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To think that my friend was a CF with restaurant discount?

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LeslieRunner · 06/10/2025 17:35

I went for dinner with my friend on Saturday. She moved away from our local area about a year ago - the restaurant we went to she used to go to quite regularly because it was near where she worked, and the staff recognised her.

When the bill was provided, the manager said she’d removed the cost of my friends meal (they always used to use each others businesses) and my friend was really grateful.

When we go out, we always split the cost proportionate to what we each picked. The discount for my friends meal came to over £50. So with the final bill, all she had to pay was her half of the wine we shared, and I had to pay for my meal plus my share of the wine which came to over £60.

I haven’t said this to her, but I feel like my friend could have passed some of the discount on to me and offered to pay a greater share. I would definitely have done similar…

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WickedElpheba · 06/10/2025 20:00

I don't think she's obligated to pass on the discount and saying she's a CF is a bit harsh but I can see your point and she could have paid more.

If anything I'd be annoyed if she chose to go to that place for the discount if you wouldn't have chosen it and you can suggest somewhere else next time if it doesn't benefit you.

shhblackbag · 06/10/2025 20:00

ny20005 · 06/10/2025 18:28

I’d probably have paid the full cost of the wine but not halved your meal cost

Yeah, I would have paid for the wine.

PiggieWig · 06/10/2025 19:57

I’d have shared it, but it sounds like they have a reciprocal arrangement so she’ll end up paying in kind anyway. It’s not a complete freebie.

SixtyTwoPercent · 06/10/2025 19:54

MoominMai · 06/10/2025 19:29

Tbh most people likely wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. Unless OP and friend usually always split the total meal cost straight down the middle - which most friends don’t, they usually pay for their own meals - then what’s the big deal?

I’d be happy for my friend that the staff remembered her and surprised her with a free meal. I wouldn’t be secretly calling her a CF because I didn’t benefit from her ‘good fortune’! 😅

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Bet you'd happily share the discount of a friend if they offered though Moomin.

'Making a big deal' 😂

Deadringer · 06/10/2025 19:40

She could have offered to split the remainder, I would have, but not doing so doesn't make her a CF.

RawBloomers · 06/10/2025 19:39

There’s a huge gap between being a CF and being a good friend.

I wouldn’t say she was a CF. (If anything I’d say it’s CF behaviour to think she’s obliged to pass the discount on). But I would see it as a sign she’s a bit tight, which I do not consider an endearing quality in a friend.

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 06/10/2025 19:39

Yeah - it’d piss me off too. It was an opportunity for her to be generous. I’d have shared it with you. She didn’t do anything “wrong” but it was a moment for her to show you how much you mean to her and pay fwd what she had received. *Loud raspberry blowing sound 👎

latetothefisting · 06/10/2025 19:39

I agree with the majority - it wasn't like a 50% voucher or 50% off the meal - they specifically comped her meal, because she uses their business and they use hers. They did her a favour because she helps them in other ways (whatever her business is) - which you don't, so there's no reason you should benefit from their reciprocal arrangement.

That said, I probably personally would have offered to cover the wine (unless that came to more than your meal!)

Deadringer · 06/10/2025 19:39

I think she should have paid for the wine as a gesture, rather than just paying for her half.

JacknDiane · 06/10/2025 19:34

She's not much of a pal @LeslieRunner

NoSoupForU · 06/10/2025 19:32

I think its a really odd thing to do. I'd have just split whatever the remaining cost was after the discount if I'd received one. But I'm not tight.

ZenNudist · 06/10/2025 19:31

Technically she's not wrong. T was her discount. I'd have split it equally with you.

MoominMai · 06/10/2025 19:29

SixtyTwoPercent · 06/10/2025 18:06

She went out expecting to pay £60 quid.
She had a surprise £50 discount because of a historic acquaintance (it says they use to use each others businesses - not that she'd done 3 h tutoring in return for a meal).

Most people would be really happy to share their good fortune with a friend (except some on here, obvs).

Tbh most people likely wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. Unless OP and friend usually always split the total meal cost straight down the middle - which most friends don’t, they usually pay for their own meals - then what’s the big deal?

I’d be happy for my friend that the staff remembered her and surprised her with a free meal. I wouldn’t be secretly calling her a CF because I didn’t benefit from her ‘good fortune’! 😅

popcornandpotatoes · 06/10/2025 19:21

HugelyExpensiveCrystalDuck · 06/10/2025 17:56

Can you bear the OP being tight?

Do you think that the OP should perform some service for the restaurant owner if she shares the money off the meal? Teach him phonics or sell his house?

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Op isn't being tight. They got a discount off their bill and the friend decided to keep that discount for herself. Embarrassing

SparklyCardigan · 06/10/2025 19:11

She hasn't set foot in the restaurant for a year and she accepted a free meal? She's a CF.

seaelephant · 06/10/2025 19:09

I can't imagine this happening to me and not splitting the discount with my friend. I'd view her as incredibly tight-arsed and miserly after this tbh.

saraclara · 06/10/2025 19:04

Her free meal was a gift to her from the manager. Not a discount. So no, in your place I wouldn't have expected her to share her gift with me.

On the other hand in her place, I'd have felt very awkward not, at the very least, paying for your wine.

If I was in the place of the restaurant manager/friend of your friend, I'd want my gift to her to be enjoyed by your friend, not you.

TheChosenTwo · 06/10/2025 18:56

I don’t think she’s been a CF but I couldn’t have accepted the discount just for myself and would have just said to my friend let’s split the remainder. What she did sounds a bit tight.

Vaxtable · 06/10/2025 18:51

Personally I would take any voucher or in this case reduction off and then split the bill. Both would win

samplesalequeen · 06/10/2025 18:49

I’d have halved the rest of the bill with you

Ddakji · 06/10/2025 18:45

Wowsers, what a tightarse. I would totally have split the remaining bill with you, because I’m not a twat.

TwistedWonder · 06/10/2025 18:39

Personally I’d have split the total bill in half. I do get that her me was free but I’d feel like a tight arse not sharing the discount

YourOliveBalonz · 06/10/2025 18:37

outerspacepotato · 06/10/2025 17:58

The restaurant comped somebody they knew and they'd done business with and vice versa.

No, you weren't entitled to a discount because she was comped. It was a personal favour.

She wasn’t entitled to a discount from the restaurant no, but that’s not what’s being discussed.

JohnBullshit · 06/10/2025 18:35

She wasn't cheeky as such, since her actions didn't result in you having to pay more. It was a bit tight-fisted though. I presume that as she expected to pay around £60 that she's not on the bones of her arse. It would have been more gracious to share the discount with you.

MyElatedUmberFinch · 06/10/2025 18:35

She wasn’t in the wrong but it would have been a nice gesture to share her discount.