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To think this is a poor excuse for men not wanting to enter these jobs?

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PrincessSophieFrederike · 07/10/2025 00:24

I came across this interesting Substack post the other day from a US feminist. She was talking about the lack of men entering professions like veterinary medicine, teaching, library science, etc which are now female-dominated, despite the fact that these were all originally male-only professions. She argues that men are put off female dominated jobs for fear of being seen as less masculine. She had a similar argument for why men are enrolling less in college there.

I also think a factor is that female-dominated workplaces may have on average communication styles which rely more on indirect messaging & ways of expressing conflict, whereas male-dominated workplaces tend to resolve conflict & compete more overtly. Ofc this is a stereotype & not true for many people, but I has some accuracy.

Overall, I do find it a bit of a frustrating excuse. I can understand men who prefer stereotypical male communication styles feeling less comfortable in a female-dominated workplace. Another factor is that women are more likely to promote woke stuff like TRA stuff which many, maybe most, men dislike. (Obvs many women do too, but unluckily women also promote it more). I can also understand concerns about making friends in a female-dominated workplace. (Ofc men & women can be friends, but they might understandably want more men around. Plus a lot of women might be suspicious of a man's female friends- sometimes with good reason.)

I have a lot of sympathy for things like the decline of traditional manual labour & spaces to meet & , the resultant rise in poor male mental health & suicide. But on this issue I'm more sceptical.

Women had to enter plenty of workplaces where until recently they had been legally banned. Sexual harassment is still a big problem in quite a few jobs. Generally women were told to toughen up, for a long time.
Whereas looking up other articles, we're told how men are 'intimidated' by going into a 60% female veterinary class. As I said above, I sympathise with some concerns they might have, but 'intimidated' seems a bit much. Ofc women can be bullies, but I doubt men who enter such jobs will be sexually harassed or seen as less competent due to their sex. Anecdotally, my gran always told me that the few male teachers at the school she taught at were very popular with the female staff. Surely it's similar for other jobs sometimes?

TLDR : AIBU to think it's a bit much for articles to talk about men being intimidated by female-dominated colleges & workplaces, whereas until recently (and some still say this) women were told to toughen up & adapt to male-dominated (and often sexist) ones?

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EBearhug · 15/10/2025 12:36

Yes, they could have been doing lots of cash-in-hand work, or casual work, rather than being in service o'r in a factory o'r profession.

ComedyGuns · 15/10/2025 08:38

Erm….

JHound · 15/10/2025 00:05

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 10/10/2025 13:19

Indeed, which is why I quoted the 1901 census results in my response to you as being the more accurate.

I've looked up the stats - according to Grok 57.6% of women over 20 were married, that is 10.7M people. We know 13% of these women worked - 1.39M.
So 9.31M did not. The unmarried women in employment would likely not continue in employment once married.

It makes a stark contrast to today where 78% of married women work and 22% do not.

Not in regular employment is not the same as not working.

Especially when “not in regular employment” is not defined.

PrincessSophieFrederike · 14/10/2025 23:50

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 10/10/2025 12:54

Agree. We don't see women banging on about representation for jobs down the sewers, because they don't matter. It's only when status is involved it seemingly becomes a problem. I say let people do what they want to do, if men are put off by female dominated occupations (which can't really be determined) it means more spaces for women.

There are drives to get women into refuse collection, actually. The number is increasing.

https://www.biffa.co.uk/biffa-insights/biffa-women-in-waste-careers&ved=2ahUKEwjvo42475eQAxVpUkEAHXW0AQQFnoECBEQAQ&usg=AOvVaw0Qt5R7Z5XvAd-5xlxiNGQX%3C/a%3E

A lot of trades & more physical jobs are trying to increase the number of women doing them, generally with some amount of success.

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IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 10/10/2025 13:19

JHound · 10/10/2025 12:22

It always pays to read the link never AI summary:

In 2018 the female labour force participation rate reached a record high of 74 percent. Reliable figuresbegan in 1851, with the first census in which it is possible to discern anything like a labour force participation rate. In 1851, 43 percent of women were reported to be in ‘regular employment’. ‘Regular’ was not defined, so that figure should be taken as a minimum of those engaged in paid employment, with no indication of hours worked.
Mid-19th century concepts of full-time employmentwere very different from our own: agricultural work was from dawn (or earlier in the case of milking) to dusk, so varied seasonally; textile factory or mining or blast furnace shifts were 12 hours; shops were open in all daylight hours, six days a week. Today’s full time eight-hour day and 40-hour week would have been considered part-time for the last 500 years.
If 43 percent of adult women were in regularemployment in the mid-19th century, then women constituted nearly one third of the total labour force(not counting unpaid domestic work). Single women and widows were much more often employed than married women, only 10 percent of whom were in regular employment.
However, while the great majority of women married, and most of those who married had children whose upbringing was certainly their mother’s responsibility, nonetheless more than half of all adult women (usually counted as 15+) were not married at any given point in time.

10% in “regular employment” but what that meant was not defined.

Indeed, which is why I quoted the 1901 census results in my response to you as being the more accurate.

I've looked up the stats - according to Grok 57.6% of women over 20 were married, that is 10.7M people. We know 13% of these women worked - 1.39M.
So 9.31M did not. The unmarried women in employment would likely not continue in employment once married.

It makes a stark contrast to today where 78% of married women work and 22% do not.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 10/10/2025 12:54

GaIadriel · 09/10/2025 20:25

60% female? Hmm, I'm betting that most male dominated jobs are way more disproportionate. Like, no way are 40% of refuse collectors female. The clue is that no feminist has ever protested the phrase 'binman'.

It's usually the same excuse too. That women are intimidated.

Agree. We don't see women banging on about representation for jobs down the sewers, because they don't matter. It's only when status is involved it seemingly becomes a problem. I say let people do what they want to do, if men are put off by female dominated occupations (which can't really be determined) it means more spaces for women.

JHound · 10/10/2025 12:22

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 09/10/2025 18:59

what percent of married women worked uk 1900 - Search

It was the first result on Bing. Google has it at 10%. What appears to be more likely is the info from the 1901 census which has married women with a listed occupation at aprox 13%. Which is still very low.

It always pays to read the link never AI summary:

In 2018 the female labour force participation rate reached a record high of 74 percent. Reliable figuresbegan in 1851, with the first census in which it is possible to discern anything like a labour force participation rate. In 1851, 43 percent of women were reported to be in ‘regular employment’. ‘Regular’ was not defined, so that figure should be taken as a minimum of those engaged in paid employment, with no indication of hours worked.
Mid-19th century concepts of full-time employmentwere very different from our own: agricultural work was from dawn (or earlier in the case of milking) to dusk, so varied seasonally; textile factory or mining or blast furnace shifts were 12 hours; shops were open in all daylight hours, six days a week. Today’s full time eight-hour day and 40-hour week would have been considered part-time for the last 500 years.
If 43 percent of adult women were in regularemployment in the mid-19th century, then women constituted nearly one third of the total labour force(not counting unpaid domestic work). Single women and widows were much more often employed than married women, only 10 percent of whom were in regular employment.
However, while the great majority of women married, and most of those who married had children whose upbringing was certainly their mother’s responsibility, nonetheless more than half of all adult women (usually counted as 15+) were not married at any given point in time.

10% in “regular employment” but what that meant was not defined.

EBearhug · 09/10/2025 21:47

PrincessSophieFrederike · 09/10/2025 20:55

I know you don't WANT men to be unemployed, but if you don't really care about men not entering jobs like medicine as much/don't think it's a big deal, then what jobs do you think they should be in?

There are still trades/manual labour but much fewer than there once were.

The men who do trades aren't usually the same men who do medicine, though I'm sure there are some who have done both.

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 20:59

PrincessSophieFrederike · 09/10/2025 20:55

I know you don't WANT men to be unemployed, but if you don't really care about men not entering jobs like medicine as much/don't think it's a big deal, then what jobs do you think they should be in?

There are still trades/manual labour but much fewer than there once were.

What? Now you’re really not making any sense.

Men can do any jobs. Do you want me to list out every possible job a man can do?

Why is the under-representation of men in some professions a cause for concern?

PrincessSophieFrederike · 09/10/2025 20:56

PollyBell · 09/10/2025 20:53

Maybe women should work more instead of relying on men for income?

Silly comment. Most women on here are urged to always work or at least have an income/backup of some sort. Financial dependence is usually discouraged on here - as a feminist, I don't encourage it. I doubt many feminist do.

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PrincessSophieFrederike · 09/10/2025 20:55

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 20:43

How did you get that I want a society with lots of unemployed men from “I don’t care what men are employed in”. I meant I don’t care if they’re a post man or a plumber, a teacher or a tree surgeon. As long as they’re employed.

But you knew that.

I know you don't WANT men to be unemployed, but if you don't really care about men not entering jobs like medicine as much/don't think it's a big deal, then what jobs do you think they should be in?

There are still trades/manual labour but much fewer than there once were.

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PollyBell · 09/10/2025 20:53

Maybe women should work more instead of relying on men for income?

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 20:43

PrincessSophieFrederike · 09/10/2025 20:37

Well manual labour jobs have gone right down. If men are saying away from medicine etc & going to college less, and also avoiding HEAL jobs (Health Education etc) then what will they be doing?

Even if you don't care what jobs men do (which seems harsh), remember that societies with lots of unemployed young men are prone to violence & unrest. Is that what we need in the age of SM influences whipping up extreme opinions?

How did you get that I want a society with lots of unemployed men from “I don’t care what men are employed in”. I meant I don’t care if they’re a post man or a plumber, a teacher or a tree surgeon. As long as they’re employed.

But you knew that.

PrincessSophieFrederike · 09/10/2025 20:43

GaIadriel · 09/10/2025 20:25

60% female? Hmm, I'm betting that most male dominated jobs are way more disproportionate. Like, no way are 40% of refuse collectors female. The clue is that no feminist has ever protested the phrase 'binman'.

It's usually the same excuse too. That women are intimidated.

Actually 27% of refuse collectors in UK are female, and this number is growing year on year. As a feminist, I think more women in trades & other similar jobs is good,,and many feminists agree. Not as much of a gotcha as you think 🤣

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=www.biffa.co.uk/biffa-insights/biffa-women-in-waste-careers&ved=2ahUKEwjvo42475eQAxVpUkEAHXW0A_QQFnoECBEQAQ&usg=AOvVaw0Qt5R7Z5XvAd-5xlxiNGQX

https://www.google.com/url?opi=89978449&rct=j&sa=t&source=web&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.biffa.co.uk%2Fbiffa-insights%2Fbiffa-women-in-waste-careers&usg=AOvVaw0Qt5R7Z5XvAd-5xlxiNGQX&ved=2ahUKEwjvo42475eQAxVpUkEAHXW0A_QQFnoECBEQAQ

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Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 20:39

CuckooPond · 09/10/2025 20:35

It isn’t. I don’t in the least mind what men choose to work as, as long as women aren’t restricted by gendered ideas about ‘women’s’ and ‘men’s jobs’. As someone who’s in the middle of a big house renovation, I would love, for instance, to be able to have a wide choice of women builders, plumbers, electricians, plasterers etc.

Me too! I get a thrill when I order an Uber and a female driver turns up. Or when they announce the pilot’s name before take-off and it’s a woman’s name. I love seeing women in so-called ‘men’s’ jobs.

PrincessSophieFrederike · 09/10/2025 20:38

GaIadriel · 09/10/2025 20:25

60% female? Hmm, I'm betting that most male dominated jobs are way more disproportionate. Like, no way are 40% of refuse collectors female. The clue is that no feminist has ever protested the phrase 'binman'.

It's usually the same excuse too. That women are intimidated.

I've heard there's a lot of sexual harassment in the bin industry, though maybe that was slander...

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PrincessSophieFrederike · 09/10/2025 20:37

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 20:23

I also want men to be gainfully employed, but I don’t care what they’re employed in! Why would we want to row back from the great achievements towards female representation in fields like medicine, law, veterinary science etc.?

I’m genuinely struggling to see the argument here?

Well manual labour jobs have gone right down. If men are saying away from medicine etc & going to college less, and also avoiding HEAL jobs (Health Education etc) then what will they be doing?

Even if you don't care what jobs men do (which seems harsh), remember that societies with lots of unemployed young men are prone to violence & unrest. Is that what we need in the age of SM influences whipping up extreme opinions?

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CuckooPond · 09/10/2025 20:35

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 19:20

Why is men choosing not to apply to jobs that are female-dominated of any relevance to this cause? What do you propose? Forced 50:50 distribution in professions, with hundreds of women in medicine, dentistry, law etc. losing their jobs?

It isn’t. I don’t in the least mind what men choose to work as, as long as women aren’t restricted by gendered ideas about ‘women’s’ and ‘men’s jobs’. As someone who’s in the middle of a big house renovation, I would love, for instance, to be able to have a wide choice of women builders, plumbers, electricians, plasterers etc.

GaIadriel · 09/10/2025 20:25

60% female? Hmm, I'm betting that most male dominated jobs are way more disproportionate. Like, no way are 40% of refuse collectors female. The clue is that no feminist has ever protested the phrase 'binman'.

It's usually the same excuse too. That women are intimidated.

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 20:23

PrincessSophieFrederike · 09/10/2025 19:44

Bc it's better for men to be gainfully employed, & I certainly don't want politicians to start saying that the only way to get men into jobs is to push women back to the kitchen. And I wouldn't put it past some of them to say that....

I also want men to be gainfully employed, but I don’t care what they’re employed in! Why would we want to row back from the great achievements towards female representation in fields like medicine, law, veterinary science etc.?

I’m genuinely struggling to see the argument here?

OneAmberFinch · 09/10/2025 20:00

I think the causation is probably mostly that men are attracted to higher status, higher pay and riskier jobs. Rather than that women enter, and a cabal of managers lower the pay in disgust.

When programming was a methodical secretarial task, lots of women did it. In the 80s when it became associated with the possibility of riches, gambling on a startup, transforming the world etc, men became interested in it.

But why is this not associated with a drop in salaries since there is an influx of labour?

Specifically the men who enter are interested because of the rewards potential and chance to make it big. They actively want to grow the field and the total rewards available. They join risky fields that might boom or might bust, no-one knows yet. They are okay with the chance of receiving 0 compensation (startup fails) in exchange for the chance of joining the rising tide.

I think relatively fewer women are okay with that deal, and want/need to work in industries which are stable, have core hours etc. This isn't the same thing as easy necessarily, but more secure and predictable. If lots of women enter a mature, stable field, the effect is more likely to be that it simply decreases wages rather than "grows the pie" rapidly as you see in, say, AI booms.

Where I think there might be a circle is that people observe the above, that men seem to be joining the sexy, high status careers (because they are) - and then flips it so if they see a lot of men in a field, they think it must be a high-status field.

PrincessSophieFrederike · 09/10/2025 19:44

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 19:10

Who gives a fuck if men don’t become doctors? Certainly not me. Every sub-standard experience I’ve had as a patient has been with a male doctor. I’m in the US where there is more choice and I always choose a female doctor for any kind of issue.

Bc it's better for men to be gainfully employed, & I certainly don't want politicians to start saying that the only way to get men into jobs is to push women back to the kitchen. And I wouldn't put it past some of them to say that....

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Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 19:20

CuckooPond · 09/10/2025 19:16

We want equality. Which is never a bad thing.

Why is men choosing not to apply to jobs that are female-dominated of any relevance to this cause? What do you propose? Forced 50:50 distribution in professions, with hundreds of women in medicine, dentistry, law etc. losing their jobs?

CuckooPond · 09/10/2025 19:16

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 19:12

It’s like we’re trying to have it both ways?

We want greater female representation but not too much because that’s “male flight” which is A. Bad. Thing.

We want equality. Which is never a bad thing.

Crushed23 · 09/10/2025 19:12

It’s like we’re trying to have it both ways?

We want greater female representation but not too much because that’s “male flight” which is A. Bad. Thing.