For not wanting my partner’s hobby to take over our family life?

Just looking at the political differences rather than the problems with this bloke being a waste of space at home and doing fuck all with his new baby, I do know of one couple who were heavily involved with different political parties, she was a very prominent local tory, a councillor at various levels - parish, district and county - while he was a highly commited lib-dem member.
It was quite amusing at election times to see the two different posters stuck up in their front garden, one blue, one yellow.
(But they were older, family grown up. But I think dinner times were... interesting.)

So what? Maybe he says it's his "hobby" because he knows it would scare her if he told her it was his new life-long calling. Just because it's new doesn't mean it's not serious.

@minnieot you are young and have a whole bright future ahead of you. Ending this is 100% the right decision. I am excited for the life you will be able to build ❤️

Sadly, this relationship is going nowhere.
Please take legal advice to separate.
An extremely sad situation.
You are already a single parent,life will only get better for you & DC.

I just want to offer you a hug OP you deserve so much more

I was going to say something like this.

...maybe read all of ops posts again. He was never helping with the baby. She was basically single parenting it, while he spent all this time with his tory friends.

He is taking the absolute piss. You need to have a frank conversation.

The drinking and no contact is a dunpable offence op just because he tries to legitimize it as ‘it’s politics I’m saving the country’ he is choosing to socialize and drink with others over taking care of his wife and baby

I don't get it he likes politics you like going to the gym several times a week and leave baby with him so you have different hobbies doesn't matter what they are. I couldn't stand the gym but would I call down people who go regularly erm nope would some people hate my hobby of flight simulators on an evening yes but that's the point we are all different and allowed to enjoy different things. Your getting to do your and him his and a childhood sweetheart is always going to change it's called growing up, maturing and doing new things

@FrodoBiggins Fair enough. I thought I’d mention it just in case it could help in any way as the obsessive behaviour/Warhammer rang a few bells.

It was only a suggestion in any case, not in any way definitive, and of course PP is free to ignore me.
But that’s surely up to her, not you.

@Dearmalt pp wasn't looking for relationship advice or an armchair diagnosis about her abusive ex husband. She was sharing her experience about an obsessive partner who, it sounds like, she and her (older teenager or near adult) children are now well shot of.

@FrodoBiggins My comment was specifically directed to a pp and was meant as an aside to the main conversation.
I thought it might possibly help the pp to consider this about her ex. They have children together so it may still be relevant.
My post was not meant in relation to leaving someone or not, and was made purely in relation to the obsessive behaviours and Warhammer interest that pp mentioned and not any other behaviours.

I live with someone who is autistic, has obsessive behaviours as well as a keen interest in Warhammer. He is also a very kind person and not at all physically violent. So, to be clear, I do not make any association between autism and assault! My first post said that autistic people often like Warhammer and that is true imho.

It's completely irrelevant to this conversation though. Most people with autism aren't violent pricks about their special interests. Many people have special interests and don't have autism. Many violent pricks don't have special interests or autism.

He might also have low blood pressure or be left handed or have a missing toe, none of that is relevant to a conversation about leaving someone who treats you badly.

@TheCheekyCyanHelper so does that make it okay to physically attack her?

Just trying to offer a possible explanation for the obsessive interests. It may help to consider it for a variety of reasons. They have children together so not just a random ex.

Autism would be no justification for a physical attack of course, and I wasn’t suggesting that could be excused in any way.

That was my thought as well. He sounds autistic, and she must have messed with his things, which can cause extreme duress.

Who gives a fuck? He physically attacked her

I would ask him how his lack of support fits with the Tory values surrounding family/ whether he's worried about the concept of fatherlessness impacting his child. Danny Kruger was considered a leading light of the party before he defected and this is his whole mantra. His politics should begin at home.

I can see why, in this political climate, that his hobby has become an obsession. Doesn't help you though and it is easy for me from the outside looking in to tell you to leave as it won't get any better, but for someone who stayed in a relationship for over 15 years when I wasn't happy, i'm the last one to judge or advise.
Please be strong though, whatever you decide x

I’ll probably get jumped on for suggesting this @MissingOutOnLife, but could he be autistic? Many Warhammer fans are.

The father of my kids was obsessed with Warhammer. I've never known anyone to be so consumed by a hobby before, in the end he physically attacked me over some little models he'd painted and walked out, I was pregnant with our 3rd at the time (we already had 2 kids under 3).

15 years later, he's still as obsessed with painting little men as he was back then, he ignored our kids when they visited etc because he wanted to sit in the corner of his bedsit and paint.

I'd say get out now, his obsession with politics is not going to change!