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To be concerned about my neighbours?

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Lynn981 · 06/10/2025 22:57

My neighbours are a young couple with a toddler. I normally seem them but I haven’t for 3 days now. All their lights and curtains hahe been drawn but their cars are still on the drive and haven’t moved. Or am I over thinking? It just seems a bit unusual. We are rural and you can’t really get to anywhere without a car, not even local shop. Also they’re not abroad or anything, as I actually spoke to the lady neighbour the other day and she said someone from the council was meant to be coming round

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MorningCoffeeInBed · 06/10/2025 23:10

My cars were in the driveway when a van had taken us to the airport. If in doubt, knock and check. Better to be concerned if things seem unusual.

FaceBothered · 06/10/2025 23:10

Lynn981 · 06/10/2025 23:08

Although, I’d think if anything had happened, the dog would be barking? But it’s been silent. But it’s still quite unusual. And you really can’t get anywhere without the car around here

If the dog didn't bark when you knocked, they're probably not in.

Flibbertyfloo · 06/10/2025 23:09

Just seen re the dog. I'd definitely knock and see if it barks. Do you know anyone that might have their number? Personally I'd rather a neighbour checked on me unnecessarily then didn't check when something was very wrong.

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Lynn981 · 06/10/2025 23:08

Although, I’d think if anything had happened, the dog would be barking? But it’s been silent. But it’s still quite unusual. And you really can’t get anywhere without the car around here

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FaceBothered · 06/10/2025 23:07

You've knocked a few times, yes?

If there's no answer, maybe they are abroad due to a last minute problem/family death etc.

Flibbertyfloo · 06/10/2025 23:06

I'd be worried too given it sounds from what she said they were going to be around and it's unusual for them. Have you tried knocking?

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Lynn981 · 06/10/2025 23:06

Arlanymor · 06/10/2025 23:03

Right, sorry it wasn't clear. I am guessing you are not friendly enough with them to have a mobile number to drop a message to?

Sorry, I didn’t explain it the best! No numbers. We do help each other out with things and I usually see them very often, even just walking past with their dog. But nothing

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ChimneyPot · 06/10/2025 23:06

If you are concerned would you make up an excuse to knock on the door.
Ask if they took in a package for you or something?

Arlanymor · 06/10/2025 23:03

Right, sorry it wasn't clear. I am guessing you are not friendly enough with them to have a mobile number to drop a message to?

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Lynn981 · 06/10/2025 23:03

I meant that their lights are normally on of an evening. But they haven’t been

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Lynn981 · 06/10/2025 23:02

Arlanymor · 06/10/2025 23:01

So their lights and curtains are changing from day to night? Then they are at home - alive! - and maybe just holed up with the lurgy that is going around at the moment? It just sounds like they haven't left home for three days - which would be really normal if you're brought low with a nasty cold or similar.

No, the curtains have stayed drawn. And no lights on at all, for 3 nights

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Arlanymor · 06/10/2025 23:01

So their lights and curtains are changing from day to night? Then they are at home - alive! - and maybe just holed up with the lurgy that is going around at the moment? It just sounds like they haven't left home for three days - which would be really normal if you're brought low with a nasty cold or similar.

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Lynn981 · 06/10/2025 23:01

BauhausOfEliott · 06/10/2025 23:00

You’re overthinking. They haven’t driven anywhere for three days. So what?

Yes but I normally see them, and their lights are always on in the evenings, and they haven’t been for 3 nights. Also curtains drawn, which is unusual for them

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BauhausOfEliott · 06/10/2025 23:00

You’re overthinking. They haven’t driven anywhere for three days. So what?

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