To think that my friend was a CF with restaurant discount?

Thank you ,yes exactly, l think it comes from when we first went out somewhere in her car and l insisted buying the coffees etc as she'd driven us but that was a short journey / small amount involved..

She may well have thought it would look odd or rude to the manager if she paid for part of her meal after they gifted it. So i'd say it was likely a dilemma and give her a pass on this occasion. You cant please all of the people all of the time.

I really wouldn't be in a rush to go out with someone so mean again.
It isn't the amount, its just shabby behaviour.
I would judge her as I certainly would share it, so would my friends.

It's not a discount to be shared. It's a gift to the friend. She got comped her meal because she's developed a relationship with the owner over time and she's likely spent a lot of money in there. I actually think OP is the cheap one expecting her friend to pay half her meal because of it.

Why would OP feel entitled to part of that? I really don't get this at all. Maybe comping works different there.

That's really CF of her! Meals are one thing, but this would really grate. Ask why she thinks you should share a discount that would mean your ticket becomes more expensive than if you didn't? It makes no sense.

I have a friend we go on a shopping trip occasionally and always try and split the cost. That's fine but l have a discount Railcard and get some free journeys, some half price, so significant saving on my rail ticket. She will often say 'ooh that's (half the total amount of our fares ) each ' So if total joint fare is £60 and mine is £20 she"ll say that"ll be £30 each . Whilst l don't mind splitting the cost of meals/refreshments etc l think this is really cheeky. I've resisted taking her up on it so far but it is becoming more and more an issue as she keeps suggesting it.

I would personally have split the remainder of the bill as it would have felt like the right thing to do. Having said that I think the restaurant could have handled it better by giving a percentage off the total bill.

If it were me, I would have split the remainder of the bill 50/50, but then I’m not tight.

I've already set upthread I would have covered the wine, but playing devil's advocate...

If she'd been given a free meal because she went there regularly and had a loyalty card so every 5 meals you get one free would you have expected her to still pay for half your meal?
How about if she was given a free dessert or glass of wine because it was her birthday? Would you have expected her to share it with you?

What if it was bad luck she suffered? If the server had spilled something over her so comped her meal on that basis would you have still expected her to share?
What if you'd both driven and parked in the same place and she got a parking ticket but you didn't - would you have paid for half of hers?
How about the same, but she'd given you a lift?

How far do you take being nice vs being fair?

Hmmm dunno. I'd have seen it as a discount for both of us, but I think I can see why she saw it as just for her. Is she usually quite tight?

The free meal was a gift to her from the owner not a discount off your bill so no, not cheeky. Presumably she may gift him something from her business in due course or has in the past at her own expense.

What’s she like as a person generally? Generous or no?

She didn't share her good fortune with you. What kind of friend does that? I wouldnt be seeing her again.

I would have shared it but this friend was possibly feeling grateful to the restaurant owner and thought it would be wrong not to keep the whole discount - OP doesn’t know what her thinking was.
I slightly blame the giver of the discount. Better to discount the whole bill or make the wine free for both.

For me it would hinge on whether she knew, or could have expected they'd do this - if so it would seem a bit mean to suggest going, knowing only you'd have to pay

Personally I can't imagine not sharing the "discount" but we're all different and I agree she had no obligation to do this

I think you're the CF for expecting it.

Hmm I’m torn. On one hand I think yeah, fair play to her, she was the one given the meal for free by her “contact” if you will, so why shouldn’t she relish in that? She got that meal for free because of business dealings she’s done in the past, it’s nothing to do with you etc. She should be able to relish in her treat.
On the other hand I do think she could’ve maybe offered to pay for the wine or something at the very least, just so there’s a bonus for both of you.
A few years ago I went out for dinner with a friend, we got a drink, main and desert each. When we got brought the bill, they’d forgotten to put her main on it. She was delighted that she only had to pay for her coke and her desert. I do remember thinking at the time, it would’ve been nice to split the bill equally so we both could enjoy the restaurants mistake, but also wasn’t too fussed as I just thought “ah well, luck of the draw,” kind of thing.

I'd have shared the discount with a friend.

If I have a voucher, I always take it off the cost and then split the remainder of the bill.

It would feel mean to do otherwise. 99% of the time, my friends and I split the bill between us. The only time we might change that is if it's a family outing, then we pay per person. I've only one child, two friends have two, another has four.

My sister would have done that (share the discount I mean)

I never said that I wouldn’t share myself I just said I wouldn’t cry about it 😆

Another thread full of very strange black and white responses that in no way reflect true friendship. Of course the discount should have been shared! I can’t imagine this scenario with a friend, and not going halves on the final bill, and toasting our good luck!

Indeed, but I add also:

her consequences to bear

which is op feeling a bit hard done by

im with op. I would have shared the discount

If I brought a voucher i would share but this id probably buy my friend a drink after

When the bill was provided, the manager said she’d removed the cost of my friends meal (they always used to use each others businesses) and my friend was really grateful.

I bet she was!! Christ.

I'd definately would have split the final bill with you.

I would have felt I was subsidising both companies.

Fuck that.

I can't get past this fabulous image of her brooming his dog! Or filling it. I wonder what one would use for that.......