Hall etc now? I imagine so.

I'm from the same town as Melanie Hall & used to often go to the same nightclub. I feel that MH was murdered by someone she met in the club. Was the man who kissed her ever traced? Such a shame that her friends left her on her own thinking she was with her boyfriend and vice versa. I always tell my dds never to leave any friends in their own.

I'm very intrigued as to who murdered Jill Dando. Her brother seems to think that she was just in the wrong place at the wrong time as she wasn't due to be back at her house that day. But I'm not so sure. It's almost unheard of for someone, particularly an adult, to be murdered by a stranger, plus it seemed to be so meticulously carried out

everyoldsock · 07/10/2025 20:14

TheRealMagic · 07/10/2025 20:07

I think a bigger barrier to this one: are internet cafes still even a thing?! I've just googled and in my (large) town the only option seems to be the library, and you have to enter your library card number to use their computers so it isn't anonymous.

Yes, they are. In certain parts of the city in the north west like the one I live in, and I saw a few in north London last year. Nowhere near as many as a decade ago but they still exist.

BlueberryLatte · 07/10/2025 20:12

No I couldn't. I wouldn't want to kill anyone and if I did I'd probably fess up immediately.

What is the AIBU btw? I'm sure someone's already asked

ConnieHeart · 07/10/2025 20:11

Frankblackwife · 07/10/2025 07:02

I don't think it would be that hard to push someone off a cliff

But that's the easy part. The police always look at the partner first, then at the rest of the family, then at everyone the victim knew. It's extremely rare to murder someone you don't know

TheRealMagic · 07/10/2025 20:07

PraisebetoGod · 07/10/2025 15:04

Images of you walking into an Internet cafe isn't evidence that you researched murder ideas or whatever though. Plus the police would have to know date time of said excursion to the cafe to go trawling through cctv but even then it proves nothing other than you were in an Internet cafe.

I think a bigger barrier to this one: are internet cafes still even a thing?! I've just googled and in my (large) town the only option seems to be the library, and you have to enter your library card number to use their computers so it isn't anonymous.

UnctuousUnicorns · 07/10/2025 19:48

ChocolateBoxCottage · 07/10/2025 19:35

I have always told dh to think twice before bending over to pick up £50 / a cheese board / skate board at the top of the stairs. The door to the bathroom is at the top of the stairs....

Most internal doors in houses open inwards, into the room, though? Front doors tend to open into the house too.

ChocolateBoxCottage · 07/10/2025 19:35

I have always told dh to think twice before bending over to pick up £50 / a cheese board / skate board at the top of the stairs. The door to the bathroom is at the top of the stairs....