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To have been upset at what DP said after we were intimate?

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Wifetobe26 · 06/10/2025 18:32

DP came home from the gym this afternoon and (rarely for him at the moment given he says he has lost a lot of his drive) instigated sex.

Afterwards we were chatting, and I said light heartedly that it was unlike him to want to do that on a Monday afternoon. He laughed and said the gym was full of women in leggings so he was feeling frisky.

I felt a bit shit at this…but don’t know if I’m being naive? He’s obviously entitled to think this but saying out loud seems unnecessary..

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TheatricalLife · 06/10/2025 18:45

I swear I read this exact same post on here a while ago!
That would really put me off having sex with him again. Not only in a confidence way, but also the thought of him being the ogling gym letch that everyone gets the creeps about.

Devilsmommy · 06/10/2025 18:42

So he basically told you that he was only horny because of other women in the gym? He's either thick as shit and didn't realise how it would sound or he's a nasty cunt who wanted to hurt you. Only you know if he normally says or does stuff like this on the regular. Sorry he hurt you op

AntiBullshit · 06/10/2025 18:41

The up their arse leggings would a lot of people “the urge” bit why in Hids name did he have to tell you. Why couldn’t he just say I wanted you because I fancy you - or words like that. Men can be so stupid

D0llydaydreamz · 06/10/2025 18:39

This would make me feel shit too. Play him at his own game, next time you have sex say you were watching magic mike and your all hot and bothered. See how he likes it

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Wifetobe26 · 06/10/2025 18:37

Journey1234 · 06/10/2025 18:35

I am so sorry that he said that. I would not have liked this AT ALL does he usually speak to you like this? It’s shitty and would have put me off being intimate again!

so he gets his cheap thrills at the gym eyeing up woman in leggings then comes home to his darling wife to get his rocks off presumably while fantasizing about the leggings what a creep. This is not ok .

No he doesn’t usually make comments like this in front of me, I was really taken aback he said it.

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Journey1234 · 06/10/2025 18:35

I am so sorry that he said that. I would not have liked this AT ALL does he usually speak to you like this? It’s shitty and would have put me off being intimate again!

so he gets his cheap thrills at the gym eyeing up woman in leggings then comes home to his darling wife to get his rocks off presumably while fantasizing about the leggings what a creep. This is not ok .

TomatoSandwiches · 06/10/2025 18:34

Well, you won't let that happen again will you.

Largestlegocollectionever · 06/10/2025 18:33

He’s a knob