To be concerned about my neighbours?

Why on earth did he do that?

A neighbour of ours in her 60s or so quite fit and healthy and independent. She went away on holiday once and my ex husband called the police to check up on her. She wasn’t very pleased. He was a real nosey bastard!

Sounds like they're away @Lynn981 They could have got a taxi to the airport or train station... If they're neighbours you have little to do with, they're not going to tell you are they? I don't tell anyone when we're going away, as I don't want to advertise it to the world and his husband! We only tend to go away for 3-4 day trips these days, 5 days tops, so by the time people realise we're away, we're back! IYSWIM.

Went away for 5 days a few years ago, (before we lived where we live now,) and some nosey twat reported us to RSPCA for leaving our cats alone, not fed, and to fend for themselves etc.

She was wrong. We had a petsitter who came in twice a day, fed them, changed their water, and spent 20-30 minutes with them fussing over them, and paying them attention. Stupid woman who reported us had egg on her face, as when the RSPCA popped to see us the day we got back, the petsitter was there. (We were due late afternoon, and she was seeing them one last time a few hours before we were due back.)

RSPCA officer told the startled petsitter that they'd been informed that the cats had been left alone for 5 days. She said 'well, you have been given the wrong information! I am surprised whoever reported it hasn't seen me. I've been here loads of times in the past 4 or 5 days.' The RSPCA officer just apologised, said they would let the 'informant' know, and then he left.

I know who it was, because another neighbour told me.

tl;dr sorry! Hope they're OK. (Your neighbours.) Have you got any news OP?

I think they’re either on holiday and closed the curtains so no one can see into the empty house, dog is either with them or in kennels. Or they’re ill with flu but less likely to keep lights off and have silent dog.

Maybe I’m a shit neighbour but the only neighbour I’d notice has gone on holiday is the one with a dog, and I’d assume they’re on holiday not all dead.

If you are truly worried then knock and then ask for a welfare check. But the police will just knock on the door, they won’t break in unless they have a reason to think something has happened e.g. sounds, smells, seeing something through window

Absolutely no harm in knocking round, they may all be poorly. You could ask if they need anything feom the shops. If nothing heard when you call round I'd recommend a call to the police for a welfare check.

Im worried now. Is there an update to this?

Think it must just be the ‘thing’ atm. There’s another thread running where a poster thinks their neighbour might be a murderer as she hasn’t seen one of the house occupants for a while - she thinks they’ve buried him in the back garden and built a shed over him 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

This is how my nan was found dead, ndn had noticed the windows weren't open like she usually opened them every morning and closed them at night, so raised a concern. She had died on the sofa from an aneurysm.

A few months ago I kept hearing a bedroom alarm clock from NDN. Started to get extremely concerned when it was still going off for 6 hours! Her car was on the drive and everything was closed - curtains and blinds etc. Tried knocking and even found her on social media. She lived alone and was much older than I am. Turned out she left early to visit her parents in care and used public transport. She was so apologetic and thankful I checked in. Always knock if concerned.

Not sure OP will be coming back 🤔

Just pop over and say you were worried. I think it would be taken as kind not nosey

Definitely knock! Why in earth wouldn't you?

I leave lights on. And my curtains are ALWAYS closed. So it’s never any different. Im fully aware I am odd

Why on earth are you posting this, you haven't even knocked??? You can't be that concerned

In June my father in law fell over in his house and laid there for three days. before we found him. I wish he had a neighbour like you.

I hope all is well op.

People in our community have checked in previously when they noticed that they hadn’t seen me walking my dog in the woods (broken ankle). It was nice to know that people noticed as it can feel quite vulnerable out walking sometimes.

Do you live in Midsomer?

How awful. Your poor dad must have been traumatised too.

Could always try speaking to people?

Does the toddler go to nursery? An unplanned absence from nursery would trigger some sort of safeguarding action.

We went on holiday once when my youngest was still in nursery and I’d forgotten to tell them we were going. I’d had my phone on charge all morning and only just noticed at 11am that I had 4 missed calls. It was nursery checking to see if we were okay because he hadn’t turned up on the day as expected. They were just about to send someone over to our house to knock on the door as per their safeguarding procedure.

If toddler is in childcare, I think someone would have come to check on them by now if they hadn’t turned up in 3 days.

My guess would be they went on holiday and whoever collected them to drive them to the airport is also watching the dog.

Just knock. Say that you were worried.

I would put a webcam with motion sensor to check on them 24/7. Just to be sure.

What a state of affairs. No criticism here but what is goign wrong with people.

I have my partner at least. My AC don't give a damn.

They might feel a bit overlooked and that she is constantly watching them

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